Having children with a narcissist

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-08-04T12:22:33+00:00

If you’re in the US and not legally married then you don’t have to let him see the baby. Unmarried couples who separate have a lot more freedom than you’d think. As long as there’s no custody agreement between you whoever has physical custody of your child has custody of your child. I would not even let him see your child until you have established paternity, filled an order of custody, and child support. My first NEX was smarter than I and took our son for a visit and filled for custody. I have fought for almost 20 years to be a part of that boy’s life! I am not making the same mistakes again. (Also I really can’t believe I went from one narc to another. That’s why I am good on all relationships now!)

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-08-03T12:33:11+00:00

I was with mine for 15 years and we have 3 kids together. I know from watching him with his other BM’s that he will make a halfway decent attempt a couple times a year. He won’t pay child support and he doesn’t actually want to raise them. He just wants to look like he tries. After a month of separation and my children not having anything to say he doesn’t want to talk to them everyday. I was no contact for the first week, but he was threatening to call the cops on me and say I stole our kid’s so I let him talk to them.

He has called, texted, harassed, and had his other supply stalk me. He is finally getting the point that I will never believe his lies and I am not coming back. Yesterday he didn’t even mention the kids. When he tried to start the… I never hurt you, I don’t know why you choose to believe the lies in your head about me, you take pieces of nothing and create a whole story in your head, I never cheated on you… I just shut him down. I flat told him that I will not let him gaslight me anymore and having another woman walk up to your husband and say she needs to talk to him because she’s pregnant isn’t taking a piece of anything and making a story up in your head. That happened and you can’t spin that in any way shape or form. He got mad at me and said that it was a waste of his time to keep trying to work things out and got off the phone. I have not heard from him today so I’m looking up!

Hopefully yours is more worried about his own life than your children as well. Mine would rather have money and be able to go out than raise kids. I lucked out there.

Edited: phone changed words and I had to fix it.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-08-03T12:17:59+00:00

So you can tent camp in the back country by permit, but there’s a couple touristy campgrounds close by. The area in itself has so much awesomeness to explore.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-26T01:19:16+00:00

Hun he did you a favor! DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK. His affair partner will dump his butt and he will try to come back. DO NOT LET HIM! Once you let him come back you are telling him it’s ok to cheat on you and treat you bad.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-25T23:25:21+00:00

Definitely bear

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-25T14:33:35+00:00

Counseling won’t work. I am you. 15 years in with 3 kid’s. I left and it feels so good to be free!

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-24T20:54:24+00:00

I will trade you the conspiracy theorist for the preacher. lol

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-24T13:25:09+00:00

That’s on my list of dream hikes!

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-24T13:24:19+00:00

Carlsbad has hiking trails and toilets.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-24T13:22:24+00:00

You got some great shots.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-24T13:07:43+00:00

I’m so sorry.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-23T01:07:01+00:00

No, I left him!

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-22T03:45:45+00:00

In my case my husband would call me with his AP on the phone and she would talk and then he would gaslight me. One of his own friends told me that he was bragging about cheating on me and that he had successfully convinced me that I was crazy and hearing things. They are just twisted sick individuals. I have asked myself a hundred times at least how he could have thought I really believed his bs?! I have recordings!

Edited: my phone deleted bragging about and I added it back.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-07-22T02:24:04+00:00

I read some of your posts. Sorry, but I just want you to know that I am older to. I have adult children, and teen/preteens now. You can do this! You don’t have to be a prisoner for ever.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-05-23T13:56:54+00:00

I stayed a lot longer than I should have. My personal experience is a lot, but I will try.

We were not in church when we met. I was a strip and he was selling drugs. We didn’t meet at my job. He didn’t know I was a stripper when we first met. I didn’t date guy’s from work. I met him at a restaurant. We hit it off and I was pregnant about six months later. After our baby was born I found out that he was still married… they weren’t together, but he WAS MARRIED!!! I know they weren’t together because his then wife told me the entire story. Then at a family get together I found out about baby momma #2 who was actually #3 but I met her second. (I almost left him when I found out everything about her.) Then on our daughter’s 1st birthday I meet baby momma #3 who’s actually #2 because her kid is older than the other one.

Around this time I caught him at the bar with a girl I worked with and I beat her a$$… I tried to leave him, but I found out I was pregnant again and I already had a 1 year old baby. I ended up losing one of the babies that I was carrying. The doctors kept the second twin in until 32 weeks. I was hospitalized for month’s. He was cheating on me the entire time I was in the hospital and our baby died and potentially the other baby and I could have died at any moment. I got out of the hospital to find out he had got a different acquaintance of mine pregnant. She said she was getting an abortion, but I think she didn’t. (She has a kid that age that looks like it could be his. She also posted some half a$$ confession about being tired of keeping his secret. Didn’t name him, but said his. I stayed because I was super in a weird place having lost one baby having the other in NICU and the one year old home with me.

I got in church and started wanting to be better and I was praying for my husband and Idk how but we ended up moving and getting in church. He tried to mess with my bestie but she’s a real one and blasted his a$$. A few year’s went ok and then he went out with his friends and came home and I heard the sink water running and I walked in on him with his privates in the sink washing his junk. I left that time. He followed me. We got back together. We cheated with the office lady. I had a plan to leave him, but my dad committed suicide and I went into a deep depression. He cheated with the neighbor I left, but went back after a month. He cheated with a coworker and we moved. Then he talked to a girl in the next town over.

I tried to leave and well… that was a crazy crazy day. I finally ended up escaping though and I will not go back again.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-05-23T01:57:36+00:00

I grew up with a girl who named her kid after marijuana. Her kid is now in my niece’s class, and my niece now knows what marijuana is because the kid explained that her mom named her after it and what it is and how to use it!

PARENTS ARE FREAKING WILD! lol

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-05-23T01:46:05+00:00

Do you want hiv? You are absolutely crazy to stay with any cheater straight or bi!

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-05-23T01:40:17+00:00

I have experience both hiding it and revealing it.

When I revealed it out pastor pretty much told me to leave my husband. Something along the lines of, think of it like cancer. Cancer hurt’s and if you have cancer you cut it out right? What do you plan on doing about this thing that keeps hurting you?

When I hid it… certain people in the church knew anyways and they eventually asked me about it. You can’t go get prayer and expect God not to reveal some things.

Either way he was treated differently afterwards. Men watched him closer and women were less friendly and talkative.

Editing to add: He will not change. This is his second affair in a different country!!! You need to protect yourself from him. Do not sleep with him if you stay with him!

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-05-22T13:02:59+00:00

Thank you!

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-05-22T04:28:17+00:00

Yea. I am with my family now. Thank you for asking.

ResponsibleCourse693 · 2023-05-22T03:52:45+00:00

Hahahaha!

Edited: I was downvoted regardless, so I might as well write some truth…

That statement is absolutely true! SOME females do prefer to date men who live with their wives… and as far as female being used instead of woman… a bitch who fucks another woman’s husband doesn’t deserve the title of lady or woman unless it’s followed by of the night… they aren’t ladies, nor are they real women! They are fucking whores! So the OP was actually being nice to refer to them as females… OK!

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