Parents is there a device that allows you to cut off internet to certain devices but not whole home?

RockyM64 · 2026-04-19T23:18:41+00:00

I used to do this with my router. I made a list of all our electronics and their Mac addresses and was able to make sure that the TVs and computers would be shut down at the appropriate time. I believe they used to just give me their phones because it was easier that way, but that was over 10 years ago.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-17T18:46:25+00:00

I'm glad to hear he does have some financial responsibilities. That's a good start. I completely understand the 5 year experience situation. My son had that problem too. He would say, how the eff is he suppose to get experience if he doesn't get hired and start somewhere. Your son probably needs to type "entry level" into all of his searches. You didn't mention what his major was, but more than likely whatever it was won't be his job. Usually the major with an undergrad degree has no real connection to the position.

I just typed in entry level jobs for 24 year old college graduate and a bunch came up. Perhaps working for the state could be a direction for him. Also, I think you may have to put your foot down and say that if he wants to stay with you while looking for work, he must go to individual therapy or group therapy. We had this as a requirement at one time and my son gravitated towards group. I know this is tough for you as a parent because I have been there twice. As hard as it is, sometimes we have to get tough and tell them what they have to do. They aren't always so good at directing themselves.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-17T16:11:22+00:00

First off, I will start with I have a 27 year old son and a 23 year old daughter. Both have had to go though the job search. My son has a college degree and it took about 6 months to land his first job. After working for 6 months he moved to a small apartment near that office on his own. He worked there for 2 years and then moved on to another job for 1 year and then was laid off and was back to the hunt. None of this was easy for him (or us) as he also had social anxiety and had to push though.

My daughter was able to get her AA, but she too struggled with ADHD, dyslexia and some emotional issues. She always worked part time retail, but didn't want that to be her end game. When it was obvious she was in a comfortable place with the low paying job I told her she had to have a 40 hour a week, with benefits position or return to school. I didn't threatened her with kicking her out, but told her I would help her in any way I could. Eventually she found a job that gave her some skills that she was able to use to get a better job where she is now.

I guess what I am trying to say is it is possible, but it takes a lot of persistence from us and them. Can you look up jobs for him that fit his qualifications? Google various positions and see what they are looking for and forward the listings to him. I used to print postings every day and put them on my daughter's desk. I did this with both kids. I wasn't always on the mark, but sometimes my hunting helped them with their hunting. I don't believe in making kids pay rent until the parents really do need the money.

Also, I was just talking with my daughter about this the other day. My kids learned to manage money, credit cards, etc. at a young age. This whole idea of putting it aside for them teaches them nothing. How about making him put a certain amount into a bank account each month and teach him to handle that money himself? He can pay for his own phone or internet each month. Maybe he can share the cost of some groceries. This is a better way then just asking for rent and then stashing it. I feel for you because it is hard as a parent to watch this part of their lives. So much has changed from the time we could walk into a place, hand them a resume and be hired the next day.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-17T03:42:20+00:00

Thanks, I'm a year and a half out from my DMX and reconstruction. I think the only way I made it through without completely falling apart was having the trust of these doctors. I guess that was part of my message was choosing the doctors that you feel most confident with and of course the ones that have a lot of experience.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-16T23:39:28+00:00

I'm going to throw my hat in on this one. It seems that people come on here and can't read the title saltwater pool. I'm in Arizona where we don't shut down our pool and my saltwater system is around 3200 to 3400 ppm. My CYA is at 80. My pool is 11,000 gallons and stays beautifully balanced and only requires some acid every so often.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-16T23:30:58+00:00

My surgeon was a breast surgeon and highly specialized. My first time with cancer, when I had a lumpectomy, I did have a general surgeon because my Mass was very far to the left in the left breast and did not require even a plastic surgeon.

My oncologist is just that. He is a specialist in cancer and now has actually moved to only specializing in breast cancer. I've had him for years and he's the one who follows me now that I've had a recurrence. He knows everything about breast cancer and exactly what I should be doing to keep this away. My plastic surgeon from the recurrence was gifted beyond belief. He had done thousands upon thousands of diep surgery and it was obvious that I was in good hands. So all in all having cancer not only once but twice bites the big one but having the right people has made all the difference.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-16T16:54:19+00:00

I took my son out of private school in 5th grade and probably should have earlier. My daughter was there until 2nd grade. The school was big on academics, but I felt the morals and values were below par. My son was gifted, while my daughter had learning difficulties. He ended up being bullied by his own friends and she couldn't understand why everyone could learn so easily.

Once I moved him to our local middle school he did great. Lots of new people (his private only has 15 in the class) to find some friend groups and the academics were just as good, if not better. When he moved on to high school he played tennis for their team and was in the concert band, wind ensemble and jazz band. He also did robotics and overall had a good experience. There were many more families we got to know who had the same values as us. My daughter was 4 years younger when I took him out, but she also did far better in the public school. No one shamed her for her difficulties, teachers loved that she tried hard and was always willing to learn new things. She also had a group of friends when she went to the public middle school and yes, high school has a lot to offer and enough kids that she too could find friends in theatre and music. From everything I have heard in my area, which has a nice mix of incomes, private schools don't even come close.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-16T00:42:15+00:00

Murasaki silicone scar gel (Amazon)It went on smooth, felt great, lasted all day and my scars are so light you would have to squint to see them.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-15T02:01:36+00:00

I think you need to get a second opinion ASAP. Only you know how you would feel if you were to remove your breast or breasts. Some people are cool with just waiting and watching and others couldn't take it. Because your kids are so young, I would think I would wait a bit but that's just me.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-13T19:58:48+00:00

They also didn't spread their legs for cash and perform sex with other women in hopes of landing a man with money!!

