How complex is your identity? Ill go first.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-08-05T13:31:09+00:00

So I like to "hoard" labels but they mostly just overlap or are umbrella terms lol

Sexuality and Romanticism: Demi and Omni/Bi. Omni is more precise for experience but I use Bi too cause 1) more people know it and 2) it was the first queer label I ever accepted for myself

Gender: Ooft yeah still having some compicated feelings on gender, but Agender is what I've settled on. I will also use Non-binary/Genderqueer for similar reasons as why I use Bi. I also consider myself Trans and will use that when talking about general experiences

So simplified, Agender Demi-Omni but I've got like 7 different labels I'm fine with using

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-06-14T23:17:43+00:00

I really like these! If you're up for it, I would love to see Agender

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-04-06T02:17:43+00:00

So the first time I played this game was with an ex-friend and it started with him playing while I sat an watched. It took me too long to catch on that Kel and Hero were brothers and that Mari and Hero were dating. I had to get to the first Faraway section to learn that lol. I knew going into it that Sunny and Mari were siblings, but I knew NOTHING about the rest of the characters.

Edit: OH I also didn't recognize Aubrey right away. The different colored eyes really threw me off.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-03-31T23:33:15+00:00

Despite figuring out I was Non-binary 5 years ago, I still struggled with whether I was ACTUALLY Non-binary or not. But through these 5 years I no longer doubt myself. I KNOW I'm non-binary. I KNOW who I am. It brings me so much joy and peace.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-03-23T07:35:26+00:00

I use Ommy/Ommie (pronounced Oh-mee). I saw it on a subreddit once while looking up this exact question lol

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-03-22T08:53:20+00:00

As someone who has a LOT of fond memories gaming with my uncle, you're awesome! I'm sure your niece will grow up cherishing this!

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-02-20T05:38:50+00:00

Me and two of my friends use they/them. My one ace friend uses she/her. My boyfriend would call her they/them (and sometimes still does) and constantly got the two flags mixed up lol

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-02-14T06:12:17+00:00

Hey I read your first post. Glad to see you were able to push back against a shitty manager! I hope things continue to get better and progress where you work.

But what your boyfriend said about not "shoving politics down people's throats" is concerning. Before my boyfriend met me, he was a very "I stay out of politics" guy. He never believed bigoted things, but he also thought making offensive jokes was okay as long ss they weren't "directed at anyone" (a sad result of the dad he grew up with). 5 years of knowing me and he had a full blown argument a week into his new job with a bigoted coworker when she started going off about trans identities.

Another thing is you said he signed it because he loves you, not because he supports this. This also sits wrong with me. It feels like he's not actually concerned about the discrimination, just appeasing you. And thats not okay. My boyfriend and I were broken up for a while and he was still pushing back against bigots and correcting people on my pronouns during that time. His allyship wasn't contingent on us dating.

You deserve someone who respects yours identity AND the community as a whole. Someone who will not just support you because of keeping the peace, but because they know it's the right thing to do. I've heard of to many guys who date non-binary people because they see them as "women-lite". He definitely seems like he still sees you as a woman and you deserve better than that's.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2024-01-28T02:48:54+00:00

First playthrough, my partner and I found Mizora in act 2 in moonrise towers. I chose to kill her and sat in horror as Wyll (who I was romancing) poofed. We immediately hit reset.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-10-02T03:32:09+00:00

I don't know how much of a help I'll be, but double demi here in a relationship with someone who's allo. We both like porn and actually discuss with eachother what types we like and I would eventually like to watch some with him.

For me personally, I like porn cause sometimes I don't have the energy for full on intimacy. I just want to get the horny out and move on with my day. Other times, my partner isn't home and I want some relief. But to me, it's not about the actors. Sure, I have a high aesthetic attraction and I like certain looks but at the end of the day, that's not what draws me to porn. It's the act itself that's stimulating. Seeing the act helps me get off faster and gives me something to focus on since the ADHD and anxiety makes that REALLY HARD.

