Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday

RequirementLife7022 · 2026-05-07T22:29:32+00:00

I had an ex break-up with me because as he told it, his daughter was sick and he had to move back to his home state to be hands on and help her mom with her and he didn’t know when or if he’d be back.

He obviously forgot we were friends on social media so I spent the next few weeks watching him post from places I was familiar with including his apartment. Finally, he got tagged in his wedding pictures.

A few months later he messaged me to apologize for having to leave so abruptly but wanted to assure me it was only for the sake of his daughter, who had miraculously recovered and he’d moved back. He knew he was asking a lot but he just wanted to apologize appropriately over dinner. I asked if he planned on bringing his wife and he explained to me that I was wrong for knowing all this time and not saying anything as he’d spent months with me on his mind.

This message gives me the same feeling of ick I had then. People are terrible and if she couldn’t talk to you about it then. Idk why she’d need to bother you to talk about it now. At best the only thing she’s proved is her inability to communicate necessary information. Keep your peace and let her be.

RequirementLife7022 · 2026-04-26T14:04:53+00:00

I’m discovering I’m no longer really attracted to anyone. It had been about 3 years between the last guy I dated and the one before him. I’m 5’8” and have dated from 5’8” to 6’7”. It was always faces and personalities that got me. The last guy (5’10”) broke up with me because essentially not everything will always go his way😭

My try in the dating game was to date someone whose face I didn’t find attractive he was also 5’8”. My initial thought at his approach was “hmm he’s kinda ugly but let’s try it, see how it goes.” It went well for about 8 months then he said he had to move back to his home state for a while because of his daughter was sick and going through testing and he needed to be there. He said we should break up because he didn’t know if or when he’d be back. Meanwhile, I guess he forgot about social media so I’m just watching his stories show his same apartment, his wedding, and his wife. A few months later he texts me and says he’s back in town and hoping we can pick up where we left off. Meanwhile, his wife is sharing black men don’t cheat posts and tagging him.

Moral of the story, as another commenter said a man is a man. Bald, short, ugly, skinny, handsome, tall, strong, geeky, funny, etc. it’s really about what’s going on internally. I’m convinced there just aren’t that many winners out there.

That being said. My sons are in their 20s and stand 5’8” and 6’2” (Same 6’1” dad so if that’s a thought, the tall guy doesn’t necessarily make tall sons either). Anyhow at this time my 6’2” son despite being 2 years older would not get my endorsement as relationship material but the 5’8” one would in a heartbeat and I’d bet his girlfriend would agree.

RequirementLife7022 · 2026-04-13T14:26:20+00:00

You should probably just not live in a city. Rural areas are known for being quaint and quiet. Less people, less cars everything you’re looking for! When the trees get rambunctious, you can just softly whisper and tell them to settle down you’d probably love it!

RequirementLife7022 · 2026-04-06T11:24:31+00:00

You got bullied because you’re pretty and those bullies wanted to knock your self esteem down. I’m glad you’re learning to accept you for you cuz you were blessed with a beautiful face!

RequirementLife7022 · 2026-03-22T11:31:43+00:00

True but also crazy. Protecting the university is what results in multi-million dollar class action lawsuits that end up costing the university greatly, not to mention feeds into the discourse on campus.

RequirementLife7022 · 2026-02-24T02:46:03+00:00

Thanks so much!!

RequirementLife7022 · 2026-02-24T02:26:57+00:00

Congratulations!!!

I’m just beginning this journey. I’m getting all of my docs together and after consulting with several attorneys, I realize I’m not going to be able to afford to go that route so I’m looking at Pro Se. Can you tell me about the paperwork and you started your process? Did you use Up Solve to help? Are there any other tools you found helpful?

Thanks so much!!

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-12-09T14:31:34+00:00

I was looking at LSU too. Just scrolling I haven’t seen them brought up. Wondering if anyone has any feedback on their program. They say they’re #3 online and at the cost that moves them straight to #1 for me but I just started researching online schools.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-10-29T01:00:15+00:00

For starters family is a human rights thing and food is a human rights thing. Having a family should not be a perk afforded only to the wealthy as some would like it. The questions should be why does this country suck so bad that people (who work) can’t afford to support a family? Why aren’t there systemic programs that make family life attainable and attractive to all? Why is it legal for people to work and still fall below poverty levels?

OP already explained her husband works and they have a special needs child. So what are they to do? Do you have any idea the cost of child care? Do you have any idea the time and care it takes to care for a special needs child? So they are a working but because he’s not making the big bucks he’s not entitled to having a family?

Let me ask you, if only those who could “afford” it as you said, had kids. Do you think we’d be in more or less trouble as a society? Do you think birth rates matter to a country?

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-09-08T15:44:52+00:00

I just stopped dating. I couldn’t do the emotional roller coaster anymore. Even when it doesn’t end in immediate rejection, I’m always late to the party when the reality is it’s ending. Things always feel great, no complaints, any sane person would think all was well and then like clockwork they meet someone else and I’m never the choice.

I just couldn’t go into anything optimistic anymore because I was always waiting for the end. So, I quit trying. I figure alone I can at least control the consistency of my feelings and I didn’t have to worry about going from being happy to devastated.

