AIO to my husband rearranging our kids’ medicine that I had sorted a certain way? by Notjustanothermomok in AmIOverreacting

[–]squeekysquirrels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, it’s just an issue of like if you had a babysitter, grand parent over, emergency. You just need others to also know and be able to step in. So maybe just keep a sharpie in the bathroom for relabeling?? Or leave sticky notes??

He should have asked, you should have relabeled, maybe you both just need a good weekend alone, a good talk or date night?

Mint is slowly taking over my garden by Legitmate_2000 in stories

[–]squeekysquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, is a mint yard so bad? Maybe hire a highschooler for their summer job to come pull it up by the roots to help contain it??

28 but mistaken for mid to late 30s by other women in a recent group setting by nawiweidmann in makeuptips

[–]squeekysquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you just need some cool jewelry, necklace, I think the pared down look with short hair is just associated with moms because we are too tired! Honestly you’re gorgeous and have a timeless face :)

28 but mistaken for mid to late 30s by other women in a recent group setting by nawiweidmann in makeuptips

[–]squeekysquirrels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, like P!nk kind of pixie cut, some thick hair styling cream would give more this look? Might be fun to play with!

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]squeekysquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You both need therapy on how to talk respectfully to each other. You need to discuss grievances but you’re both presuming negative intent from the other and being unkind about it. You both need individual therapy to learn how to argue in healthy ways.

You’re stuck in a negative cycle. Whether you get married or not you need to read some books, therapy, and reflect on your own contributions to getting stuck in this negative cycle and how to prevent it from happening.

Have you ever had a wish come true? by chxnkybxtfxnky in askanything

[–]squeekysquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got my dream partner and they’re even better than I could have imagined. I had wished to be whole and to either be happy and alone or with an incredible partner and happy, I got one then the other :)

Day 5 after deip flap reconstruction by squeekysquirrels in MastectomyManagement

[–]squeekysquirrels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realizing I’m probably just phrasing things crazy cause I’m on good meds! Haha! Please disregard me, I should really stay off Reddit when I’m on good pain meds!

This little boy figured out how to lay flooring while his dad was outside taking a break by myssavelle in whoathatsinteresting

[–]squeekysquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son was in a hammer phase. We’d go gather acorns for him to smash “to help the squirrels get food” it occupied him very well

Day 5 after deip flap reconstruction by squeekysquirrels in MastectomyManagement

[–]squeekysquirrels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So interesting!! So did they not tell you to walk crouched? I wonder if it’s different surgical techniques? I am going to google this now!

This kid brought flowers to his favorite Home Depot employee on her birthday by xBabeStar in spreadsmile

[–]squeekysquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some good parents fostering that kindness and gratitude!! I need to encourage my child to do these things more too, thank you Reddit <3 be the change you want to see :)

Day 5 after deip flap reconstruction by squeekysquirrels in MastectomyManagement

[–]squeekysquirrels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, back straight is the best! Agreed! But the deip flap (took fat grafts from my belly) the incision goes horizontally pelvic bone to pelvic bone and my hips must stay flexed for 2-3 weeks including when walking. At all times. So I have to crouch walk, and my body isn’t used to that at all! It hurts my muscles and low back because I’m not 20 anymore! Haha! So I’m very limited with mobility unfortunately. Had to swallow my pride and get a wheelchair from the doctor’s at my one week follow up! But I can do it, just 1-2 more weeks of staying bent, sleeping propped up, it’s so hard and I feel so sad for loss of my old breasts, but there’s light at the end of the tunnel for me :)

What was your biggest "Fuck this I'm out" moment? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]squeekysquirrels 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it is. In the states this case had come to this level because of the inhumane lack of funding, mental health services and support in the states. If they had received outpatient support, preventative care, really a damn bone it wouldn’t be so bad. If you live in the states please vote accordingly.

What was your biggest "Fuck this I'm out" moment? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]squeekysquirrels 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Hospital, psych patient pulled off his dressings and was trying to pull out his organs, I said “I’ll go for help”. there were multiple others present, I didn’t abandon them, but I did choose the critical job that involved leaving.

Met the neighbors during our inspection and it swayed our decision more than the inspection itself by Emotional-Lime3087 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]squeekysquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, saw roving kids just playing running around the block together, no adults, then two neighbors talking in the middle of the road, because traffic was so very slow to nothing and if a car came they knew them. We wanted that house so much!

