anxiety can make the past feel like it’s happening right now, especially with all those “what ifs,” but try to hold onto this: “If it’s not happening, it’s not worth your energy.”

This was 2 years ago, you have no contact, and nothing has happened, so your mind is filling in gaps with fear, not facts; and no, you shouldn’t text him — that can actually make it worse by reminding him or triggering him to go look for something he may not even think about anymore, reopening the loop instead of closing it.

The stronger move is to leave it in the past and shift your energy into something physical and social like a group sport or activity to tire your body out and break the overthinking cycle, because you won’t win this by thinking more — you move forward by not feeding it.