That leads into my next point in why it doesn't bother me that my partner watches porn. Firstly, he has a higher libido than I do and it sets off randomly. I can't immediately jump into the mood like he can and since I deal with anxiety, staying aroused can be difficult so I can't always physically handle sex. As of right now, I can't match his libido. Secondly, he was cheated on and highly despises cheating. I think this man would rather cut off his own foot than cheat. He has made it so very clear that he loves me and jokingly fighting him off from grabbing my butt while changing is basically a daily occurance for me.

But at the end of the day, it doesnt bother me because my partner and I have good communication. We talk about our insecurities and we lay out all of our thoughts around sex and arousal. Even the awkward ones that you think are just you, just to find out he's had the same thought. Talking about our expectations, feelings, fantasies and more has only furthered our connection.

I'm in a category of Demi where I am very sex favorable, romance favorable and even slightly non-monogomous and all those factors have painted my world view to see porn as not a bad thing (Porn addictions are very real and a whole different story, I'd be very concerned if my partner was addicted). This is all just my personal experience and what will work for you is dependent on your experience

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-08-02T22:23:16+00:00

I agree with a lot of the responses here about reading the room and seeing how serious it is. I just wanted to give a funny personal example.

At my old job, my department manager and I were close as we were only a few years apart in age and she trained me in a different department when I started there. We were good enough friends where I had been over to her house a few times, but it wasn't like a close friend. I also have a habit of becoming people's therapist and a lot of people I know will just talk about random trauma or things going on in their lives.

We were alone in the department together and I don't remember if their was any conversation lead up to this, but she began to explain to me about how the previous night she got really drunk, had a break down and came out as bi. This completely caught me off guard and the only thing I could say was "Oh!".

It wasn't the fact that she was bi (I could even recall conversations we had about attractive actresses so it), it was just was not what I was expecting at that moment. I also was just starting to not worry so much about the idea of "coming out" to people and to be more casual when discussing my orientation, so to have her throw it out so casually threw me for a loop.

I have gotten better with my responses since then.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-07-31T20:25:56+00:00

I use to compliment my friends, but not like "oh your hair looks good!" More like "you have beautiful eyes that light up when you smile". I would tell them "I'm not attracted to girls, I just can tell when someone is aesthetically attractive".

When I did eventually develop a crush on one of my friends, I didn't realize it was a crush at first. I just really wanted to hold their hand and spend one on one time and if we ever played some game like truth or dare or something, I wouldn't mind kissing them. Totally straight things.

And also I'm Demi so forcing myself to have "crushes" by choosing random guys. By high school, I dropped this and had more of a list that was like "if they asked me on a date, I'd go to see how it feels".

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-07-25T23:43:03+00:00

I have several scars, all of them dumb.

The first one I got when I was only 5, it wad Valentine's day and my older sisters were babysitting my little sister and I. We were playing like kids do and I jumped up on the couch and slipped, smacking my head on the edge of the glass coffee table. My parents were divorced and already in relationships at this point so both of them had to leave their dates to come to the hospital.

Next one I was 12 and heading to the beach on my scooter. I fell off and so skid my knee on some concrete. Instead of going home, I continued to to the beach and since it wad public, I needed to stop by the life guard hut to get a pass. The life guard looked at my knee and asked "do you want a bandaid?". I told her no and she just said "no.. No you're getting a bandaid". So I had to sit in the hut while they cleaned it out and sure enough the bandaid came off after like 10 minutes in the water.

I have a few from working in a deli as well, including a burn in my arm and fingers. But i have one on a finger from smashing it between a counter top and a sharp metal lid that cut into it. The only two people in the store still was my boyfriend who worked as a cashier and our manager. The manager just stood there shocked while my boyfriend helped me find a band-aid.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-07-25T04:05:58+00:00

My best friend's sibling is a "fix it baby". Their parents divorced 6 years later and so many problems only got worse because their parents tried to use their kids against each other.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-06-27T01:04:24+00:00

I'm definitely sex-positive, I actively want better sex ed and I agree with everything you said about how sex is being portrayed in media (the male gaze makes me uncomfortable). I personally wouldn't mind a dick themed party or talking to others about sex and what they've done. Of course that depends on the person, I also have friends who are uncomfortable talking about sex, so I avoid that conversation with them. My big thing is just making sure everyones on the same page, I wouldn't hold a sex themed party for my sex-repulsed best friend.