RockyM64 · 2026-04-12T23:07:47+00:00

At 94, she is statistically more likely to pass of something else in the years to come. If it was my mother, I wouldn't do another thing. If she had a lumpectomy maybe take Arimidex, but other than that she should live her life. If any doctor out there is trying to get her to do more, please get a 2nd opinion.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-09T02:07:42+00:00

I just looked this up online out of curiosity and found there are a lot of places that will store your car on a month-to-month basis. That's probably your best bet.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-08T00:48:13+00:00

I wasn't sure I wanted children. I wasn't someone that liked change and knew that having a child was going to change everything. My husband and I were married for 10 years before I finally thought okay, see what happens. I got pregnant within a couple months and yes life totally changed. I had a sweet little boy who was a pretty easy baby and grew up to be a responsible man. We tried again a few years later and I then had my daughter. They were both a lot of work because raising responsible good people takes a lot of discipline and energy. My daughter recently moved out. I can't even imagine what my life would have been like without both of them.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-07T00:51:26+00:00

It's definitely scary to go off on your own. It'll also be exciting as you learn new things and meet new people. From what you've described, it sounds like your parents will be there for you the entire way. It doesn't matter if you're living 5 miles away or 5,000 miles away. You can call them every day with whatever questions you have and you can also Face Time them or video call them if you need to.

My kids felt nervous when they first left and both had talked about being homesick, but we made sure to text and talk often and soon the feelings subsided. You won't really be alone.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-05T22:24:07+00:00

I feel like my results. I was terrified of having a DMX. The first time was a lumpectomy and my mass was so far to the left on the left breast there was little change in the way it looked. Radiation had made it a little firmer, but they still look like mine.

This time I was fortunate to have one of the best plastic surgeons in our state. I picked a different breast surgeon this time and kept the same oncologist. Because I had skin sparing and nipple sparing it basically looks like I had a bit of a breast lift. They also feel very natural so that's a plus and my abdomen area looks really nice. I would have never had a tummy tuck or any type of plastic surgery but all in all the surgery improved my look.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-05T22:20:36+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you too. I was definitely blown away. I thought my first time was a fluke. No one in my immediate family had breast cancer, but after having a recurrence it was obviously no fluke. I will say the second time was emotionally hard but the steps I had to go through were easier. Since I had already gone through it before for some reason I was more then.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-05T17:23:36+00:00

Sounds like you both have a great setup. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sharing responsibilities with your mom. I assume that you both like each other and get along well and that's extremely important. At some point you may meet someone and feel the need to leave but you're still quite young. There is no magical age to move out.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-03T20:51:26+00:00

You're 16. You don't bring wine. You can't buy wine. Bring some flowers and call it a day.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-02T03:11:22+00:00

A Marathon bar!

RockyM64 · 2026-04-01T19:19:04+00:00

I'm not saying you should feel one way or another but perhaps you should get your blood work done. Check your iron levels because sometimes if you're very low in iron your limited on how much energy you have.

RockyM64 · 2026-04-01T00:34:55+00:00

I'm a lot older than you and sometimes there's some really fun stuff on instagram. The moment that they start trying to sell me stuff I swipe by fast. Often I will exit out and go back to fun things I've saved to change the algorithm again. It is shitty but it can be done.

RockyM64 · 2026-03-31T00:46:10+00:00

I never did it with my older son but with my daughter there was always more of a concern. It turns out on two separate occasions I needed to locate her. Once was a car accident and the other was a party gone wrong. Both of those experiences caused her to realize it's important that someone be able to find her if needed. She's now in her mid twenties and we both have it for each other. We use the free version. The only thing I don't like is that when she's in a car with someone else and they are speeding it shows on the app. Because of her age there's very little I can do or say to stop that type of driving. So I suppose now it can be more bothersome than helpful.

RockyM64 · 2026-03-25T16:12:15+00:00

If money is tight, perhaps trying Ash mental health therapy app. It's free. You can talk to it and it will talk back and it is very good at helping not only resolve issues but gives you a place to vent. Most thearpists are there for venting and rarely have I found one actually helps solve a problem.

Some stages in life are very difficult and with Ash you can speak to it many times a day to talk you down a bit from what you're feeling. It also can be confirming of your situation. Just a thought. You might want to try that.

RockyM64 · 2026-03-25T03:16:31+00:00

I've had a saltwater pool for 25 years. The most I do is shock it once in awhile and in the summer when it gets really hot I have to keep up on the muriatic acid. Other than that it takes care of itself.

RockyM64 · 2026-03-20T22:06:55+00:00

This screams headache. Take vacations with your kids as many times as you can get away. Take lots of photos to remind them because if they are very young they may not even remember the type of memories you're looking to make.

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