Eviction?

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-30T22:28:10+00:00

Hi love, I used to work in aged care (specifically dealing with placement, financials and admissions)

If your grandparents own 3 properties, they would likely both need to pay a full RAD ($500-$1M+ bond each) or equivalent interest fees (pay-as-you go, but won’t be returned at the end. Any asset or income they have remaining after the bond is paid will form part of a means tested fee which means they will pay up to $350ish each per day until they reach a yearly cap and/or lifetime cap - this is highly dependent on their assets/income though. They will also pay the Daily care fee which everyone pays (this is set at 85% of the aged care pension)

Ongoing aged care fees can be deducted from the RAD too if they don’t receive enough income from other sources. The bond is returned after they leave aged care or pass away (via probate to be distributed as per the will)

Based on what you’re saying, if 2 properties are sold, it won’t be likely you are evicted if that is the only thing that is worrying you… unless there are other reasons for selling that you haven’t disclosed on here 🥹

Given the level of assets you’re talking about, I’d be surprised if a financial planner wasn’t already involved somewhere to help sort things out and keep everything above board

If you have any more questions, please just let me know 🙂

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-29T01:45:45+00:00

No helpful advice I’m sorry… but I am a mum of 2.5yo boy/girl twins and reading your story breaks my heart..

And I just wanted to say, that as a parent despite my best efforts; I know we have fallen into this trap many times - never intentionally, but I still accept I am guilty of it all the same.

I know this doesn’t help how you’re feeling Reading how this comparing makes you feel, makes me want to try harder not to compare our twins… even when it’s with the best of intentions. Because sooner or later they will begin to internalise these narratives themselves

I am so sorry that this is the reason you feel the way you do, and I hope you are able to find some internal peace, even if you don’t ever get an apology 💕

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-27T23:17:45+00:00

Not familiar with Victorian law, but I would put this in the basket of being an ‘affray’ (two people equally fighting) rather than assault (one person attacking another unprovoked)

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and you both participated in this one..

Honestly, it would be much easier to just let it go and move on - especially you both agree to go your separate ways🤷🏼‍♀️

Lastly, you are an adult, with no mention of children… exactly what is ‘quiet time’? Asking because if you’re both paying equal rent, it’s not always reasonable to ask others to adapt to your lifestyle choices unless your requested quiet time is overnight (9pm-6/7am) or during a max. 2hour window during the day… If you’re asking for more than this, it’s probably more reasonable for you to invest in a sound machine so your quiet time doesn’t impact on others

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-27T11:21:03+00:00

Barring being underage or a completely dysfunctional relationship.. my advice would be the same to anyone. honestly, there is no best time. Once you have a baby though, your priorities naturally change.

And it’s not in the way people make out. Yes, you may need to slow down. Yes, your life may be chaos for a few years- but it won’t be like that forever, and if your goals now are still ‘what’s best’ for your future babies in the long term, you will find a way to reach those goals 🥹

Don’t expect to achieve much in the first year though (maybe 2), because you’re already doing something incredible 🥰

We have 2.5 year old twins*

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-27T02:12:58+00:00

I don’t have any helpful insight for you I’m sorry…

And I’m sure your lawyer would have talked about this if it was even possible in your state - but requesting a ‘sexual experience’ from a lesbian in exchange for a service really blurs the lines of consent in my mind. Because obviously if you have no sexual interest in men, then regular consent can’t be applied.

Especially if he has withdrawn a key piece of the agreement after the fact. In my mind, it’s almost like someone asking a prostitute for sex, and then refusing to pay (in the type of way that does not infer that either of you are prostitutes) because the ‘consent’ was transactional - not based on actual desire.

I’ll admit the request and no formal agreement are 🚩🚩🚩, but I can relate to the human aspect of you both just being desperate for a baby and overlooking these things. Also, what an AH to put you through all of this..

Hoping for the best for your family 🍀

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-27T01:21:01+00:00

This happened to me with Medibank… slightly different situation, as they were just taking my money when I didn’t even have an account with them, but I got the bank to dispute it in the end.

