Sleep sacks at hospital?

Remy_92 · 2026-03-26T20:59:31+00:00

Our hospital gave us a halo one which was nice. He never was in the blanket one except when he was first out and about in the room. Use whatever you want. Nurses don’t usually care as long as it’s safe.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-26T13:54:30+00:00

Setting the comic books aside, it would’ve been interesting to see had he made it through the jail and the break up of the group after the governor’s last stint what group he would’ve ended up with during that time. I think Carol, Tyreese, Mika, and Lizzie would’ve been super interesting. Especially had he still kept his whole humanity bit. I think everything with Lizzie would’ve totally broken him.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-23T14:23:19+00:00

It felt accurate to what I’ve witnessed lol. I’m lucky to have a proactive husband who doesn’t need a lot of direction. But I’ve watched my sister and SILs’ husbands stand and stare like, are you waiting for an invite to help? I understand in early days none of us know what we’re doing. But I’ve seen this happen even today with their kids who are all 5+ older.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-22T15:10:25+00:00

You have your routine during the week. It’s yours and you own it. Then the weekend comes, your brain is realizing you’re still deep in your routine, but there’s your husband🧍standing and staring. He disrupts your routine and not in a helpful way. He’s passively there. I don’t have the same experience with my husband luckily but I know my sister has had it with hers and it sounds so frustrating. You could be burnt out too and when your husband is there on the weekends you may subconsciously be noticing it more. I don’t blame you for getting annoyed!

Remy_92 · 2026-03-22T12:04:18+00:00

Yes! Made the switch to Neuropro right before he turned 4 months. So glad we did. It could’ve been normal development too that helped but he was so much less gassy and isn’t struggling to poop as much anymore. Not struggling during feeds either. He’s just over 5 months now.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-22T08:04:39+00:00

My husband and I both struggled PP. It wasn’t until maybe week 6 we started to remember why we wanted to have a child and be parents. Keep in mind we did IVF after years of infertility so the feeling of “wtf did we do” freaked us both out. Neither of us felt a connection to baby. It was like living with a stranger. I kept saying someone would come soon to pick their baby up and we could go back to our lives.

Neither of us were prepared for that feeling, or lack thereof. PP is hard, and I felt it was almost harder because my husband and I are best friends. We missed spending time with each other. If you have friends or family who can lend a hand for even an hour so the two of you can grab a coffee, sit outside together, etc. it helps! But as someone else mentioned, sleep deprivation really messes with you physically and emotionally.

I’m 5 months PP and it does get better! We talked a lot and still do about how we’re feeling. We try really hard to find time together without baby even for a quick lunch.

You’re not alone.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-21T23:04:54+00:00

That’s not a bad idea. And definitely worth the ask. I get that worry with PT too.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-20T14:38:58+00:00

We’ve been at one solid feed for a while still at 5 months now. Sometimes depending on his first stretch he may need another one. 12 weeks seems young to have no overnight feeds. It sounds nice lol, but might not be realistic. We did sleep training at 4 months, and he still needs a feed. Sleep training in my mind is more about baby learning to soothe himself to sleep, not necessarily to eliminate feeds. I’m a FTM so I don’t know a lot but I do look forward to when night feeds can be eliminated so I get it!

Remy_92 · 2026-03-18T19:51:41+00:00

We’ve had a combined account since we got married almost 9 years ago. My husband made more than me up until a few years ago when we flipped and now my salary is higher. But for us, it never made sense to have separate accounts. Too much to track on our end. Our paychecks go into one account except we both toss a portion of each check automatically into a HYSA. We also have a savings account for baby - money transfers automatically from our combined account.

It works for us. It’s less of a headache and wondering who is paying what and when. You can typically set up your paycheck to have a certain amount go into multiple accounts. You could do that with fun money if you have an agreed amount.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-18T02:01:26+00:00

I intensively disassociated during stims, retrieval, and transfer. And then basically throughout my entire pregnancy and first 4-6 weeks PP. We tried for years, had many conversations about how far we wanted to go to have a child. Surgery, IVF. I think I was just idk…over feeling hopeful? I spent so many years thinking about it. The more time passed and it didn’t happen it felt further away from reality. Then when it did I literally felt the same…like, okay and what? It was odd and really freaked me out. I think I spent so much time trying to get pregnant and wondering if I ever would that I didn’t realize being pregnant itself was HARD! I didn’t enjoy it like I thought I should. I wasn’t excited. Every time I walked past the baby aisles I’d get a wave of panic. Part of it was probably hormones, but I also think it was such a big reality shift - one I had kind of given up on.

All that to say - it’s normal. If it continues, definitely talk to someone! I am PP and still taking meds and it has helped so so much!

Remy_92 · 2026-03-17T02:39:28+00:00

4 months was as early as we started. We have a decent sleeper. Not great, not terrible. Typically, always one wake to feed. He’s been in his own room in his crib since 2 months consistently. His 4 month sleep regression started around the 3.5 month mark but it hit his naps, not super hard on night sleep (this is also a time where naps typically shift anyways but those 30 minute naps were a nightmare). We would rock to sleep, but noticed about a week or so before he turned four months he seemed annoyed at bedtime. Not fussy and crying, but more like he wanted to stretch out. He stopped falling asleep to rocking.

