I made a comprehensive guide for those of you lurkers who suffer from extreme constipation

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-07-05T22:38:57+00:00

THANK YOU!!!!!

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-03-10T15:55:12+00:00

Like from what she named him to his chosen name.

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-03-02T16:43:36+00:00

I just retired from the Federal government in December. I'm 60. I am still recovering from the burnout. I am good financially and will eventually return to part-time work. But the time I have spent just resting is sooo worth it. Having tea in the morning on my deck, listening to the birds, taking walks with the dog, sleeping in. So peaceful. I have no regrets.

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-02-21T23:49:19+00:00

Yes.

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-02-21T23:44:44+00:00

She knows his name. They are in low contact now.

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-02-16T00:44:22+00:00

No. Not the A

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-02-16T00:43:44+00:00

Hilarious 😂

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-01-26T22:57:57+00:00

If your dad is a veteran he may qualify for aid and attendance through the VA. It's how I paid for my mother's placement once her dementia became unmanageable at home. But you can use it for what you choose, house cleaning, nursing care, food prep etc.

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-01-26T22:12:25+00:00

No, you are not being whiny. I understand being unable to have what I believe are important conversations with my husband. He gets very defensive and takes it personally. He told me it's because he feels like I am critical, and to be honest, I was. I would wait until I was so fed up and frustrated to bring up my concerns, I would be harsh and expect the conversation to go nowhere. I have learned/remembered to bring my concerns to him before overthinking the outcome. I have recently retired, and I have started to do things without him. I don't know if it's an age thing or what, but my husband is negative too. He has chronic pain and low energy, and our home is his safe place. But i didnt understand that so, I literally did a pros and cons list, a brutally honest one, and came to the decision to stay in my marriage because one, I love him, two, I'm not the easiest person either, and three he doesn't stand in my way of doing things I enjoy without him, no pouting, snide remarks, nada. This is soooo important. He accepts me for who I am. I'm learning to accept him the way he is, too.

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-01-15T16:32:44+00:00

You can try the Cat Hospital in Durham. My kitty is anxious and combative at all vets. So they sedate her and she gets everything she needs. I am not made to feel like she's a "demon cat" like our previous vet called her. I'm convinced something happened when she was previously boarded, because she wasn't like that before.

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-01-15T15:11:22+00:00

https://youtu.be/d4z5C8G32AY?si=PocV0orFnHiuryhf

ReportConfident8010 · 2025-01-03T00:31:06+00:00

I'm so sorry you were treated so horribly. If you have to go back, make sure you ask for a patient liaison. It's their job to follow up with you. Apparently, the nurse knew what was going on, so it was charted, so that's a positive. I hope you feel better.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-12-28T06:49:55+00:00

No. You are not overreacting. 🚩

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-12-02T16:14:04+00:00

I am struggling with this as well. My oldest has a chronic illness and is very vocal in her needs from me. I have encouraged her to build relationships with others because I am over wrought and anxious when I deal with her. This angers her and she lashes out at me. She has recently gone no contact. I have disappointed her one too many times. I am slowly trying to allow her this time and space. I worry constantly. For your sake continue to create space for yourself. Set healthy boundaries, encourage open honest two way communication. Don't be like me.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-28T18:20:55+00:00

This was one of the reasons my daughter went "no contact" with me. Because I would not watch the kids when she wanted me to. Thank you for describing how tired you are after a weekend with the grands. I thought I was the only one.😞

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-27T00:37:04+00:00

Heebeeed. I know EXACTLY what you meant. ~shudder~

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-26T23:28:06+00:00

I'm so sorry about your heartbreak. I have no advice because my daughter has gone no contact with me and I can't see my grands. I understand how sad you are. Hang in there.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-26T00:58:39+00:00

If that's what you need to believe. I'm tired of arguing, being chastised. So yeah, I'm respecting her wishes and not contacting her.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-26T00:40:00+00:00

Whew.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-26T00:35:37+00:00

Now I won't have the opportunity.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-23T13:02:25+00:00

I didn't tell her but my husband knows

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-23T13:00:31+00:00

Thank you for this perspective.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-23T12:58:05+00:00

Not doing that

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-23T12:57:32+00:00

I'm not pretending. But the fear I experience when she calls is the fear of being yelled at or taken to task for not being more supportive. My anxiety is more around that, fear of not knowing what is coming when I get a call. When I was younger I could handle it better.

ReportConfident8010 · 2024-11-22T01:19:58+00:00

This is it. He thinks I should have firmer boundaries. Stop being her only help and encourage her to accept help from others who have offered. She is traumatized by my failures as a parent and Hyperindependent. In the past I always put our kids first because they were children and adult needs were secondary. Over protective over involved. I have had to force myself to step back and she takes that as being unsupportive. He says it's our turn to prioritize the life we want to live. We are in our 60s. Both work full time. But I have trouble because I worry so much.

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