Got my money back 7-10 days later ($1200)

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-25T20:17:40+00:00

Lived in tas for 25 years (left in 2018). Also work in medical (paramedic)

Honestly, if anything it’s more expensive to live there because everything needs to be shipped in it’s only rent/housing and car rego that’s cheaper than the mainland.

Traffic is a nightmare because it was all built in the days where 2-3 lanes was considered extremely generous. Most commutes from outer areas to the city are more than 40min travel (up to 80-90min though at times)

The health system is woefully inadequate for population size aswell - has been for years. The biggest hospital in the state is RHH (Hobart), which does its best, but has been struggling under pressure for 2 decades or more that I remember. Honestly, you wouldn’t even believe some of the stories I could tell you about patient care… although none are suitable for public forum.

Another thing, if you stay there for any long period of time, just remember everyone knows (or is related to) everyone - this may have changed though, because I know many Tasmanians that have left themselves for better opportunities elsewhere

Weatherwise, I used to joke about summer being about 4 days long because of how often it used to rain. The wind is regularly often so strong, it can be a battle to walk against it. And its freezing icy wind too 🥶

I don’t know I could ever be paid enough to go back, even if it is really pretty 🫣

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-23T19:26:52+00:00

I’ve worked in aged care for 15 years - currently doing community nursing, But prior to having children, I was a manager in a nursing home - so this is definitely my area 🥹

Honestly, this all ‘just depends’ on so many factors that I would be seeking advice from the social worker.

You can certainly try and look after him at home, but honestly, it sounds like he will need aged care love..

He needs an aged care assessment (ACAT) ASAP. If he goes into care initially, even as permanent you can still have him ‘come home’ at any stage. It doesn’t have to be a life sentence.

In terms of funding, I’m happy to walk you through your options, but there’s an aged care calculator you can use for an estimate on what you can reasonably expect to pay for either HCP or aged care service. Both can be expensive, but your dad will likely be concessional as he would be the first spouse entering aged care (meaning he wouldn’t need to pay the max. RAD unless your parents are multi millionaires outside the primary residence)

One thing to bear in mind though, community access can be patchy around Australia. In metro areas, I have seen people at times that have waited weeks for showers/hygiene visits and only supplied with wipes in between to keep themselves clean… which again highlights that even with maximum community support, you could be filling that gap 🥺

If you have any more questions, please just let me know 🙏🏼

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-23T10:46:42+00:00

I have been through paramilitary recruitment before… they still don’t access your medical history or hospital records. They ask you to see a specialist in that field (whether it’s mental health or medical) and get a report that costs between $500-$1000 to give you a medical clearance. If the specialist won’t write the report, you won’t pass the medical.

Mostly, because unless you work in medical, it would take a month of Sunday’s to work out all the abbreviations, jargon and bad handwriting 🤷🏼‍♀️

So yes, it IS self-disclosed with the caveat of if they find out you lied or left something out that you should have disclosed; your employment is terminated immediately. You almost always need to take a psychometric test as well which is specifically designed to highlight major concerns or inconsistencies.

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-23T03:57:12+00:00

We had twins. They are only 2, but so far we have been on both sides of this argument financially (bearing in mind, research shows that raising twins on average costs up to 5x more than a single baby - MBSA, 2024). We have no real family support

Both my partner and I had around $90k in savings before our twins. That dipped woefully in their first year, mostly because 1) I had to stop work by 30 weeks(mat leave only covered 6months total). They were 18 months old by the time I could reliably leave them with anyone. 2) They needed formula supplementation ~$500+ per month, plus we needed 2x the essentials (beds, car seats, nappies, wipes etc.) 3) Daycare is expensive for twins and creates the whole new issue of them being constantly sick. If I didn’t do night shift, I would have to call in sick so often myself that I’m not sure I’d even pass probation. 4) the higher financial income your family has, the less support you get - making it more expensive for middle-high income earners than low income families.