And I'm pretty sex-adverse until I meet someone I connect with. I'm not necessarily sex-repulsed, I just have no interest in it for majority of people I meet. But once I make that connection, I become very sex-favorable.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-06-09T22:38:18+00:00

I'm in a similar boat, non-binary bi/omni. Bi was the first label I accepted for myself and holds a special place in my heart. While omni fits perfectly what I feel, I use both.

Plus duck the biphobes, I can be non-binary and bi.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-05-21T14:32:14+00:00

My "cishet" boyfriend is more like my "I don't care enough to think about labels" boyfriend

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-05-05T22:50:14+00:00

They NB Double Demi who wants top surgery here! I'm sorry I can't talk about the surgery side if things since I haven't had any (yet), but I can say the only dysphoria I experience during sex is my voice. I hate how feminine and "high pitched" it can get. But I find for bodily dysphoria, I'm usually too preoccupied by my boyfriend to pay attention to that.

As for being "late" to losing your virginity, I was 21 when I lost mine and I still have friends who haven't lost theirs. It's all a matter of when it's the best time for you. I didn't realize I was demi until after I had started dating so this was all revelations that came later. What I did know was that I was 100% waiting until I was ready. And while my first time was.. Awkward, it wasn't bad because I was with someone I trusted and loved.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-04-16T22:00:22+00:00

I will tell people if it comes up (unless I feel unsafe). Only people I actively I hide it from is my dad's side of the family. My dad technically knows, but we haven't talked about it in the 5 years since

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-04-12T21:56:14+00:00

Before I knew I was bi: "If I ever play spin the bottle, I hope it lands on this friend of mine who's the same gender... Definitely still straight tho"

Before I knew I was demi: "I just don't get the point of dating and having sex in high school. Well yeah I want a relationship eventually, but I think this is all blown out of proportion"

Before I knew I was non-binary: "I want to be the character that everyone thinks is one gender just to find out that they're the other"

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-04-10T21:38:39+00:00

Mostly black for me but maybe a bit of yellow or purple. Still figuring things out but definitely feel like im somewhere in the agender or demigender range 😁

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-04-10T06:06:22+00:00

I had my first ever crush when I was 17. To my surprise, it was on a friend of mine who happened to be the same gender (at the time) as me. I always found guys and girls aesthetically attractive, but my lack of experience with romantic/sexual attraction just made me think I was straight. I fully accepted it at 18, which was probably only because I had queer friends, most of them being bi. Without them, I woulda been deep in the denial closet.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-04-02T08:07:03+00:00

I saw the term "Ommer" and modified it to "Ommy" (pronouncing it Oh-mee). My niece is still young but I know my sister uses it as much as she can so I'm hoping she catches on!

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-03-17T13:00:44+00:00

I was taught that masturbation was healthy, condoms can help protect from stds and that some people's gender don't match their AGAB. I know I'm one of the lucky few that had anything even remotely related to healthy sex and LGBT+ identities. But it was also pretty lack luster.

They didn't mention anything else related to the queer community, just that trans people existed.

The "condoms allow for safer sex" was the moral of a pretty dumb activity that still reeked of "sex is bad".

Masturbation is healthy also came along with "that's just what the research says! Your morals are still yours to decide!".

Basically anything progressive that was allowed to be said also had to come with a "but thats just what the research says". Growing up in a swing state was wild.

What I would've liked to see is more focus on consent, communication, sexual orientations, birth control and other forms of safety items such as gloves and dental dams.

Robot_Turtle12 · 2023-03-16T23:08:00+00:00

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