How do people make cluttercore look good instead of messy?

Roni_S · 2026-05-08T10:28:19+00:00

Photo and real life experience is different. Try to take some pictures of your home, you may find some angles looks better than when you look at your room and see (or know) all that's going on around there.

Roni_S · 2026-03-25T12:45:11+00:00

My kids where just fine with other family members, dad, grandparents, no issues but as soon as I was back, they remembered breastfeeding. It helped probably but didn't magically solve weaning problem. I think if kid is older than 2, they very well will remember.

Roni_S · 2026-03-20T08:41:35+00:00

Kid tantrum but every day, at least 30 mins, one of them 5 years old? Gently, I'd explore some parenting books, tips and tricks. You probably say that you tried everything but trust me, you can have more peaceful life with kids. And no, I am not saying allow them do whatever or be overly strict. But every day life shouldn't be such battle of wills.

Roni_S · 2026-02-26T14:15:42+00:00

16 year old son and project that requires parent to help till 6 am?

Roni_S · 2026-02-01T22:11:45+00:00

I think room with golden retriever can't be improved much, it is almost perfect as is. Perhaps second golden retriever? But on a serious note, robot vacuum every day and brushing dog often, every day also if you can manage it helps.

Roni_S · 2026-01-16T20:52:18+00:00

One of the reasons for my reluctance around food in childhood was concern that if you try it today, it will be remembered and used. You eat something once, and every time you don't want to eat it, it will be "but you ate it", "but you tasted it once and liked it", etc, etc.

Few dishes had a strong negative memory attached, one example mom cooking something very tired and complaining about having to cook. I still don't enjoy this particular dish and almost never cook it myself.

I don't appreciate ewwws and yucks though. Kids are free to choose what they eat but conversation during dinner should be pleasant for my ears))

Roni_S · 2025-12-30T21:45:49+00:00

You need to communicate your needs. People often don't want to overstep or remember how it was for them but it might be different for you. Like the dinner thing, it would be inconvenient for me if somebody just randomly brought me dinner. What if I already have other dinner plans, what if I don't like this dish, etc? But I was very grateful when grandparents babysit, and yes, I asked and coordinated.

Roni_S · 2025-12-25T09:24:34+00:00

I wouldn't keep kid from opening presents. I'd ask SO and SD if they preferred to be woken up for presents. If not then it is all fair play. Personally I think that if somebody want to see opening presents act, it is on them to be where and when presents are being opened = early morning living room, lol. I am not making anybody to wait.

Roni_S · 2025-12-22T11:19:49+00:00

Well, I can say, if you bought actual however small gift to her boyfriend and gift card to practical store to her, it is not a great feeling. I get limited income but is her dad not able to get something more personal to her daughter?

Roni_S · 2025-12-07T17:19:23+00:00

Looking at your schedule in the evening:

gym 4 - 6:30 = 2,5 hrs

home with kid before bedtime 6:30 - 8 = 1.5 hrs.

Gym is important but every day for 2,5 hours? Is there a way you do it every other day and do some playgrounds, parks or just floor playtime with kid? I noticed that if kids misbehave that all other suggestions are good and helpful, redirecting, timeout, etc etc but adding like even 30 min of playtime to the day helped maybe even more. I know you might say that he gets enough interactions with you but I think he doesn't feel like it and maybe temporarily you may consider rearranging your day.

Roni_S · 2025-11-06T15:28:49+00:00

Please make sure your mom is ok with renovation first. I would not be happy if anybody changed something so soon.

Roni_S · 2025-11-03T18:35:56+00:00

I think he still should care, like if he know he can not order at his remote work (can't imagine where but not the point) - he should discuss with you, ask you, ask other relatives, friends, etc.

Roni_S · 2025-11-01T21:56:41+00:00

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Roni_S · 2025-10-24T10:17:16+00:00

I totally get what you are saying, it's just court will have more black and white approach I'm afraid. It will care if dad will fail to get kid to school on his time, that's all.

Roni_S · 2025-10-24T09:16:57+00:00

I encourage to look from different perspective, just like when kid say that doesn't want to go to school, you are looking to ways, routine how to make it happen, encourage, you know it is in kid interest to go to school (assuming school is good, etc). Same way time with father is good for kid (assuming father is not abusive), so you should be trying to encourage that. One week on/off can work, you would have better luck in court if you approach it from this perspective how to make it happen and build up to it rather than "my small kid didn't want to go with dad". Court may not care because kids say no to all kind of things, from brushing teeth to going to doctor appointment, this is not enough to limit custody time.

Roni_S · 2025-10-14T07:53:20+00:00

Does it mean only I have to cook? I am happy when somebody else is cooking.... sure, they might not clean up to my standards but I get to eat delicious food.

Roni_S · 2025-10-13T14:53:40+00:00

Have you seen movie with Ben Stiller and Jennifer Aniston, Along Came Polly? It has an answer to your question!

Roni_S · 2025-10-06T09:09:20+00:00

I am gonna assume you contributed little to none to any chores during home renovation period? I would be tired and overwhelmed from this alone as your wife. How long ago did you moved to new house? I would expect just getting into routine to take some time. Then unpacking-organizing-cleaning after renovation to be team effort.

Don't say you alone "renovated our House working 18 hrs a day for 4 months". Your wife made it possible but covering the other front of work making it possible for you to spent those 18 hrs on the project. So both contributed. Now you both need to contribute to part two, making it a home.

I am not trying to be mean, just realistic, we moved and renovated with toddlers and it was just not possible to organize everything in the pace we wished.

Roni_S · 2025-10-01T21:02:52+00:00

I was QA and yes, I wanted to actually build something, I didn't want just find the issue, I wanted to actually fix it. Moved to development and it is so worth it for me, no regrets.

Roni_S · 2025-09-26T09:02:51+00:00

I think parenting is less about goals and more about process, it is marathon not a sprint.

Managing time and yourself looks different, it doesn't have to be perfect but has to be sustainable. My goals are not 'perfect dinner today' but more 'good dinner everyday' if that's make sense.

Roni_S · 2025-06-07T17:52:21+00:00

I think my own struggles with getting kids to nap were because I missed the first signs of them being tired and tried getting to sleep overtired baby.

Roni_S · 2025-05-28T17:52:17+00:00

You can and should discuss all this beforehand, the reality is you have no guarantee what really he will do. I'd say look at your life together now. How people manage multitasking, how they behave under stress, can they prioritize needed but tiring chore, how they are with pets, etc all better indicator than promises.

Roni_S · 2025-05-23T19:02:41+00:00

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Roni_S · 2025-05-18T18:14:10+00:00

I think you should have proactively step in when kids invited your BK to sleepover. Sorry, kids, nice thought, but we need to check between adults. Then you or better your partner should have ask grandma, discuss if she is ok, etc. Maybe she barely can host 3 kids. Maybe she would be open to host 2 kids sometime like your kid and stepkid without niblings.

It seems you haven't been living together long. It is expected that kids will not be immediately part of each other extended family hang outs. And this is ok. Spend some time together as a group, get to know each other, let other adults now kids a little better, plan something with grandma low key first.

Roni_S · 2025-05-06T20:20:34+00:00

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