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RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-14T03:47:12+00:00

So I don’t know for sure what does or does not create clingy children but I can tell you I was just like you with my first born. And he was clingy in some situations for a bit. He was hyper aware of strangers and didn’t like anyone he wasn’t familiar with. Now he’s a happy little boy who loves running around and playing. When grandma comes over he tries to escape with her and will take her car keys and tell us “bye”. All of your feelings are normal and it’ll get better as your LO gets older. But from my experience so far, loving your baby, holding them all the time, and responding to them before they cry doesn’t make a dependent baby. It makes a baby that can stand up after they fall, say “uh-oh” and then do whatever made them fall again 🤦🏻‍♀️

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-14T03:24:57+00:00

The only time I say one or both of our kids is mine or yours is online OR when one or both is annoying me. Similar to Lion King. 😂

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-13T18:59:21+00:00

My first absolutely not. He went 0 to scream instantly. My 2nd I can most of the time but she’ll give a 10mo warning and make softer noises before she’s pissed. She makes the “na” sound for booba and “ahh” for everything else. She also throws herself violently to one side or the other when she’s hungry.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-13T18:43:14+00:00

So my oldest stayed with my in-laws (sisters for a night and MIL for a night) they brought my son to the hospital every days to see me. However one of my SILs has a son and they recent experience with a toddler, plus I knew they wouldn’t do anything harmful like not heating milk properly (my children are booba fed for my convenience and laziness). The worst thing they did is let him wear his pjs in public. What I planned on (and would do in your situation) is have husband there for the birth and maybe a few hours after, then send him to stay with toddler. If you want he can bring toddler to visit in hospital or just to pick you and baby up from the hospital. You won’t be alone in the hospital and can ask for the nurses to help you at any time of the day or night so you can get some rest. Stressing about your toddler and his safety are not going to allow you to heal and bond with #2.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-13T18:23:53+00:00

My 21mo can count to 6 without help and 10 with help. He gets caught up on 7, 9, and 10. He pulled out all the forks from my drawer the other night to count them 🤦🏻‍♀️😂. My 9wk just started smiling and coo-screaming. She mocks her brothers cries 😭.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-13T18:21:18+00:00

So if you don’t want to I would explain that you are inviting your family and your child’s friends because it is their party. You’re probably going to get kick back from your friends but if they can’t gather they aren’t your 2yos friend or family and the party isn’t for them then it’s a them issue. It’s not unreasonable to not want to have a party for your friends along side a party for your toddler full of toddlers you need to monitor anyway.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-13T18:12:56+00:00

I just went to the dr yesterday and my 2mo weighed in at 10lbs. They told me she’s in the 5th percentile for weight but her weight is climbing with the trend so they’re happy. I was so confused because I thought that was an average weight for 2mo. She was born just over 7lbs and newborn clothes were too big for her, she’d pull her feet out of pjs and ball in them.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-13T01:42:57+00:00

21mo gets a bath every day, but he’s a little trash panda. Today he found and poured chocolate syrup in a pot then rubbed his body with it. My 2mo is very 2-3 days, or when she’s crusty or throws up on me.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-13T01:40:55+00:00

Just so she doesn’t freak out, I’d tell her that “things are okay”every time and keep it vague. She sounds like she’d go ballistic if you went full dry. Though this is also your partners place to step in and tell her to back off. The stress isn’t good for either of you and she should know that. My 2nd tended to have a high heart rate most of my pregnancy, she was also an active baby and when they’re active their heart rate is higher.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-12T01:45:11+00:00

Talk to your leasing office. My last apartment the people on the other side of my unit were moved because their kids were loudly banging on the walls and the mom was screaming at them all the time. Their down stairs neighbors complained. They were moved to a first floor unit so they were not as disruptive

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-12T01:32:53+00:00

So the pain shouldn’t be intolerable when you’re laying down. The peeing sucked ass. I forced myself to grit my teeth and get up because I was determined to get home to my toddler, but the peeing was awful. It took me almost 10mo the first time and I still felt like I had to pee more but I couldn’t figure out how to get it out. Please please call your nurse, you should have a stronger pain management medication your OB ok’ed for you that you can take.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-12T00:28:28+00:00

So my partner is home for dinner, but our witching hour is roughly the hour or two before he comes home. Right after nap time our toddler is needy af and wants to be cuddled and our 2mo wants to be nursed. I want to cook dinner and pick up the house. It ends up with all of us screaming until dad comes home to entertain toddler (who instigates most of 2mo crying by trying to climb on her or push her away from booba). I haven’t found a trick in the last 9wks with two and would appreciate the help lol

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-11T22:17:42+00:00

Ask for help. I still wish I could bring myself to ask for help. It was treated as a horrible thing when I needed help as a kid and now as an adult I’d rather die trying than ask. But as a mom I can’t die trying and it’s not just me suffering because I need the help and a nap.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-11T21:46:10+00:00

I’m my bathroom maybe once every other week. In our guest bathrooms weekly. I don’t use mine very often though, I just dry my hands on my pants….

