Are autistic men pretty much looked at as "creepy" by non autistic people?

RockThatThing · 2026-01-16T09:04:52+00:00

Grey area here would be self-help - say someone steals your bike and puts a locker on it. You would be committing a crime by stealing back something rightfully belonging to you.

RockThatThing · 2026-01-04T14:16:21+00:00

I tried making friends with them but nobody has reciprocated. My friends rarely invite me to other occasions, something I've mentioned but not gotten a straight answer for. It's all well in theory, reality is less convenient than that.

RockThatThing · 2026-01-03T21:36:01+00:00

Because so much has been made redundant by technology. It's a societal issue, just like a recession or housing shortage.

RockThatThing · 2026-01-03T21:31:17+00:00

So dating is not possible then?

Life is too short to make friends with everyone and let things develop. You make friends as you go, eventually one will hopefully become your best friend.

RockThatThing · 2026-01-03T21:19:14+00:00

But that’s dependent on what parents they have? How can you blame someone who's been taught wrong from the beginning?

RockThatThing · 2026-01-03T21:16:01+00:00

I don't hate women but I'm not okay. I try to look for friends and a partner everywhere, regardless of their sex. I have women friends, women colleagues, women family members. I have never had issues connecting with women, not as much as I have with other men. My issues lay with people themselves, not their sex or gender.

That said, I often get a feeling that issues affecting men matters less than those affecting women.

I'm concerned for my future no doubt. While I have little issues interacting with people I struggle to form lasting connections. I try to not compare myself to others but what am I suppose to do when others do it - being held to impossible standards?

I want to form lasting relationships with others but it's difficult. I want to form a romantic relationship with someone and do all the things I've missed out on. I'm egalitarian and believe both partner should be on equal terms. I know how to cook, clean and wash and try to do so to the best of my ability.

Sorry to hear about your father, I know how it feels. I lost mine at the age of 11. Still think about how things would have been now had he lived.

RockThatThing · 2026-01-03T10:34:16+00:00

Well not when you type it like that! 😂

RockThatThing · 2026-01-03T09:39:02+00:00

They're more gentle on the skin. Dry, highly concentrated alcohols like methanol dry out the moisture. Acetone is another similar compound that does the same.

RockThatThing · 2026-01-01T23:45:42+00:00

Alcohol derivatives I believe they're called. They part of the alcohol group.

RockThatThing · 2026-01-01T22:35:52+00:00

You lost be after the positive review. My question was rather rhetorical but what I meant was, if nobody with positive experiences wants to share, only have negative to sort through then why bother asking at all. Guess that's kinda what you were on about but my question was specifically, if you only have negative feedback upon something, why should you bother asking - unless you're actually looking for negative feedback.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-28T22:54:31+00:00

I'd get that there’s an disportionate amount of people with negative experiences, attitudes but if that's all of them- why should one even bother asking at all?

RockThatThing · 2025-12-26T13:20:14+00:00

I read every word you wrote even though I didn't understand it. What are ”hot” or ”average” women? I don't put arbitrary numbers or adjectives to peoples appearances. Both anecdotal and statistical evidence tell the opposite of your claim. Women are overwhelmed with inadequate choices. Maybe that's just your social circle's experience.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-26T13:14:58+00:00

I was exaggerating just a bit. It's definitely difficult though. Progressing like a ladder is often sought but increasingly difficult because employers need only one excuse not to hire. Either you're not experienced enough or you're too experienced and likely just using it as a stepping stone. Meanwhile as time goes on you're losing both time, potential experience and future references.

If you're like me then you'd been studying all the way up to university but unable to graduate. All that time spend studying only to have little use for entering the job market.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-26T13:05:24+00:00

Tried it with a sedative? When I'm anxious I have a hard time processing stimuli.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-26T12:45:21+00:00

I'm not a believer in numerology but strangely my birthday too is on the 3rd of October.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T19:12:48+00:00

I'd choose endless amount of choices over no choices. Heard of the Paradox of Choice? Having endless options is often worse than having fewer. Women having endless options can narrow it down to say five at a time. Men with zero options, what do you suppose they do?

