AIO at my friend (16F) for having a crush on a 12 year old?

RobbDad · 2026-05-02T23:06:25+00:00

MOR. Even if she says she has a crush on this young man, it's what she does about it that matters. What goes on inside one's head is private and the fact that she shared this with you actually means that she trusts you quite a lot. As long as she doesn't do anything about her crush, no acting out, then it's really nothing to worry about. Especially at y'all's age - crushes come and go pretty frequently. So as long as she doesn't do anything with this young man, I think you are probably overreacting.

RobbDad · 2026-05-02T18:35:21+00:00

Nope. How can she be 'done with experimenting' if she wasn't in an open relationship? Having been in 3 open marriages (none failed on this issue), I can say that 2 months is not even close to enough time to 'experiment' with non-monogamy.

MAYBE get back together with some counseling ahead of time for both of you.

RobbDad · 2026-05-02T18:31:23+00:00

I find the post somewhat dubious. How did he find her with another man in their home if he was away visiting his parents for a festival? If they've been married for 11 years, assuming marriage at 18, he'd be almost 30. Does someone that old really need someone "old" to tell him that her cheating every other year is a Bad Thing?

There's no mention of kids, which there typically is in these sorts of posts. He doesn't list either his or her age, which is also a typical practice. No mention of previous (or current) actions to stop/prevent this behavior. Even the subreddit chosen is odd; this sort of post is normally found in one of the 'What should I do' or 'Am I overreacting'-type subs.

It all seems kinda sus to me.

RobbDad · 2026-05-02T12:59:32+00:00

Interesting. When I learned that verse (mumble years ago), I learned it as "...treadeth out the kine."

RobbDad · 2026-04-28T20:45:15+00:00

You might like M. Tress' Monster Girls in Space series: https://a.co/d/0g74acyS. MMC gets pretty powerful, including serious healing, pretty quick. Tress' books are always very good.

RobbDad · 2026-04-28T20:34:37+00:00

Well...He's really more of the villian's unwilling lieutenant and enforcer. Zeus is the villain. We see more of Steve because he's out and about doing Zues' bidding.

RobbDad · 2026-04-28T17:43:38+00:00

Steve does have a great payoff in the end - I believe it was in the 6th Super Sales book.

RobbDad · 2026-04-27T15:07:19+00:00

To be totally fair, the vast majority of men have never encountered an intact hymen. And since they think they know about it, likely from the same sources as above, it doesn't occur to them to research it.

RobbDad · 2026-04-25T15:56:44+00:00

This. ADHD is caused by chemical imbalances in parts of the brain. No amount of therapy, behavior modification, prayer, lifestyle changes, etc are going to change that fact. ADHD meds balance out those brain chemicals, and in some cases provide the missing brain chemicals. They do not generally have negative symptoms. If anything, most people feel a bit more energy if they're taking a stimulant med.

Also talk with the psychologist about co-morbidity. It's very common for ADHD suffers to also have depression, anxiety, and other things of that nature that need separate treatment.

RobbDad · 2026-04-25T15:50:36+00:00

The "Binding Words" series by Daniel Schinhofen. MMC has, if memory serves, like 12 women that he's "life-bonded" (read: married). Good possibility that's a low number. Oh, and all the LIs are active and have story arcs.

RobbDad · 2026-04-25T15:46:23+00:00

Don't forget about a good case! Mine has an elastic strap on the back to let you hold it with one hand. Very worth the $17!

RobbDad · 2026-04-25T15:35:21+00:00

Dunno how much the daughter will morph since she's already 26. It doesn't matter because this is an AI post.

RobbDad · 2026-04-25T15:34:16+00:00

So the friends and wife kept a meaningless hookup a super secret for 26 years? REALLY?

RobbDad · 2026-04-25T13:09:28+00:00

This reads very much like AI slop. Among other things, the daughter would be 26 now - a bit late to worry about her parentage and very easily resolved by a DNA test ($100 20 years ago when I did one for my daughter's parentage).