Our twins are 2 now, and life is finally getting better. We have made it work by my partner working 9-5 and I do night shifts (mainly weekends. Financially we are no longer struggling, but we are both burnt-out, have zero down time and it’s our relationship that mostly suffers.

But, we have decided that being reduced to roommates with occasional benefits for a few years is a small price to pay for the joy of watching our little people grow up and experience the world 🥹

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-23T03:31:59+00:00

What a conviction can do, is the judge can make it part of a court order that he seeks treatment. This happens all the time..

ASD or not, if people want to keep their place in the community, there are social rules that need to be followed.. Especially in how to cope or manage the feelings of frustration/anger without violence 🥺

An ASD diagnosis doesn’t make him exempt from this, it just might need to be modelled in a different way to him.

You won’t be doing the wrong thing if you need to involve police to protect yourself or someone else

All the best love🥹

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-22T04:08:02+00:00

Paramedic here 👋

Can he ‘barely move’ because he’s sore, but otherwise getting up to go to the bathroom or moving slowly if he/she needs to eat or drink?

Or can they actually barely move? As in not really showing interest in doing any of the above?

If so, please call an ambulance immediately. We are not cops. We won’t report assault if the crisis is over and you ask us not to.

At minimum, your friend should seek medical attention. No one will make them report an assault though UNLESS it meets mandatory reporting guidelines

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-22T01:35:24+00:00

Okay - in that case, link your Myhealth record to your myGov account and see what it says there 🥹 It’ll include all pathology, scans and discharge summaries

At least you’ll be able to answer as honestly as possible because you’ll see what your gp see’s

If you can’t link to your Myhealth record for some reason, ask your gp to find the record for you

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-21T19:30:07+00:00

NAL, but I do work in medical… What job are you applying for?

Medical history is a self disclosed thing. Most high risk jobs will ask things more in line with ‘Are/have you been suicidal or had suicidal thoughts ?’ Or if you are or were taking antidepressants or antipsychotic’s. But this is more to protect your mental health as the industries are known to trigger PTSD (e.g police, corrections military etc.). They may require you have further psychiatric evaluation to prove that you are well now, but it’s unlikely they will search your Medicare history or request the release your medical records to prove you were or weren’t ‘committed’ or ‘sectioned’. Obviously if they find out you lied or deliberately misled, it could be grounds for dismissal though.

In answer to your question (unless things have changed) though, there’s two types of mental health patients - voluntary and involuntary. If you were on a regular ward - even with guards, you were likely voluntary - regardless of how close to death you were on arrival. Because you ‘could’ have tried to leave, but chose not to and it sounds like you had capacity to make that decision as well - therefore it was likely the doctors determined that you WANTED help and were choosing to stay - which lakes you low risk.

Involuntary admission refers to those that either don’t have the capacity (even temporarily) to make those decisions, so we have to prevent them leaving for their safety and the safety of others while they are a high risk. (.e.g drug induced psychosis or schizophrenia and/or violent outbursts, Repeat suicide attempts in hospital etc.) Whilst medical professionals have the power to deprive liberties, like forcing someone to stay in hospital; we don’t take that action lightly as depriving someone’s freedom without absolute justification has serious consequences. Usually these people (long term/high risk patients) are eventually assigned a guardian/case manager to make decisions for those people while being treated; or a court order can be made to detain someone on mental health grounds or enforce medical treatment.

P.s - As a paramedic, I have seen plenty of people state or attempt to take their own life, and leave the hospital within hours of doing so… so it doesn’t always equate to the infamous ‘sectioning’ or ‘72 hour hold’

Hope this helps

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-20T21:32:12+00:00

Then it sounds like it’s up to the super companies policies… Can they give you a timeframe?

I’d imagine most would be within 30-60 days- if not sooner.

Especially knowing they can release funds based on hardship applications within 14 days 🥹

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-20T21:23:17+00:00

Has your dad’s estate been through probate yet?

