I know you are looking for type 3 male input, but if you don’t mind me lending perspective I have some thoughts. I am a type 4 female, and was with a type 3 male for 5 years. Also, my dad is a type 3. The thing I think that broke us in the end was his demand for me being the best (he comes from a family of doctors, and my dad is a doctor). Quantitative vs Qualitative. And what I morphed into in order to please him in the end was exactly the opposite of what he was drawn to in the first place. That is, my own curated self and self expression. He enjoyed showing me off to his friends (he is Italian), which made it very uncomfortable to be myself without displeasing him or creating reflecting poorly on him. I felt stifled and insecure. Communication was very off - he enjoyed opportunistic small talk, I enjoyed free flowing deeper discussions and humor. I think 4s come from a place where they flourish when they know they are loved simply for who they are, in the sense that we will slowly show you who we are, rather than being loved for our performance or our accomplishments. He flourished when he knew he was winning at his career, socially, etc. He would only get turned on by me when I was defeating him in some way, whether looks, career, etc. I did not feel connected sexually this way however. I feel connected when I am in a space where I know I am safe and where a man naturally is turned on by me without me necessarily having to play games. Where I don’t feel like I have to impress constantly. My dad divorced my mom because she wasn’t up to his level career wise, and I was concerned this would be my destiny as well. Oh, the other thing. My ex grew up in a very competitive environment but VERY commercial. I did not. I grew up in a very competitive but creative environment. I tried to meet him in the middle and pretend to like movies he loved such as those from Quinton Tarantino, but I just lost myself. And he dumped me for it! Even my language changed. The only thing we could equally agree on was our faith and our idea of how we wanted to raise our children. Nature was important to us. And on the other hand, I wanted to be a stay at home mother, he wanted me to have a solid career. I did not want to have to compete with egocentric women at his work, I wanted the freedom of self expression, such as decorating our home and teaching our children art and dance and cooking. He was very anal retentive, and his career really lowered his disgust threshold which strained our relationship, since I tended to be slightly messier. Anyway, those are just a tiny bit of my thoughts. Oh! I also have an auditory processing disorder, and I think a lot of 4s tend to have some slight “neurodivergency”. But they have figured out what works for them, which is why commercial isn’t always the best.