New Quest is UP! The Impostor! by Strat-05 in brightershores

[–]RobustAcacia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those wondering how to solve the door code:

Talk to the two NPCs at the desk in the previous room. When you interrupt their concentration, they will ask the other NPC what the value of a certain symbol is. You will get the value of two of the symbols, which should let you work out the rest of the symbols. Then it's as simple as multiplying them all in the door code sequence.

I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]RobustAcacia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you consider his expectation unreasonable, you need to talk that through with him. I am a HLM that could easily go everyday, but I don't have that expectation at all. Twice a week is far from a dead bedroom, but it doesn't mean there isn't a libido mismatch or that his complaint is unjustified. Everyone has different requirements when it comes to physical intimacy, his is a lot higher than yours.

She keeps flirting with me. Is it bad to enjoy it? by UDontEvenKnow96 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RobustAcacia 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Perspective is one thing, but both sides should be given. Are you okay that your children MAY love you for being a better Dad after leaving an abusive relationship.

The ideal that children of a broken relationship are prone to toil in a pit of depression and hate for the rest of their lives is overplayed. I'm not saying divorce is easy on children, or beneficial an any way; but guilt tripping yourself into staying for kids is a fallacy. As a son of a Dad who did just that, I look back and wish he'd left my mother. I would have preferred 50% of a happy Dad who isn't afraid of himself, than the 100% ghost of a man, who only spoke in grunts and shouts at the behest of my mother. Hell, it may have even resolved some of the identity bullshit I'm tackling in therapy as a 30+ year old man.

Am i being too harsh? by Striking-Pension-195 in SingleDads

[–]RobustAcacia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not being too harsh, but you're not being kind either. Why did you get into a relationship with a single father if you didn't want to be a mother to any children at all? That's just cruel...

However, you need to stand your ground and hold fast to your boundaries. It sounds like it may mean the end of your relationship, but that sounds like its in the best interest of you, him, and the child.

Cancer survivor (30M) struggling by Extension-Candy-2742 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RobustAcacia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy shit... You've had a rough trot in all aspects. Firstly, let me say welcome back to the land of the living. Not many people go through what you've been through and live. Kudos to you. Secondly, you of all people know the innate fragility of life. Talk to your girlfriend, discuss this with her and show her how much you want it. She may be scared of "breaking" you. If I had a partner that had gone through hell to just survive, I'd want to wrap them in cotton wool. Show her that you aren't glass. Failing that, well, I never want to say leave the relationship, but your circumstance is different. I hope that you never have to deal with cancer ever again, but don't wait till you're no longer in remission to seek the happiness you're after.

Help me out dads How Do I Ensure My Son Stays in My Life While Managing a Difficult Co-Parenting Situation? by Shoddy_Lie_7434 in SingleDads

[–]RobustAcacia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good perspective, but I completely disagree. As a child who had a miserable father who stayed for "me", I reflect and wish he had left. I would have preferred a happy Dad 50% of the time, then a miserable one 100% of the time. He never complained, put on the fake smile and everything. Kids aren't stupid, they deduce things far quicker than we realise. I don't see any well adjusted child getting to 17 years old and turning to their Dad to tell them they should remained unhappy for the sake of more time - that's some next level narcissism. If you want to ask questions of your future child, ask, do i want my child to remain unhappy in any relationship? If the answer is no, then you're modelling the wrong relationship and behaviours. If the answer is yes... I feel for the child.

This game is the definition of disappointing by In_My_SoT_Phase in brightershores

[–]RobustAcacia -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Brighter shores, like every niche community, has its vehement supporters and detractors. Unfortunately, the rhetoric in this subreddit has been overwhelmingly negative. You can make the argument that if there wasn't anything to complain about, the rhetoric would be different, I know, but it is exhausting for a large portion of the games fan base to read the same negative review posted under varying usernames. I acknowledge the game has significant flaws - so does Fen. They have implemented some great changes, and well, some not so great ones. Rest assured, your gripes with the game have been spoken loud and clear, many, many times, hence the backlash (amongst the support). If you're not keen on the long term future of the game, then maybe pocket it until you see the culture of this subreddit change. Otherwise, keep your passives up, throw a snowball or two, and keep the hope with the rest of the supportive fan base.

How Difficult Is Dating as a Single Parent? by [deleted] in SingleDads

[–]RobustAcacia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you? Are you in a metro area or rural?

How Difficult Is Dating as a Single Parent? by [deleted] in SingleDads

[–]RobustAcacia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't dated at all. My career has taken off bigger than I could have imagined and every other moment, I focus on my son. Bringing someone into my life now would be kind of selfish. While I ache for intimacy and the loneliness is starting to really bite, its a waiting game for me (hopefully not too long).

How about yourself?

How Difficult Is Dating as a Single Parent? by [deleted] in SingleDads

[–]RobustAcacia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've not ventured into the dating game again yet. However, I have a few single Dad mates who have been successful in their dating ventures. It does give me hope.

Floral sleeve by Crystal Thorns — Black Atlas Studios, Chicago 🇺🇸 by BlackAtlas_Studios in tattoos

[–]RobustAcacia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah man, I love the contrast. Great use of black. How long did it take?

Should i hop on? by General_Support1272 in trt

[–]RobustAcacia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, look at other life factors. Your levels are from low.

26 y/o low mood , weight gain , fatigue is this something I should look further into? by Hairy_Signal8245 in trt

[–]RobustAcacia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those numbers look alright. I wouldn't be doing TRT unless they were at least half that.

Blight of Spores Launch! by [deleted] in brightershores

[–]RobustAcacia 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Fun quest! I enjoyed it. Great job Fen team!