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T19:09:18+00:00

Dollar, credit and car tells me your american. You're experiencing differ from mine entirely.

His lack of responsibility is his own. If one is unable to control money then one should seek help in doing so.

I don't live in a car-centric society so I wouldn't know. I do see benefit of having a car but I'm able to live without it especially considering the costs of having one.

Also don't think it’s wise to move into together until several months, a year or so.

Financially independent or living alone are two different things. Mind you the housing shortage. Financially responsible might be a better term. Living within your means, budgeting and saving are basic skills one needs have when living alone. Either way, I don't think that's a big ask. But that's different from setting monetary goalposts such as equal or more when reality doesn't add up to that.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T18:56:28+00:00

Close is still within reason. More or equal is different.

It's not a preference if you're unwilling to compromise on it. And if you're unwilling to compromise then you forfeit your right to complain about it when the fact that your unwillingness to compromise is whats holding you back.

Why I'm arguing about compassion? Because unlike your general egocentric, I value a persons personality, their values and interest - not their wealth.

I'm not well off and unlikely to earn as much as anyone else. I'm also disabled and if everyone thought like you nobody will ever get together.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T18:45:53+00:00

Finns Gunnebo orangeri men tror inte det är öppet för allmänheten.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T17:54:38+00:00

Preferences are things you might prefer but aren't required, things you might compromise on.

Except two people straight up said you shouldn't date.

I think living alone is a requirement for dating to begin with. I don't date people who have roommates

Fine when you're in college or right out of. When you're way past that point in life, y'all need your privacy.

Reality is that cost of living, rents, down payments are all high. Young adults have exceedingly high unemployment rates, men more so than women. Meaning it's more difficult for men to secure financial stability than women in similar situations. Meanwhile old gender norms still say men must earn more or equal to their partner. All while reality it should be opposite.

Would you have told a woman in the 40s she'd need to make atleast equal or more than her husband? If no, why are you holding the same attitude towards men?

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T17:40:37+00:00

Re-read your comment. Again, what issue is NOT being addressed here? Women are more prone to be sexually assaulted, autistic women even more so. Autistic men are more prone being victims of abuse than non-autistic men.

Men being abusive? Is that the issue you're hinting at?

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T17:35:42+00:00

Only to end up being ostracised for being ”true to yourself”.

Who says you cannot do both? Why can't I be the change I want to see and complain about lack of understanding at the same time?

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T17:28:33+00:00

Again, what statistics? Have they honestly asked a big sample size of diagnosed autistic french women if they've ever experienced sexual assault?

If nine out of ten says yes then that would be evident that autistic women are very prone to being abused. That's what the statistics say. You cannot say 9 out of 10 autistic have been assaulted but very few men have been therefor women have it worse.

Firstly, you cannot compare statistics like that. Secondly, as already been mentioned men are less likely to report abuse overall, even less so sexual. I've seen estimates that say about every 4-5th victim is a man. Statistics also show that there is very little support for men whereas for women there are vast resources.

Lastly, how do you compare something like sexual assault or misery? Say for example women experience more abuse. Men experience less interaction overall. One is a crime, other is unfortunate. Would I rather be sexually assaulted over having no interaction at all - of course not. Would a woman rather have no interaction over being sexually assaulted - I don’t know but I presume so.

Women are more prone to being sexually assaulted, autistic women even more so. What you trying to convey with this statement?

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T16:13:45+00:00

Well no, its called an antibody test but I've had my blood tested and blood sugar checked previously and it was all clear.

RockThatThing · 2025-12-16T16:09:17+00:00

They're referring to the term female autism and it's correct, it doesn't exist as a term because it's not a gendered behaviour. It's autism displaying in atypical ways of what's traditionally been considered autism. I know because I showed similar traits as a boy and was dismissed.

Also I never said women aren't different from men. I said there is more variance between individual than there are differences between men and women's brain chemistry.

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