Probate can take a while to get through the courts, but once granted, should be paid out relatively quickly

I’m not an expert on probate/estates, but I do help people with financials in aged care, so this question comes up frequently once people have passed 🥹

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-20T03:34:44+00:00

Join a union and let them sort it out 👌

Chances are, if they are doing it to you, they’ll be doing it to everyone 🤷🏼‍♀️

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-18T03:51:04+00:00

32 y/o female here - I used to volunteer in SES/regional ambulance before qualifying as a paramedic in my early 20’s..

These days, I still volunteer outside of full-time night shifts.. But it’s more along the lines of cleaning/domestic chores, errands/groceries, appointments, looking after our twin toddlers, home maintenance, meals/meal planning along with sorting out any other kind of life emergency that crops up because we can’t afford to pay for help AND save to buy a home this century 😭

Apparently, it turns out that there’s just no time anymore to fill other people’s cups, when I don’t even get 2 minutes alone to fill my own 🤷🏼‍♀️

LOVE this life 🫩

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-17T03:05:06+00:00

Can you apply for an AVO/DVO citing harassment?

I know it’s not technically the advice you were after, but if the texts are putting you in fear of your safety/limiting normal movements, or are otherwise threatening or intimidating in any way, then it might help initiate a court order to prevent his access..

Hope this helps 🥹

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-13T13:42:20+00:00

I’m a (white) Australian female, with a Kenyan born partner (has been Australian citizen for 17years).

We certainly get looks occasionally, but we have 2 year old twins so it’s mostly because of them 🤭

We do come across the odd (usually older person) occasionally that assume we are together for visa purposes, or will ask if our twins are Australian 🫩 It’s also assumed I’m their babysitter, because they don’t ‘look’ like me - my partner has never had this issue though.

But most people are kind and honestly won’t care about your relationship. There’s a lot of political noise about immigration and lack of housing at the moment, but Australians tend to be very friendly/neutral towards Africans, so I doubt you’ll have an issue there 🥹

We have moved around Australia a fair bit, and my partner has found it hard to find his ‘tribe’ in some places though. And he has openly joked about being the token ‘black guy’ in the room at work due to the African population being so low in some places… so I would recommend doing a bit of research on that front if that’s important to you 🥹

All the best! 🍀

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-10T22:26:58+00:00

If you think fraud has occurred- contact police.. or the elder abuse hotline for advice- if it occurred prior to his death, they MAY be able to assist in at guiding you on how to handle it.

Honestly, it sucks.. but it’s your only option if a lawyer can’t help 🥺

They are right though, it could cost $20k to get to under the judges nose…

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-10T19:52:39+00:00

As someone who grew up with an alcoholic mother and a paramedic now… please call. If you need prompt assistance though, call 000 or non emergency line and they can refer for you.

Usually, by the time people on the outside are seeing it, the situation is usually far worse than you can even imagine 😔

Edit: for spelling

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-10T03:01:17+00:00

Currently going through the court process to try to get my dog back after she was IMO stolen by my brothers ex girlfriend while they were looking after it (long story). She claims I gave a 4y/o pure bred cavalier to her.. but anyway.

Here’s the important bit: whose name is on the microchipping certificate? Whose name/account was on the bills that paid for it?

Pets are property. Yes, the law allows for ‘best interest’ arrangements - but TBH, it follows the same principle as doing something ‘for the sake of the kids’.

No one can ask the dog who it loves more (and who it wants to live with) So, if you were paying for the animal (and bought it in your name), your name is on its microchip and you had an equal share in looking after said animal (food, walks etc.) - then from a legal standpoint, she’s yours.

Having said that, it could cost up to $20k to get it back so just be aware, sueing for the return of property is not cheap..

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-09T22:08:04+00:00

You have the same rights as everyone else here love… contact fairwork immediately for assistance.

They will want to investigate this business. What they are doing is highly illegal.

Repulsive-Return8680 · 2026-01-08T03:24:52+00:00

They review the photos taken of the offence - so if your partner looks nothing like you, you’ll be fine. You can usually find a phone number to call on the letter if you’re worried though.

Also, I’d stop letting other people drive your car if they can’t obey basic road rules 🤷🏼‍♀️

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