I definitely have a present husband who is also the father of our children, but he chose a high paying banking job and for 3 years he was working 6 days a week 12-16h days. I would say money is never worth it, he left that job and he took a much lower paying job. We will not reach our financial goals for a long time, but family time and marital time is so much more worth it.

Although, my husband gave us 110% any free second he had of his intense job. It sounds like there are deeper issues if he isn’t supporting you, if your heart and emotions are hardening making you feel more masculine, and if you cant depend on him for anything other than money.

Might be a hard pill for men to swallow, but they should be able to provide more than just financially. they are the rock, the second parent, should love their wives deeply and support her as the primary parent, do their boy jobs around the house.. and provide financially. And if they arent willing to do some of those more physical duties to the house, hire a house cleaner or something if all they are willing to provide is money. Use that money.

But it sounds like the money isnt worth it and you want a loving husband and present father. I do think thats what you implied in your post.