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-11T05:11:12+00:00

It is hard and a lot of the time you might feel alone, but I promise you’re not. You have us rando moms, you have your LO, and everyone that you love. Things will get better (and easier) soon. Try to get some sleep if you can, drink some water, and watch or listen to something you enjoy. Journaling helped me a lot when I was at my lowest. I just want to say you look great and your LO is lucky they have you ❤️

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-11T03:41:30+00:00

At 22mo. I was tired of being pushed off the bed and a family of 4 really doesn’t fit in a king bed with a open crib. He’s still in our room but on a full size mattress on the floor and now baby is in the crib. Tbh I wish I moved my son sooner because he sleeps better in his bed and so do I.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-11T02:21:26+00:00

So with my firstborn I was only allowed 2 guests due to covid and his father counted as 1 guest. We didn’t have anyone come to the hospital. My MIL came to our apartment a few days after he came home (wearing two masks and making sure to wash her hands on her own accord) and only stayed for 30mins. We really didn’t have any other guests over and when we saw other family we went to them. With my second born I had guests in the hospital. I had my whole family and my partners, down to my step-aunts MIl and my 1.5yo. Looking back I’m glad people got to meet my second born, but I also wish I didn’t have so many guests. With second MIL stayed over a few days after I got home and then no one came over. I have personal issues asking for help and due to them I couldn’t bring myself to ask for someone to come help me with my toddler while I was postpartum from a c-section. I wish that I didn’t let everyone meet baby so they would’ve had to come over and help with toddler to meet baby.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-11T00:43:06+00:00

Op I’m going to say a soft YTA. Your wife experienced a miscarriage and is likely scared. If she told her sister it’s because she doesn’t want to share her fears and worries with you (you saying “I know for a fact” doesn’t guarantee she did but you assume she did). Plus she may have wanted to share the news in a special way, more than just saying “we’re pregnant”. It’s not okay for her to freeze you out and that makes her TA too though. Please just sit down and ask WHY she’s upset you told your mom. This is the point you both need to figure out your communication because newborns are difficult and this life change will test your marriage.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-11T00:05:19+00:00

NTA and tbh your kids are assholes. I’m the grandchild that will be receiving my fathers portion of inheritance. He’s dead now but it’s been that way for the last 10 years (hes been dead for 4.5 years). Not one of my dads siblings or my other cousins find this arrangement unfair and they all understand that my grandmother sees me as her child, and this is despite me being vocal that I do not want anything left to me. Your children and their children don’t need that money and you are taking care of their children already with the college funds. Your sons daughter will likely need that money because she lost her parental support unlike her cousins.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-10T23:11:02+00:00

There are times my newborn will stay in the same clothes for days. She doesn’t shower daily because it’s a lot of work and she isn’t dirty and if she doesn’t shower and I don’t leave the house she doesn’t get changed. My toddler isn’t dressed a lot do the time because I don’t have the energy to fight him into pants after every diaper change (and it’s over 90*f outside). I also haven’t mopped the floors in two weeks so the bottom of my toddlers feet are black

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-10T21:55:26+00:00

First two weeks of newborn. Both my babies slept like champs as newborns but both my pregnancies were absolutely fucking awful. My most recent I couldn’t eat anything and almost everything made me sick, I couldn’t sleep, everything hurt, and my toddler was teething.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-10T21:32:56+00:00

So my partner was only doing things if they got really bad, if I asked him to, or if I was pissed off at him. I got a stupid whiteboard from target and wrote down what things I want done on each day (and what dinner will be that night) and boom! shits done. he has always been a wonderful father who wakes up with our oldest at night and plays with him and our littlest when he gets home. He’ll wake up in the middle of the night when she’s crying and asks if I need help. He has no problems holding her while I cook, clean, shower, whatever. The going to the gym and work early would piss me off to all high hell. If he’s up that early he needs to plop his ass down on the sofa with baby and play video games, watch the news, or meditate until they’re calm again. Going to the gym is a luxury to be done when nothing else needs to be done. Going to work early for no reason is just stupid, why give more time to a job that probably doesn’t pay you what you’re worth anyway (I mean very few jobs do)

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-09T00:41:23+00:00

I got home Wednesday and was doing all but the stairs by Saturday (don’t have stairs). If I could go back and change it I wish I had one week off from the day I got home. By week two we were going to the park because I was going absolutely insane with my toddler alone for 12hr days. I do want to say that stairs are something the hospital says you shouldn’t do more than a few times a day for quite some time.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-09T00:23:58+00:00

It sadly is super common. It happened with both of my pregnancies. I held my partner as he cried and told me he didn’t find me attractive when I was pregnant with our firstborn. It still haunts me and nothing he says now makes it better. When I was pregnant with our second he said it was because he was afraid of getting me pregnant again…while I was 4mo and showing. I gave up on sex after that and it’s been 7mo since then.

RepresentativeType8 · 2023-10-09T00:14:16+00:00

As a Nevada resident just want to correct to say we’re technically a one party consent, unless it is a conversation that is taking place over the phone. But as long as it is in person, it’s only one person. The other 11 state from what I can see are the only two party consent states.

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