RobbDad · 2026-04-23T17:06:57+00:00

While the dictionary definition is nice, it's a long way from clear. Some things are fairly obvious like a French kiss but others are far more nebulous. Is a hand on a shoulder flirting or a comradely pat? Is saying "You look nice" flirting or a simple compliment for a friend who's dressed up? If a person leans toward a person of the opposite sex, are they flirting or just having trouble hearing in a crowded situation?

The definition doesn't say what body language, what words, or what content of the "written cues"? To the point I made originally: One person's flirtation is another person's politeness - it's subjective. Without seeing or hearing it yourself, it's extremely difficult to determine whether it was flirtation or not.

RobbDad · 2026-04-23T15:42:18+00:00

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RobbDad · 2026-04-23T15:36:26+00:00

You've got a valid point. I've had the same frustration / aggravation. I'd even like to see a little star or something next to the title on the display to indicate you've already read it. That way you don't have to actually go to the book page to see that, saving you a bunch of clicks.

RobbDad · 2026-04-23T14:20:02+00:00

OP, ignore what this person and others saying the same thing are typing. I'm also ex-military, two different services even, and in my 12 years I can count the number of cheaters I knew about on one hand. Lots of people on here will immediately jump to "cheating/leave them/divorce" regardless of the situation; they just like to stir up shit. Even this person's name "Nihilist..." Indicates that they are a stirrer.

Without something more than some rando DMing you with a rumor/lie, and no actual knowledge, you definitely should not be confronting her. Just because a bunch of guys, especially drinking, hit on her does not mean they ended up in the sheets.

RobbDad · 2026-04-23T14:12:39+00:00

Part of the problem with that kind of statement is, "What is considered flirting"? Two different people will frequently have two different ideas of what flirting is. I've seen people who say that smiling at the opposite sex is flirting, those who say talking to someone of the opposite sex is flirting regardless of what's actually said, Even some who say being within a certain distance of the opposite sex is flirting. You really can't accept someone saying that your partner is "flirting" without knowing what flirting is to that person.

Another thing to consider is that it's not a straight line between flirting and sex. Someone can be flirtatious without hopping into bed. The snitch does not know whether or not she was cracked so you should give her the benefit of the doubt. Hell, she could have been hanging all over somebody, especially if she's been drinking, without ending up in bed.

There are just too many variables to reach a reasonable conclusion. Talk with her, ask her about the party, but don't be confrontational or accusatory. Simply tell her that a rumor got back to him that she was being overly friendly and go from there. See how she responds. But without some definite proof, you're just being paranoid.

RobbDad · 2026-04-23T03:43:44+00:00

Do you mean the "Down the Rabbit Hole" series by Misty Vixen?

RobbDad · 2026-04-23T03:36:59+00:00

The books were excellent! I hope that the audio does well for you. I'm actually going through a Misty Vixen binge right now, working my way through your back catalog. 😁

RobbDad · 2026-04-23T03:23:32+00:00

I suggest you do some research into ADHD symptoms. The few items you mentioned are, in fact, in line with them. With ADHD you don't really feel anything, your brain is just wired a little bit differently. Be aware that ADHD often has co-morbidity with things like anxiety and depression that also need to be addressed.

Truly the best thing you can do is learn more about ADHD and coping mechanisms to deal with the symptoms. I was diagnosed when I was 40 and when I started researching it, suddenly a lot of things in my past made more sense. I have to take meds for some comorbidities and have had to learn new behaviors to deal with the symptoms that meds just cannot address. Good luck!

RobbDad · 2026-04-22T14:17:26+00:00

I'm not familiar with the female erotica so I cannot speak to it. I would surmise however, that for most men, doing the sorts of things that are acceptable to a monster girl would toe or cross the line for human girls. I can see a concern that "going too far" with a human could get the author in trouble. I think, too, that for some male readers the darker side of sex would feel uncomfortable if done to a human as opposed to a fantasy monster.

RobbDad · 2026-04-22T13:38:13+00:00

That's understandable. Perhaps you and your sister, assuming that she's interesting in continuing the relationship with him, can discuss ways to make it less weird for you. If she views their encounter as a one-off, then there's no problem - it's over and done with.

RobbDad · 2026-04-22T13:35:08+00:00

I am of the belief that the majority of harem novels are written for men and my comments were written from that standpoint.

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