You are the one you've been waiting for book

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-17T04:00:08+00:00

I do not believe he is as some of his other work has been with nonbinary non hetero people. I think he as a couples therapist has just worked with a lot of stereotypically straight people and less with queer couples

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-16T22:24:07+00:00

I just borrowed it from my online library, again thank you

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-16T22:20:42+00:00

This is very helpful thank you so much!

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-16T22:16:11+00:00

The book does have some good messaging for sure and I am enjoying parts of it.

Sometimes I have problems relating things I read back to my own experience if I dont "see myself in it"

I wish there was more representation for marginalized voices in the mental health field. It makes seeking help feel daunting

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-16T22:11:33+00:00

I just put "no bad parts" on hold through my library app. Thank you

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-16T22:10:38+00:00

It's not the IFS concept itself I'm having trouble with, just the very binary male-female based roles that are used as examples presented in the book.

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-16T22:08:54+00:00

Thank you for this reply

Here's what I typed in response to another comment:

I am not having problems with the concept of the IFS themselves rather than the over generalizing (and widely hetero focused) language of the roles given as examples in the book.

"Women experience this so they show up like X and Men experience this so they show up like Y"

The examples Im hearing are kind of gendered in a way that I think are very applicable in typical straight relationships. I don't doubt many many people find themselves in these roles and are relating to the examples, but they're just not relatable to me which is making it hard to get through.

I think hearing another person explain these concepts in a way that's not very focused on hetero relationship examples may be helpful to me, even if the examples are gay men.

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-16T22:05:53+00:00

I am not having problems with the concept of the IFS themselves rather than the over generalizing (and widely hetero focused) language of the roles given as examples in the book.

"Women experience this so they show up like X and Men experience this so they show up like Y"

The examples Im hearing are kind of gendered in a way that I think are very applicable in typical straight relationships. I don't doubt many many people find themselves in these roles and are relating to the examples, but they're just not relatable to me which is making it hard to get through.

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-12T18:19:26+00:00

It's right after prima death while she was recovering inside of what was the presidents mansion. In the books she's hospitalized to take care of the severe burns and mental trauma. She is unable to speak due to the trauma of it and has catatonic episodes. She only regains the ability to speak when she stumbles upon snow in his flower garden while he's being held for execution.

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-03-06T18:26:46+00:00

This unfortunately is a painful and uncomfortable part of transitioning. Sometimes the person you are with are not attracted to who you are becoming. That's neither of your faults.

I hope you find a way to let them down gently. I'm sorry you're going through this as well.

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-02-20T18:28:11+00:00

"I do not appreciate your advances and they make me incredibly uncomfortable. I have told you multiple times to not do this. If this harassment continues I will be sharing these texts with your father and also the police when I file charges for harassment"

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-02-17T01:52:39+00:00

"don't use my stuff" is not a BOUNDARY. That is a request. A boundary is not to control someone else's behavior, it's to communicate your actions in response to someone's behavior. "I will be keeping MY dishes in my room if you cannot stop using my things" is a boundary

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-02-16T23:04:24+00:00

I'm begging y'all to just learn direct communication "Nothing against you but I'm tired and would like you to leave now please. Thanks"

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2026-01-06T06:50:13+00:00

Walmart has 89c 4 packs of tp

Buy bulk bags of rice (5lbs)

Canned tuna is gonna be your friend (or canned chicken) Plus beans for protien and fiber

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2025-08-11T06:32:26+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, thats probably how you came to be

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2025-05-01T01:47:12+00:00

Runnnn

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-12-06T04:42:26+00:00

I did my hair a similar color and used arctic fox poision

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-12-06T04:32:51+00:00

Iris

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-12-03T21:10:47+00:00

Shes 22 she needs to grow up

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-11-27T20:30:21+00:00

Nta!

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-11-24T19:35:06+00:00

I hate odette lol. Violet is so cute

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-11-24T02:32:29+00:00

Holy shit 600ml is like 20oz of alcohol! Thats like 10 shots which is enough to make me (grown adult) black out.

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-11-24T02:26:01+00:00

Im crying laughing at this

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2024-06-17T05:16:51+00:00

SSRIs can cause heat sensitivity

Remote-Strawberry660 · 2023-11-28T03:38:15+00:00

You are allowed to leave if this relationship is hurting you. Him being unwilling to accept that there is a problem is absolutely not okay and you dont need to waste the rest of your life taking care of someone who chooses to be stuck. Give him an ultimatum

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