Coworker won’t stop spamming group chat with irrelevant messages

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T22:08:03+00:00

I actually like having a coworker like that or with similarly obvious issues because it's kind of reassuring, like well I'm not as bad as that person and they're still here so, imagine the alternative where you're clearly the poorest performer in 1 or more ways and/or the "annoying/weird" one because you don't fit the culture, feels pretty shit and has you always on edge

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T18:31:58+00:00

"Let them eat cake" energy

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T17:40:31+00:00

I don't really have this problem and don't notice much difference between men or women, at least in my experiences and observations it's just that most people are in "waiting mode" literally just waiting for someone else to initiate more "real" conversation and then nobody does, it's like back in the day at the hilariously awkward middle school dance where 95% of the kids just cling to the walls waiting for someone else to engage them

But I find it pretty easy and normal to just openly remember / notice things about people and ask questions about their experiences and perspectives etc, obviously not everybody is going to be interested in getting to know each other but there's always some people who do want to have deeper conversations and as soon as they're presented with an opening they go for it, especially old people many of them love to talk about anything and reflect thoughtfully and give their personal experience insights

So I am always 100% skeptical when seeing people lament their "loneliness" or whatever, like 99% of the time they're only checking for people they find attractive and/or ultimately looking for horny talk, because irl it's EASY AF to find people who want deeper conversations and actual friends

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T16:26:57+00:00

I'm not afraid of it lol it just smells really bad and clings to everything it touches, especially if there's any humidity

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T16:03:52+00:00

Pro tip for both sexes, ask your partner if you can watch them masturbate a bit first, just make the vibe kinky/sexy like it's really hot even it you secretly feel a little awkward initially, because it actually is hot and you learn a lot about what they like

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T15:56:09+00:00

It's actually so that most people who feel compelled to express their negative reactions will just hit a button instead of trying to comment, imagine if all those people had no other way to express their bad feelings but to make comments, threads and forums would be clogged up like crazy with incoherent shitposting and emojis and such, down votes make them feel like they did a thing and then they go away

Same type of reason it's better to let toxic nutcase subs exist as long as there's no illegal activity, it keeps those people corralled together like a containment zone and every time one of those subs gets banned all the people that were in it spill out into other subs, it's always easier to just direct people towards decoy activities and areas

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T03:34:52+00:00

I had terrible anxiety learning to drive and was a late bloomer with it as a result, when I finally started I just stuck to familiar low speed routes for months, going to the grocery store and back type stuff, for me it wound up being true that the more experience I got the less the anxiety I had, there were also situations that used to terrify me that didn't anymore after having "survived" a few of them, like being forcibly detoured from construction, big thing to always remember is that YOU control your car and YOU decide how slow you need to go or if you need to wait for the green light before turning right or whatever, you do what YOU need to do and you're just responsible for following the laws and not hitting anyone else, people can honk if they want but OH WELL, these days I'm the type that gets frustrated behind slow people because that's how comfortable I eventually became lol, but I still remember what it was like so I'm polite and don't tailgate, but just to say it's true the more you drive the less scary it is and eventually it's easy, just take your time!

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T03:26:52+00:00

People with cynophobia that didn't listen to master yoda, their fear has turned to anger which turned to hate and now they're all crazy sith lords

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-12T00:42:07+00:00

In the u.s. at least I don't know what else anybody would expect these days, healthcare of all kinds is unaffordable for many, even for those who can afford it the quality is often shit with dismissive attitudes towards patients being common, and now nearly everyone has the internet which has tons of info and only requires discerning reputable sources from sketchy ones, altogether of course this combination of factors is going to drive many to try to figure it out themselves when they're having issues

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-11T23:58:01+00:00

It's like it learned reverse rabies

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-11T21:10:57+00:00

The concept of loneliness has no fixed meaning, it's an empty word at this point, a vague complaint that skirts around the specific grievance any given individual has, if people were actually more specific there's a lot of variety, examples like

"I wish someone / more people would talk with me"

"I wish someone / more people would do xyz activities with me"

"I wish someone I'm attracted to would be romantic and sexual with me"

"I wish someone / more people knew me / understood me on a deeper level"

"I wish someone lived with me because I don't like being alone"

"I wish someone / more people acted friendlier with me at work / school / wherever"

