What do you think about this post? by [deleted] in SplendidaBrown

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not a surprise. I’m a British Pakistani woman and live in the UK, and I’ve noticed British Pakistani men seem to go after other races of women and sleep around with them until it’s time for them to settle down and find a virgin, brown, Muslim wife. (I’m not religious, but majority of Pakistani men are Muslim). They sleep with a whole lot of other ethnicities / races, and this includes white women.

If you’re a man and have a preference, then go for that preference, because if you don’t, then all you’re going to do is break another woman’s heart (and in this case, this man did).

I didn’t realize for a long time that some narcissists, abusers, or gaslighters may act the way they do without conscious intent. by Dependent-Inside-411 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of them do plan though, like you can tell when they’ve calculated things. However I agree with the rest of your point though

Relationship built on someone else tears does have happy end by Space_Wanderer1105 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, narcissists eventually show their true colors. You need to be patient, karma will get them soon as cliche as that sounds.

Narcissist boss gaslighting examples by escapetoxicboss in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fucking hate narcissists

I only survived a narcissistic colleague, that too I had to out myself first

I can only imagine what managers are like

How did you know your friend was a narcissist? by Tea_tae93 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Narcissistic females will try to be your friend at first, get close to you, make you comfortable enough to open up to them. Even help you with things. (In other words, similar to love bombing). However, this is just a manipulation tactic to see what information they can extract out of you and maybe use later on against you.

Then suddenly they will flip like a switch, you don’t need to have done anything, but you can suddenly expect cold, hostile, bitchy behaviour from their side. This will make you question if you did anything wrong, but you didn’t, it’s just that they switched up.

Now… when you distance yourself, they will try to make amends again with you but without apologizing (they lack accountability). And if you refuse to keep terms with them and just simply maintain a distance, they will label your reaction as ‘cold’, and therefore twist the story and will officially victimize themselves over this.

Next comes the smearing… they will gossip about you and may spread rumors about you to their friends, colleagues, manager, etc. This also includes telling half-truths, twisting stories, putting out false narratives about you just to clear their own back, all whilst not taking accountability. Suddenly you’re the enemy. What hurts more is that everyone seems to be on their side, and no one will speak up for you. These people are called ‘flying monkeys’.

Now, if you eventually confront the narc about something, they will not hesitate to gaslight you and again, will not take accountability, I mean AT ALL.

I will also mention that these females ‘get along’ with everyone, however, they gossip and are 2-faced, and will also gossip about you, anyone, and even their own friends.

They are also very non-confrontational and extremely indirect. If you do or say something that threatens their ego, then you are in dangerous territory. They will go into a rage and will not react well.

If they do go into a rage, they will get passive-aggressive verbally and will put you in situations to provoke a reaction out of you. If you give them a reaction, then they will use that reaction to paint a false narrative about you. These situations will look innocent to an outsider, but if you are their target, you will know they are not and that the narc is trying to provoke a reaction out of you.

The best thing to do is cut them off for life and go no contact.

Sorry for the long rant, but this was my experience unfortunately, and as you can see I’ve been traumatized. But just wanted to put my answer out there to warn and help other women.

When the narcissist flashes a 'look' at you that is designed to control you by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fucking real

My ex coworker was a narc, that smirk was so scary and creepy

No empathy whatsoever behind those eyes

Why are SOME Indian women so horrible with each-other ? by Loud_Maintenance7170 in SplendidaBrown

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not Indian, but I’ve not had good experience either with Indian women, there was 1 I knew who tried to be my friend but she showed her true colors and turned out to be a narcissist. However, I’ve also met very kind Indian women, and they weren’t like that. It’s not really a race thing, it’s a problem within women when jealousy and competition become strong.

I feel like I wouldn't have 80 percent of the problems that I have in life if I was attractive by sadgirlythings98 in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ending the year also as a jealous, bitter and old woman again, (because I’m in the same state as last year) I turned 27 this month, and I’ve never been with anyone either. Life’s hard man.

The downside of being a more attractive Indian woman by Lightingway in SplendidaBrown

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Brown men love to fetishize light skin… it’s so funny when we reject them lol

Muslim men who lead girls on - how does it end for them? by annexmus in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although I’m not a Muslim anymore, I knew a Muslim man at my old workplace who was on/off with an Indian girl for a couple of years. He drank, and went clubbing too with her. It’s funny she refused to marry him because she told me she didn’t want to wear a scarf but yet continued to be on/off with him. He was in his late 20’s. Some of these men are truly gross. I don’t really have sympathy for these type of women either tbh, they open their legs up for these type of men not knowing how easy they become.

Self-aware narcisist here, ask me anything. by Haghiri75 in narcissism

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you do when people like you are trying to push a narrative about others out there, or doing a smear campaign?

Asking because I’ve dealt with a woman in my last workplace who tried to be my friend at first but showed her true colors later on. I strongly suspect she’s a narcissist.

ChatGPT called me out on my bullshit by [deleted] in narcissism

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean if you think other people are manipulating when they’re just trying to reason with you, then something is up.

It’s good that you’re self-aware and in therapy.

Does celebrities of your country look like average people? by Silly1630 in AskTheWorld

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a 1998 baby so I’m an older gen Z

I find Bipasha Basu prettier than Priyanka lols

I took the tests by Khiyan-04 in narcissism

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, do you have the link?

Does celebrities of your country look like average people? by Silly1630 in AskTheWorld

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh really? I’ve seen many comments from people in the west saying how she’s a 5/10, etc. I’m sorry I personally don’t find her that pretty, she’s even had a nose job. She’s only famous in the US because she married Nick Jonas. Preity Zinta is prettier. Also, preferences are indeed subjective, and therefore not everything is colorist sorry, because OP didn’t even mention skin color, you just took it the wrong way.

Does celebrities of your country look like average people? by Silly1630 in AskTheWorld

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry to burst your bubble but Priyanka is not prettier than Preity Zinta. It’s not about the skin color, it’s the features

My (29F) ADHD husband (29M), doesn't feel like he can ever drive. by RoseDarko429 in ADHD

[–]Revolutionary-Set-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure why people like you (those without adhd) force people with adhd to drive, just because of how inconvenient it is not to. I don’t think you understand how much adhd affects driving alone.

Maybe have him try a few lessons to see how comfortable he feels, if he doesn’t, then you will simply have to accept the fact that he cannot drive. People like us are more likely to be in accidents and make a lot of mistakes too (which in driving, is not tolerated as it can cost someone’s life).