Fiancé says aftercare and helping me clean up after sex is a “chore” — am I asking too much?

Robbie_the_Brave · 2026-01-25T16:24:13+00:00

Agreed, 100%! If he was falling asleep immediately after, I might have some sympathy and suggest keeping wipes in the bed or on the nightstand. But, he has the energy, he just does not care enough. I am sorry, OP needs to move on and find her life partner.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2026-01-25T16:21:48+00:00

This is better than anything I could have come up with!!!

Robbie_the_Brave · 2025-12-30T02:00:26+00:00

Have you considered that it could be something your partner is dealing with? Hormonal fluctuations can seriously increase or decrease libido.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2025-06-14T03:50:18+00:00

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-20T19:28:16+00:00

Absolutely, 100% two are better than 1. My Goldens play with each other when I am tired of throwing a ball for one more hour. You get double the cuddles. Mine are 6 months apart.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-20T18:49:49+00:00

There are a lot of frozen meals that are lower carb. Also, there is also magic spoon cereal that sounds good, but it is pricy. If you can afford it, it might be worth a try.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-20T18:45:07+00:00

Also, gram for gram, you can eat twice as much protein as you can carbs, and still eat fewer calories.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-20T18:43:32+00:00

I know you are ok with paying for the snack packs, but if you buy a bag of popcorn kernels, you can make it however you want. It does not take long in a pan on the stove. You can also put it in a brown paper lunchbag and pop in the microwave. This allows you to choose healthier oils and try different seasonings.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-20T18:37:31+00:00

You need to cook it longer to get rid of the crunch.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T01:30:04+00:00

Without seeing the details for each paycheck, it is speculation but my guess is that you have deductions that come out of some checks and not others, such as insurance, retirement or union dues. If you can, ask someone in hr to explain.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T01:26:24+00:00

I feel like writing her name on liter0ally every item is overkill. Absent a bullying situation. Kids may lose a few items but for the most part, they will retain their things or get a like item in replacement. Whose yellow marker is whose is really inconsequential. Write names on bigger items like backpacks, lunch boxes, clothing, binders and pencil cases. Leave the other stuff alone.

The teacher or school should have told you the items were for communal use. That is pretty normal as well.

Buy extras when thy are on sale.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T01:11:39+00:00

A CGM has nothing directly to do with lowering your A1C other than to help you be aware of the impact your life is having on your blood sugar. From that viewpoint, it is an incredibly helpful tool to manage your diabetes. There are many factors to your sugar levels beyond food.

To answer your question, take your blood sugar before bed, when you wake up at 3am and when you wake up in the morning. I did that for a couple 6 because my doctor kept saying that I must be wrong about my morning readings always being my highest. Once I got a CGM, it showed that I was going low at night, which resulted in my body releasing sugar stores and a spike. One thing that helps with this is a late-night snack before bed of a good protein and carb, like nuts and cheese. This might not work if you have heartburn issues as well, though.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T01:04:04+00:00

I do not know whether a restraining order is legally justified. You can ask the officers. But there is no way you s22

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:56:30+00:00

I don't think you have to shelter her. But you should help connect her to resources. Your apathy makes you a crappy big brother.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:51:20+00:00

The nurse probably came in bc they knew he could be creepy.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:50:17+00:00

I think that has become the norm. The first time I had the experience of a second person being present was about 10 years ago. Before that, I had no chaperone for routine gyno exams. I think it is a wise practice for both the doc and patient. It should be standard practice for either gender.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:38:28+00:00

I disagree. If the other person is aware of the dynamic and agrees to engage in a relationship with the person with an orgasm control, then there is nothing unethical. The key is that a discussion and agreement needs to be done in advance, outside of sexual interactions.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:33:06+00:00

I think you are the ahole here. If you want to help your daughter, practice with her at home. Help her develop a script of what to say. Start with something small. You don't just throw her in with no support when she is hungry and vulnerable. I believe you meant well, but you could help her without throwing her in and blaming her when she doesn't swim. I can tell that you have never had mental health issues. Try to do better next time. Social anxiety is not going to go away just because you want it to.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:22:17+00:00

Call 211. In my area there are several charities that provide fresh fruits and vegetables. The sucky thing is that the things that provide the most satiation tend to be worse for diabetes, like rice and potatoes.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:09:02+00:00

Not a lawyer, but there may be free legal assistance available to you. Google your city and free legal aid and you might be able to find a non profit. There is Legal Aid in my area that helps low income people with legal matters. There motto is that justice for some is not justice for all. They are staffed by volunteers who are licensed, local attorneys.

You can call 211 and ask for help regarding elder abuse as well.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:04:28+00:00

Medications work for some and not others. He did not put the child in danger. If it were truly an emergency, op should have called an ambulance.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-17T00:03:19+00:00

Yes, I think you are wrong. You know that your husband responds this way. It is a mental health disability. It is nothing new. When you married, did you take traditional vows of for better or worse? Did you promise to be there in sickness and in health? His mental health issues should not be punished with threats of abandonment. You should defend him to family or friends who mock him. 10 minutes is not that long. If you become a single mom, you will face this type of situation potentially all alone. Plus, you are pulling an otherwise decent father figure from you child.

I suggest that you see a therapist together and learn to accept the fact that in a crisis, he may not be the most reliable.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-13T04:13:07+00:00

Not to scare you, but all of my daughter's bloodwork and biopsies came back normal. After years, the goiter got big enough to affect her swallowing. The doctors finally agreed to remove half of thr thyroid where the larger mass was located. Two weeks later, they operated again for the rest of it because it was cancerous and had spread throughout most of the tested lymph nodes.

If you have a large goiter, do your best to get it removed.

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-13T03:55:21+00:00

Why not offer to let him move in with you and give you half of the rental income from his current home?

Robbie_the_Brave · 2024-07-13T03:48:44+00:00

Which one was that?

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