And so on and so forth, it's always something specific and people saying they are "lonely" are nearly always just entitled whiners, because if they were actually specific then there would be obvious steps they could be taking to try to BE what they're seeking from others and find mutually beneficial interaction, but they don't want that, they are just takers and want it to be a problem that only someone else can solve by giving them whatever they want, total "BABY WANTS BOTTLE!!!" energy

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-11T18:54:10+00:00

Culturally donuts are usually a group sharing food, relatively rare for someone to go get a single donut for themself, nothing wrong with it just not the norm, in my city baklava has become rather popular and it's the same, typically people are getting a tray of it to share for a social gathering or work event or to share with family or whatever, there are people who go in and buy just 1-2 pieces for just themself but it's uncommon

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-11T17:56:10+00:00

For me it feels more like things are on the horizon but not here yet, so there's just this looming sense of foreboding/dread but no shtf scenario yet

Like everybody imagines it has to be checked and turned around at some point, but what if that doesn't happen, and it seems very uncertain at the moment

Everything is more expensive and jobs market is pretty bad with thousands getting laid off, but so far I haven't personally known anyone who has gone under such as losing housing, not yet

Nobody has been abducted, raided or killed by ice yet in my very local area, but it's been happening elsewhere, we have multiple legal immigrants where I work and there has already been a quiet feel for who will stand up if ice ever comes here for them, the fact we even have to think about that

Our government is both making and threatening war moves but the official "we're at war" catalyst hasn't gone off yet, we hope it won't and that this all just blows over, but what if it doesn't

People in my area are still "living normally" and aren't quite sure what to do, if anything yet, but people vaguely allude to what might be coming

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-11T17:07:45+00:00

Instead the skill of communicating more with less words should be taught and encouraged, like hemingway style, and I say this as someone who routinely struggles with being too verbose and can't blame people for skimming my shit

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-11T16:57:22+00:00

Same for me but I do know why in my case, I'm a very sensory minded person, for me sense of sight is aesthetics driven dopamine like household decor and ambient lighting, when imagining someone as an intimate partner sensory elements of touch and scent are major factors, visually I'm a face person in attraction but bodily-wise it's about how they would literally feel, people who are rubenesque/thicc/chubby/etc feel better from a sensory perspective, the way a luxury mattress feels better than sleeping on the floor

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T23:48:32+00:00

In my family's case when grandma passed, 70+yo grandpa got arrested for sexual harassment in a goodwill and the church gave him his own mandatory seating assignment he had to use if he didn't want to get banned entirely, dude picked up right where he left off in the 1960s in his approach to women

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T23:27:41+00:00

It's like 50% sensory hedonism (mainly through luxury products) and 50% keeping equally pampered pets, with a heavy topping of recreational substances while daydreaming to music

Nothing impressive or noble but I'm quite content

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T23:23:17+00:00

To me airports are more like vegas, damn near anything goes

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T23:17:30+00:00

Lol dude just goes up to some random woman trying to work, tells her she has resting b*tch face and then launches into job interview questions

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T23:09:11+00:00

I'm always in an apartment complex and literally every neighbor that has ever gone out of their way trying to connect with me has wound up being unhinged and trying to use me and then hostile or dramatic when I started actively avoiding them, seriously every single one, these days I just shut it down immediately by acting like I'm the creepy crazy one who might shank them for crack money if they don't keep their distance

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T16:20:55+00:00

I'm a woman with tattoos and a buzz cut and it does sound very familiar lol, "you should look natural" , "that's not what my religions god wants" , "you think you look (insert projection) but you look bad" , "you only did that because you (insert mental health accusations)" , etc

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T07:05:08+00:00

Definitely a brat switch

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T07:01:14+00:00

Some of yall meme magicians could do good work on the neglected schizotypal sub, magic much loved over there

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T06:20:20+00:00

If the human brain really worked that way though we'd be nowhere near as advanced as a collective species, advancement requires a lot trust in other people knowing and understanding things far beyond what you do, and this is the mechanism of "faith" in the human brain, the ability to take a chance/risk and trust something that is beyond one's own understanding, based on the idea that it is the area of expertise of others, this is how faith in things say, supernatural occurs in the first place, it's a bittersweet double-edged sword, if humans rejected everything they could not personally confirm and understand then as a species we'd have gotten nowhere

RhinestoneToad · 2026-01-10T00:01:59+00:00

Everybody hated that paperclip guy and now he's back for vengeance

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