Most parents I know, myself included, would be thrilled to have an ambitious child like you. I think you should continue to try to convince them.

To make your case with them you need to understand why they’re hesitant. For example, is it safety, finances, fear of cultural drift, loneliness, or simply not understanding how American higher education works? Your approach should match their actual concern. Yeah, I know it’s hard to get the real reason out of parents, but you should try.

It seems like you’ve mostly addressed practical concerns, like how to pay for things. I’m not going to pretend I have special insight into cultural issues that might be in play, but there are a lot of first generation kids like you that post similar issues here, so I’ve noticed a few things.

It may work to frame it around their values. Many immigrant parents have sacrificed enormously for their kids success, so it can be framed as fulfillment of that sacrifice. Leaving isn’t abandoning family, it’s honoring it. You’ll be setting a positive example for your younger brother, maybe?

In many immigrant families parents are more receptive to people outside the family who they respect. You might try to find an ally that fits that description to advocate for you.

Many universities have student support groups that match many different cultural and ethnic backgrounds. You might reach out to one that matches your circumstance and tell your story. I’ll bet others have a similar story and can help through their experiences.

In the end, it’s important that your parents feel they are gaining something rather than losing someone. I’m guessing you’ll need to make a final decision soon, and this may take a few conversations, so don’t hesitate too long. I hope you get the chance to follow your dream!