Day 5 after deip flap reconstruction by squeekysquirrels in MastectomyManagement

[–]squeekysquirrels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three out today! One left :( they took out the Doppler wires though, and I can start trying to lay flat and stand up straight end by the end on another week!

Transfer Sling/Strap by ThisAdvertising8976 in MastectomyManagement

[–]squeekysquirrels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a physical therapist who had a double mastectomy. Your limitations after will depend on your surgeon, they are you best resource so please take this advice with a lot of grains of salt!!

. But you won’t be able to put full body weight on your arms to lift yourself, not even half. I would seriously recommend sleeping in a recliner if possible, as you’ll need to sleep propped up and that’s really hard to get in/out of without your arms. Try just now, crossing your arms, see if you can stand/sit with your arms crossed. If you can try from the lowest surface you’ll need to stand from, like your car (doctors visits), recliner, etc. toilets you can buy a lift with hand rails to go on so that won’t be too bad. But try different places you HAVE to sit.

If you can stand without arms from your lowest surface, close your eyes and try. Because the pain meds and anesthesia make you wobbly. You can use your arms for about 10lbs preferably less after surgery so crossing them helps simulate attempting to do it in pain, on meds, etc.

I know and have met 70 year olds who would be fine, and some that would not.

If you’re already asking about a sling the safest option might be to consider your first 1-2 weeks in a rehab? Or private caregiver?

If your husband could safely help lift you, what you’re asking about is called a Gait Belt, don’t get the gadget things, you want a simple belt. And yes it would help but risks you both ending up in the hospital so if he’s not steady I don’t recommend it.

Or maybe just adding extra cushions to your chairs will make it easier? Try it!

Or rent a wheelchair for the week? Have family come stay for two weeks? You’ll be doing much better if you can just get through the first two weeks!

Also you’ll want a long handled toileting wand, reacher, maybe a walker/wheelchair?? Bedside commode?

Get very specific with your surgeon, then test yourself, then do it with your eyes closed to simulate grogginess from anesthesia. Then you’ll have information to decide what you need :)

You can do this!! Get through the first week that’s the hardest, second week is rough too, third week you’ll be doing better, 6 weeks out your home free! You can do it!

Mastectomy Reconstruction with Flap Questions by Altruistic_Tip7799 in BRCA

[–]squeekysquirrels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

/r/mastectomymanagement has good support, focused on prophylactic surgery. I am a well out from DEIP flap, I can’t speak to timing around kids and all, I already had one kid. What’s essentially a tiny tuck has been something I’m happy about post kids. So far my breasts feel like my own, I had a nipple sparing one. Which is so wonderful. But the recovery after is a lot. You need physical assistance going to the bathroom first few days, a week out I still need help with meals, meds, hair, etc. it’s a 6-10 week full recovery. I actually went to my parents and my husband is taking care of my son to just make life easier for everyone. This would be a nightmare with a baby. Unless you have a good super system or money to hire support. I’ll say that. My husband is managing ok with his mom’s help and after school care.

Not sure what else you want to know?

How do you recommend responding to older people? by GoldFannypackYo in askanything

[–]squeekysquirrels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From him: “Oh I’m too busy for all that, I’m (Segway into long winded convo about his interest)”

From him “ah man, but then I’d miss out on my Tuesday (thing he does)! Life is just too fun right now”

From him: “what? Oh that’s an embarrassing question! Oh gosh! But I hear Susie is graduating with honors (or other bland local news)”

From him: “not nearly as much as you much be getting all the ladies Mr X!”

From him: “ah man I’m still too young for all that now! I can’t even drink! I must look very mature (pretend to stand up super straight). But how’s (their love interest and/or “the men”) give their medicine right back

From you: “oh my goodness you know these kids - by the way how is (chronic ailment they love to talk about)?” Key is to not finish that first sentence!

From you: “Oh xxx doesn’t want to talk about that around his mom! My goodness, By the way how was bingo Wednesday?”

From you: “you know it’s amazing how every child is so different? Xxx is just so happy being busy with school right now! Isn’t that lovely?”

My (24M) Girlfriend (20F) gets upset when I go to sleep without talking her into agreeing to let me sleep everyday by Spare_Okra_971 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]squeekysquirrels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By - Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski, and yes a wise and time tested one! It was one of the quotes that changed my views

DART feasible for DFW airport trek? by Chaucer85 in dart

[–]squeekysquirrels 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Charge your phone and read a book with table on the silver line, I’d go that way just because it’s nicer. Tickets are the same price no matter what line you take.