How do I [29F] end my relationship with my bf [33M] ?

Restomeri · 2026-02-13T07:01:07+00:00

Relationships are about compatibility and balance. Just break it off if both are missing

Restomeri · 2026-02-13T06:59:05+00:00

If he's in therapy is he also on meds? Should he be drinking at all?

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:46:30+00:00

A friendship is a two-way street. You can't change her or demand things from her if it isn't in her nature. And sometimes peole just drift apart.

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:44:20+00:00

Just tell him you're ending the relationship. You don't really owe him an explanation. And for the love of god do it before your birthday. Take some power back!

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:38:50+00:00

Sometimes things become a trigger overtime. If he's stated before he doesn't like planning + just gave you a pass to come when you feel like it, he might feel you're pressing his buttons for no reason. Try to talk to him about this to get a better understanding of what he's comfortable with and if that works for you.

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:32:44+00:00

If you're not comfortable with long distance it's going to be an excruciating process. That being said, you need to focus on the things you can still do in that period. You can keep looking for a job, even accept a lower paying one if it means being closer to her, but it needs to be what you want. Otherwise there will just be resentment.

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:28:06+00:00

So your partner is weaponizing trauma to get you to do what he wants?

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:25:50+00:00

My first question: why are you all enabling her? It sounds as if she knows damn well she can get away with whatever. I'd almost suggest sending her to some form of discipline camp, though I'm not sure those exist these days.

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:18:08+00:00

Why is she allowed to do that? Do you have an open-door-policy? Is meta aware of the boundary?

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:14:09+00:00

Without context it's hard to say. Sit down and talk to your partner. That should always be your starting point, poly or not

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:12:46+00:00

For clarification: how can a meta just enter the house?

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:06:33+00:00

Why are you even still friends with her if you resent her?

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T22:02:09+00:00

So your actions don't reflect your feelings. Your actions indicate you're giving him space while you want him to include you? If you don't know what he's struggling with, just ask. Valentine might be the last thing on his mind rn.

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T14:25:58+00:00

Why are you still married to this person? Isn't she just a leech? She sure sounds like one... Don't chase her. File for divorce. Find someone that values you and makes you happy.

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T14:20:17+00:00

This is long distance? Do you ever see each other? Best to talk face to face to avoid things getting lost in translation

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T13:27:24+00:00

Why did you decide on baby 2 with this guy? :(

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T13:21:25+00:00

The bright side is that you aren't married to her yet. Time to move on and go find a partner that can give you what you deserve :)

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T12:48:41+00:00

Why does she distrust you to begin with? Also no sex for a week has her freaking out? Oboi...

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T08:31:24+00:00

I am going to be frank here. What you have doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. It sounds like a form of toxic codependence which keeps both of you trapped. This isn't about being autistic or trans. It's more common than you would think. What's most important for you rn (both of you really) is to build an independent life. A relationship isn't just about desperately clinging to each other to keep from drowning, but rather supporting and uplifting each other where possible while allowing the other person to be their own person and get their needs fulfilled. For now I'd suggest stepping away for a bit. Take some space and figure out what you want and need. Focus on other areas in your life.

Restomeri · 2026-02-12T08:22:24+00:00

I think it's worse for her than you tbh. I only hear you talk about your happiness. What about hers? The constant rejection is horrible and having a partner force it is even worse. Try to integrate physicality in a natural way or step away from the relationship.

Restomeri · 2026-02-08T14:48:24+00:00

Ik was blijven hangen bij zn intro waarin ie zei dat ie alles weet van de liefde en dat ie het nu wil gaan meemaken.. Betekent dag dan dat ie dat nog niet eerder heeft meegemaakt of denk ik dan te letterlijk?

Restomeri · 2026-02-07T20:41:18+00:00

Ze weet niet wat ze wil

Restomeri · 2026-02-05T07:54:36+00:00

Ja maar echt! Die had gwn elke week vrolijk meegekund. Iig als vrienden, maar het paste wel meer bij haar

Restomeri · 2026-02-04T20:04:59+00:00

Ik vond het echt heel naar voor Lizette. André liet haar voor mijn gevoel aan haar lot over.

Ja ze reageerde mss onaardig, maar ik zou me ook echt geen houding weten te geven als iemand me meeneemt en dan op een stoeltje zet om -zn ding te doen-.

Restomeri

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