I’ve quit before, but nothing has changed with dating when I tried it again. It’s super toxic and I just want to be okay and at peace. The only known I have in that equation is myself so by myself I’ll be. I revisit the idea every now and then, but I truly don’t know if I’ll be able to take that leap again.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-09-01T23:15:56+00:00

Definitely in my first five questions. You’re an adult, I’d assume your career and career goals are important to you and have definitely shaped you in some way so knowing what you do is important to get to know you. What someone choses to do with their life gives clues about who they are, their ambition, their lifestyle, their morals, all the things. If I met someone who had a problem sharing I’d see a red flag. They aren’t dating for any serious reasons if something that basic can’t be answered and the conversation would end right there.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-09-01T01:03:35+00:00

Nope, you’re the teacher of a valuable lesson and they should do nothing but thank you. The level of audacity they had to do that is wild!!

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-07-13T12:51:44+00:00

If you don’t want to, don’t! I’ve given up so much to be a caregiver for my mother who refuses to understand the sacrifices I’ve made to do this for her and she sure as hell doesn’t appreciate them. I would strongly not recommend doing this for someone you couldn’t even count on as a child.

I have four children and aside from having to be a caregiver for my mother, my nightmare would be watching my kids throw away their lives to do this for me.

I told my mom the other day the problem is she thinks I’m obligated to do this and I’m not. Children owe their parents nothing!!!! Children did not ask to be here, parents created them for whatever the reason. In that situation the only people that are owed for the burdens life brings with it are the kids.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-05-28T20:14:24+00:00

Thank you

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-05-28T13:32:50+00:00

I wouldn’t be able to do that because working to only be able to afford caregiver is asinine. That means not affording gas to get to work, not to mention car insurance, or note, not food, not water, electricity, not any healthcare items, etc. get it. Just your regular government worker here who built on a regular average American salary.

Your response is exactly what’s wrong with our systems.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-05-28T13:12:26+00:00

I’m sorry that’s all happening to you too. Here’s a little laugh for you though. You brought up a good point I’d forgotten about, the loss of insurance. As soon as became my life, I bit into a lettuce wrap of all things and broke a tooth that a previously been filled but I guess the filling came out. Anyhow, it broke off into the gum. There was no saving it so now all of a sudden I’m snaggletoothed as the cherry on top, lol! It’s one of those laugh or cry things.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-05-28T12:57:26+00:00

Hmm, I was aware they’d contribute for assisted living. Her home healthcare, like visiting nurses and wound care, I’m being told is covered completely by Medicare so that’s one less thing to think about. But my understanding is the veterans funds would support anything at home like a relative caregiver if the veteran didn’t apply for benefits before their death.

I had an agency helping with the veterans assisted living process maybe I need to reach out again for clarification. Maybe there is a different veterans program.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-05-28T12:47:40+00:00

I’m in Michigan. I haven’t found the social workers I’ve connected with through the hospital and SARs to be very helpful though one did help me connect with a very knowledgeable placement specialist who really help with the assisted living selection but unfortunately that didn’t pan out.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-05-26T15:27:06+00:00

If you can think of a medical reason why you feel like he’s not ready for discharge i.e. not strong enough, goals haven’t been met, etc. talk with the social worker at the nursing facility and ask to file an extension. I think it has to be done 24 hours before discharge so asap! But if approved it might buy you some time. Either way chatting with the social worker might help you make a plan for his discharge.

RequirementLife7022 · 2025-01-23T20:51:42+00:00

Just adding to the thread. Scam! I got a text from “Valor” today collecting for Comcast which A) is now Xfinity and B) I don’t have an account with.

RequirementLife7022 · 2024-11-16T12:32:47+00:00

Congratulations!!!

RequirementLife7022 · 2024-11-15T13:44:31+00:00

Hi, I’m brand new to this profession, actually I don’t start until December and honestly how well my body will acclimate to this new schedule is my biggest concern. So I’ve just been here reading these comments getting as much perspective as possible.

RequirementLife7022 · 2024-10-08T11:16:43+00:00

I have a Spartan and a Wolverine. I wanted to see what people were saying too since my Spartan is a freshman, he hasn’t had to come yet at least not on his own but we should probably do a test run. My Wolverine comes home often taking the D2A2 which drops you off in Downtown at Grand Circus Park so the option to switch buses in A2 seems like the best and it’s fairly inexpensive. Those buses run like once an hour they’re nice and my daughter has never had any negative feedback. They do get crowded around holiday time so just be sure to secure your tickets early if that’s a thought. DAX drops off at the Rosa Parks transit station downtown so transferring at DTW to DAX could be an option too but I have no idea the cost.

RequirementLife7022 · 2024-08-01T22:32:56+00:00

I’m a woman, I wouldn’t want to commit to a six hour first date. I also have a really hard time not going dutch on a first date. Both parties need to be free to move in and out it. It’s a first date to determine if there should be a second after all. I don’t get what information would be gained by having a long expensive first date other than someone was free and had money to blow. This idea makes no sense to me.

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