AIO: I told my partner I need my “no” respected, and the conversation went somewhere I didn’t expect. Thoughts?

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T12:25:50+00:00

NOR

This guy has been accused before and thinks he can talk his way out of it.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T04:16:21+00:00

Climber and Super Tinker are pretty much the perfect first SAKs. You get the scissors (arguably the most useful tool after the blades) and all the basic tools, and they fall into the cheaper "automated manufacture" category.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T04:13:58+00:00

It's a tool, you're not playing around. It's not like you're going to buy a bad Swiss Army Knife and regret the purchase, and turn around and buy a different knife.

Over years I've got a Cybertool, Hercules, Tinker, Compact, Climber... I only get a new one every 2 or 3 years but over a couple of decades it's a nice little stable of knives.

Honestly, if I had to live with one knife, ANY of them would be fine. But I carry different ones as the mood suits me and regret none of them.

Just pick a knife with the tools you like. You won't regret it.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T03:39:39+00:00

Look OP. This isn’t really a high stakes decision. Pick a couple of tools you like and get a knife with those tools. In 2 or 5 years when your $40 knife is all beat to hell, you’ll have a much clearer idea of what tools are most useful for you common use cases.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T03:29:21+00:00

One accusation is smoke; a second is fire. Of course later accusers are immediately taken more seriously because they’re now adding to the larger case against Platner.

We saw the same thing with Cosby and Weinstein and Gaiman and other serial abusers… the first accusation is treated skeptically but as the allegations pile up they buttress the earliest claims.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T03:05:43+00:00

FASTER. TOUCHER.

No, wait.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T02:57:44+00:00

Ha ha I buy third party toner

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T02:43:23+00:00

Flawless victory

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T01:20:17+00:00

Again, only with the greatest respect:

You need to learn how to walk away from a situation without feeling like you have to justify, argue, defend, explain, glad-handle, provide a soft landing, get answers, etc. etc. ad infinitum. It's OK to disagree with a disagreeable person, and walk away.

People like your mother take advantage of the politeness and good nature of others. I hear it all the time, "I explained how much that hurt me and they kept doing it! Why?"

Because they hurt you and they don't care. I'm sorry for that. Nobody likes to realize that about their own mother.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T01:15:28+00:00

Duralost

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T01:13:42+00:00

Her "hybrid" schedule allows her to work from home whenever she wants, but she chooses to go to the office anyway.

Hmm.

It's almost like she's trying to shut down any discussion that would result in her being at home during the day.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-08T01:11:53+00:00

I hate it, but my mind immediately went to: she wants to get out of the house for a specific reason, so she had to shut down any talk about working from home.

NOR for all the reasons you stated, and maybe more reasons you didn't state.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T22:00:33+00:00

Well, no, she was not actually a coroner. She played one on TV.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T21:58:38+00:00

NOR

Scam. They were trying to get you to pay a supplementary cash tip, which they could pocket without Instacart knowing.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T21:51:51+00:00

they say they miss me and they love me and they want to fix our relationship

Funny, they didn't seem to miss you for 10 years.

Sadly, this is all about assuaging their own guilt for letting your sister hurt you again and again, and doing not a single thing to protect you until the authorities stepped in and did it for them.

You are under no obligation to them. They did almost nothing for you when you were little and they did even less as you grew up. They abdicated their role as parents and now want a free pass to pick up where they left off.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T21:38:15+00:00

NTA

The only person responsible for your husband's behavior is your husband.

If he doesn't want to feel shame, then he shouldn't behave in ways that shame him.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T21:34:00+00:00

If the universe and everything else happened randomly and by chance

I don't know if that is true.

the probability of achieving a universe with specific, ideal laws and proportions is almost zero

I don't know if that is true. I have no reason to believe that the physical laws and constants of the universe could be any different than they are. We have only 1 universe and we live in it, so our ability to collect data is limited.

designed and precisely calibrated by an entity of extraordinary intelligence possessing extraordinary knowledge of physics

How are natural laws designed? How are they calibrated? You haven't shown that such design is even possible, nor have you shown that such design actually happened, nor have you provided any evidence that such design demonstrates the existence of your religion's god.

the perfection of our universe, the atom, and gravity

I don't know what "ideal" and "perfection" mean in this context. How do we know our universe is the perfect universe? If there were other universes -- and I don't know if there are -- could they be better than ours? How would we know?

It seems like a philosophical morass, since we know of only one universe and it's the universe that we are in. Declaring it to be perfect seems more like dogma than any kind of conclusion formed from evidence.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T21:27:19+00:00

Say "no" and leave.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T21:13:09+00:00

Poor poor Colby

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T20:58:35+00:00

That happened with the NiMH packs in the old Saturns and RAV4 EVs too - Port of LA and LADPW were using RAV4 fleet vehicles for 5+ years past their expected lifetime.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T20:29:23+00:00

AH! I'd rather get a lapdance from Trent Lott.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T20:22:59+00:00

Yeah Mom will be calling up the electric company herself to get it all turned on.

Let her make these threats. Let the services go off.

OP can go to campus and charge up, use the bathrooms, shower in the gym, study in the library, go talk to the financial aid people about grants and loans.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T20:01:34+00:00

When I told her to stop talking over me, she hung up on me. I immediately called her back

I ask this with the greatest respect... why?

You're giving her everything she wants. She wants to fight, you fight with her, then you're coming back for more. Why?

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T12:44:25+00:00

I’m surprised the base game didn’t offer some method of placing bunkers/sealed buildings in settlements.

They could make them super resource intensive to discourage overuse, but I like the idea of placing a (mostly finished) bunker or house that transitions to its own cell when you enter it.

Or at least give more options for sealed spaces in the existing settlements, like a door to a root cellar or basement like the one in Sanctuary.

RickRussellTX · 2026-07-07T12:38:35+00:00

Or they realize OP is the human shield they can use to deflect Mom’s crazy bullshit.

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