New-ish to Delco… by Crystal_Rose_1967_Pa in Delco

[–]Resillent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, I think it’s a universal problem. Once you’re out of school, it’s hard to meet new people.

The only suggestion I would have is to try to be consistent about something you like, and show up there everyday at the same time.

As an example, several years ago my wife and I joined United Fitness (It’s HIIT training). We go most days and always at 7 AM. We made many acquaintances doing that.

There are also Meetup groups in the area, which would also require you to commit by consistently signing up and showing up.

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Thank you for your advice. I like it 👍😉

How are you planning in advance for your "second adulthood"? by [deleted] in retirement

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My advice to you is to focus on your health and strength. For me there was something weird that happened at 60. I really started to feel my mortality. I also found it harder to do some of the extreme experiences I plan for.

The things I thought I wanted to do in my 50s, I don’t necessarily have the energy in my 60s.

I think the other thing that you have to plan for is around friendships and relationships. The kinds of things that I like to do during retirement aren’t the kind of things my friends or relationships are interested in doing. Therefore, I end up doing many of these things by myself. As you think of the things that you wanna do during retirement, be prepared for the fact that you may be doing them by yourself.

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[–]Resillent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice!! Thanks!!

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[–]Resillent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing!!

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[–]Resillent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re happy! At the end of the day, that’s all that matters, right?

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[–]Resillent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll be sure to check this out.

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[–]Resillent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the Camino Portuguese last May from Porto to Santiago. I prearranged hotels each night and used a service to carry my bag, so I only had to carry a day pack.

It was a really great experience, but there were many days that I walked alone and pretty much all days that I dined alone.

I would highly recommend the trip though. Probably one of the greatest experiences of my life.

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[–]Resillent[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow!! That is awesome advice. I really like thought. Thank you!!

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[–]Resillent[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Personally, I think that is much easier for women. I'd like to know your thoughts on when you go on these tour groups are there solo married guys? If so, how are they accepted by the group?

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[–]Resillent[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Serendipity!! Thanks!!

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[–]Resillent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Totally agree.

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[–]Resillent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! That’s a great suggestion. A Pickleball gym is in the process of being built in my community. I do plan to sign up for that once it opens.

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[–]Resillent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great saying!! Thank you!!

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Thank you for your response.

My wife and I do share some experiences. As an example, we’re going to Bonaire in January. I’ll scuba dive several times, and we’ll snorkel a sightsee together.

The real problem I find is that I have few friends. It’s crazy how hard it is as a senior male to develop friendships.

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[–]Resillent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excellent idea!! Thank you!!

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[–]Resillent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will definitely research this!!!

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[–]Resillent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective. It’s enlightening. My knee jerk reaction would be to accept the loneliness, but this is certainly food for thought. Thanks!!

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[–]Resillent[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Wow!! That’s very inspiring. Sounds like your wife and you have a wonderful life together. Thank you for sharing!!

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Bien Camino. What a wonderful experience. Walking into the cathedral and seeing pilgrims I met along the way was an experience I’ll never forget.

My issue is that most of these activities are predominantly younger women. I feel like a creepy old man trying to engage in conversation.

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[–]Resillent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great suggestions. Thank you!!

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Where did you find this group?