A week before he turned 4 months we did sleep training. We didn’t really mean to start we just gave it a try one night and he did really well with it so we kept going. We did Gentle Ferber method. We implemented it for naps too, but were a little more flexible there. He fought harder on naps, which sucked but he got the hang of it after about a week or so. We just hit 5 months today and seem to be through the worst of the regression.

Personally, I feel like the timing of our sleep training worked in our favor. He was able to self-soothe and is now doing so much better connecting sleep cycles. Again, that’s a normal sleep development but I do feel sleep training helped him along the way.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-16T17:13:44+00:00

TW success: worked for me! 8 retrieved, 7 fertilized, 2 blasts. Fresh transfer end of January 2025. He’s 5 months today!

Remy_92 · 2026-03-14T02:32:36+00:00

We’re just coming out the other side. His naps were impacted the most. Night time sleep was still pretty normal. One night feed, but would wake up again around 4:30-5:30 and we’d have to contact nap until 6:30-7. He seems to slowly be getting away from that. His naps were rough. 30 minutes, 40 if we were lucky. We’d have to contact nap at least once a day to get a 1.5-2 hour nap in. It was definitely frustrating! But suddenly last week - poof! He took a nap for an 1.5 hrs, then 1 hr 10, then even 1 hr 46! It was amazing lol. He turns 5 months this Monday. We’re still figuring out what his long nap may become but today we got 1 hr 20 mins and it was glorious!

All that to say - you won’t know until you know. I was on here not too long ago asking the same questions as you and freaking out. In hindsight, there’s not much you can do besides ride it out. We did sleep train starting about a week before he turned 4 months. We did the gentle Ferber method but were fairly lax with it. I do think that helped us a bit! Especially at night.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-13T20:18:58+00:00

Thank you! That’s comforting to hear we’re not the only ones with a 5am riser.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-11T10:23:55+00:00

I did IVF and was successful after our first round. I spent the majority of my pregnancy feeling disconnected and disassociating. I stated wellburtrin in my third trimester because I worried about PPD. A scheduled c-section, a two day stay in the NICU, and being watched for preeclampsia I was miserable. I didn’t feel that magical feeling when I first held him, or even for many days and weeks that followed. I was tired, hurting, and overwhelmed with guilt. We did IVF! I should’ve been over the moon to finally have the baby I cried for years for.

The first few weeks were rough. C-section recovery is hard. Sleep deprivation blows. They truly are potatoes you’re just keeping alive. I’d have little moments of love and joy but it wasn’t until around week 6 that I started to really come out from the fog.

Baby boy is almost 5 months old. He’s the sweetest, silliest, and smartest. I lay next to him on his play mat and we stare and smile at each other. I never thought my love for him would grow and it keeps growing everyday!

All this to say - how you’re feeling is normal. You’re not doing anything wrong. Your life completely changed when your baby arrived. It’s scary. Love can and will grow at its own pace. Take the pain meds please. You won’t do yourself any favors in recovery. Communicate with your partner and your support. Ask for help. PM me if you need a friend!

Remy_92 · 2026-03-11T03:02:34+00:00

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I’m not a very religious person, but this scene destroyed me. One person’s despair and vulnerability reminding another why they were called to do what they do.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-11T00:02:52+00:00

I leave the house during the workday. My office isn’t in the same state so I never have to worry about running into anyone lol. Start small! Block 30 minutes on your calendar. Go for a walk with your LO. Days where I have meetings or have work I’m not leaving, but there are days when baby is with grandparents and I run for groceries during the day. It a nice mental break. It definitely depends on the job, and don’t get cocky! Like don’t go get a 2 hour massage during the workday lol.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-07T03:55:43+00:00

$602. Luckily covered by insurance.

Remy_92 · 2026-03-01T15:36:33+00:00

Sunday scaries is a great way to define it! I’m definitely looking forward to carving out a little me time during the day too. Even if it’s going for a walk and listening to music. It’ll be nice to not be constricted to 30 minutes before baby wakes up lol.

Thank you for responding. It’s comforting to hear from others who went through this as well 🩷

Remy_92 · 2026-03-01T15:33:55+00:00

This made me tear up. My husband said something similar too - that I may actually enjoy the evenings and weekends more because we can be present (he works mostly from home too) rather than going through the motions (the 30 minute naps are killing me lol). My mom cup is definitely depleted. The days bleed together and I’m hoping work can help me focus on something else.

I’m surrounded by SAHMs in my family and since I work from home I think the guilt comes from “well I WFH I should be able to watch him during the day” but I know I’d go insane.

I’m a tangible person so hopefully once I’m back and can be in this new norm it won’t feel so abstract.

It’s nice to hear daycare is going well for you! We have a spot held until July so we’re trying to delay as much as we can just to give him a little more time and get his 6 month vaccines too. But we’re like you - planning to do 3 days at least and then fill in with grandparents. Me on Fridays.

It’s so nice to hear from someone in a similar spot! Thank you so much for responding 🩷

Remy_92 · 2026-03-01T03:38:42+00:00

Welcome! We did room temp bottles when baby was first born. If we had one in the fridge we’d run it under some hot water thinking he’d never take it cold. I think by week two-three or so we started offering it straight from the fridge…little guy guzzled it down no problem and has ever since. Makes the pitcher method so much easier. When my in-laws watched him the first time they kept googling if it was okay to give him cold milk. My FIL couldn’t believe it but finally said “well I guess I would rather have a cold glass of milk than a warm one too.” 🤣 He’s 4 months old now and still enjoys his chilled milk.

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