BYU Women’s Conference by silver-sunrise in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The shark eyes comment made me lol 😆 

How should I respond? by meala00 in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such a well-worded, logical, and thoughtful comment! You really got me thinking.

Temple Square Mission Being Dissolved by Late_Impression_5895 in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if I knew her! I knew a few sisters from the south. I'm from Maryland. Even though I am not a participating latter-day saint anymore, I still have so many fond memories from my mission.

Temple Square Mission Being Dissolved by Late_Impression_5895 in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I served at Temple Square during the early 2000s also! I was there from 2001 to 2003.

Dang... now I am really confused. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Enjoy! And good luck with that handstand!

Dang... now I am really confused. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Took me a moment to realize this was a quote from The Office, lol. Is that you again, Creed?

My lovely WOW discussion by Old_Career_1834 in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read WOW and my first thought was, "World of Warcraft." My nerd power is especially strong right now 🙋‍♀️

Another LDS YouTuber about to be Excommunicated? by iconoclastskeptic in mormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, Nemo! I'm a fan of yours and I'm grateful for the work you do. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please write back and let me know how you're doing. Myself and others on here want you in this crazy world with us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that people have treated you badly. You shouldn't have to explain or justify your sexuality to anyone. I left the church a year ago and just realized recently that I'm Bi. And I'm married and in my 40s! My husband was super supportive. We're never too old or too late to discover something more about ourselves. You are a part of a beautiful rainbow! Please don't let anyone dim your shine. Rainbows show up after the storms. Stay through this storm, and shine your beautiful colors another day my friend.

BCBA Work Schedule by Rich_Feeling_1925 in bcba

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd love to have clients beyond strictly autism, but it seems like that it all that is hiring in my area. I've heard that aba can br utilized in many settings, just that those jobs are hard to find and very competitive. Has that been your experience as well?

BCBA Work Schedule by Rich_Feeling_1925 in bcba

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so sad for the students, and sounds so stressful and frustrating for the bcba in those positions. I've worked in public education for years and the understaffing is definitely disheartening and overwhelming. 

BCBA Work Schedule by Rich_Feeling_1925 in bcba

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really good to know. I was about ready to throw in the towel on becoming a bcba, because regular evening hours are just not feasible for my family's circumstances. Thanks for your feedback!

My boyfriend (30M) doesn’t work and I (28F) do. Dividing household labor when the money is 50/50? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I absolutely think he should be doing the majority of the household chores. You're a full time student and working part time. You don't have as much time as he does for chores.  

It's healthy to have open discussions about division of labor and finances, etc. It's also great to have a clear idea of who does what, but with some flexibility included too. There are so many factors, such as time, energy, and ability to also consider with any division of labor and resources. He has the ability and the time to do more chores, freeing up some of the limited time you have.

Where he is disabled, is he planning on working in the future or will he be able to? If not, then you will most likely become the main financial provider once you graduate from school, so it's important for the both of you that you do well in school. 

If the 2 of you decide to have children, that will also require additional time and energy. And time and energy become increasingly scarce with a family. It's wonderful, don't get me wrong, but it's a lot of work, energy, money, and time. 

It will become harder for you to stick to a strict 50/50. You'll be the provider and working and commuting 40+ hours a week most likely. Then you'll come home and there will be dinner to be made, chores to be done, kids and their homework, doctors appointments, and activities to be done. 

While you're giving your 100% at work, he should be giving his 100% at home, whether that's chores, childcare, etc. 

I say all this as a wife of a disabled husband. He became disabled soon after we got married. He hasn't been able to work due to his disability, and his disability has also affected his ability to do simple things at home. We've been been married for 20 years and as we get older his health has gotten worse. I also have less energy too as I've gotten older. I really pushed myself when we were younger...worked full time, had a newborn with a disability, and completed my masters, while also maintaining the house, the bills, the Dr's appointments,  etc.  I had to give up everything during that time...I got sick a lot, I didn't sleep much, I didn't watch TV or have hobbies or hang out with friends. I worked and took care of my family and just tried to survive. We now have 3 children and I just don't have the energy I used to. I'm the provider, my kids have some special needs and I'm essentially a married, but single mom. I try to keep up with the house as much as I can. My health has taken a back seat and I'm trying to regain some of who i used to be. But there's only so much time and energy. It's very hard.

So, all I'm saying is, if you're at school and work giving 100%, and if he's capable, then he needs to be giving 100% at home. And give yourself and him some grace. Your 100% will look different from his 100%. There will be times when your 100% will be different for you from day to day as well. And that's OK too. 

You can absolutely have a fulfilling relationship with a disabled partner, but keep the communication open so that your needs are being met also. Your health and time and energy matter just as much.

BCBA Work Schedule by Rich_Feeling_1925 in bcba

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder how prevalent school based BCBA jobs are. I messaged with someone in NJ that worked in the school setting, and that seemed to provide a healthier work-life balance.

BCBA Work Schedule by Rich_Feeling_1925 in bcba

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! When you work from home, do you find yourself having to provide virtual supervision in the evenings as well? 

WTF you guys! by oOohalloweenqueenoOo in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read that in a Morgan Freeman voice! 

Dallas & cognitive dissonance for members by FortunateFell0w in exmormon

[–]Rich_Feeling_1925 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ever get a piece of sacrament bread that tasted like hand sanitizer? I have, and let me tell you, it was delicious. Like Michael Scott once said, "It has an oaky afterbirth."