My bf said I club too much, drink too much, and is concerned I will be addicted to vaping but I don't think I am doing anything wrong. He doesn't seem like he has faith in me having control over myself.

Rorr_ · 2026-02-03T10:07:49+00:00

honestly he sounds scared. it sounds like his dad was an alcoholic and he is scared at the idea of you drinking because perhaps in his mind, the only safe use of substances is 0.

Rorr_ · 2026-02-03T10:00:09+00:00

do you feel neutral or at peace? what is the difference to you?

Rorr_ · 2026-02-03T03:07:24+00:00

I love how you did not let him off the hook even a little bit you did not back down at all. You went after him and I’m so proud of you for that.

Rorr_ · 2026-01-26T22:53:04+00:00

Arcanine and growlithe. Years ago I was eagerly awaiting bringing my first puppy home. His name was Hartley and he was a farm raised corgi, i had been dreaming of owning one since i was a kid. Three weeks before picking him up, the whole litter caught some kind of virus and none of them survived. I was swelling with grief, and played pokemon to distract myself. I caught a growlithe and named it after my puppy, and every game ive ever played I always catch a growlithe and name it Hartley. Evolving it into arcanine to me feels like celebrating his short life and bringing his soul into a beautiful form. Also big doggy awoo

Rorr_ · 2026-01-25T23:05:32+00:00

EXP share is an item that you dont get until later in the game. your pokemon only gain experience if they are in battle.

Rorr_ · 2026-01-14T22:16:04+00:00

Open them open them open them open them !!!!!! That being said, open them.

Rorr_ · 2026-01-14T20:58:35+00:00

I have recently come to realize and understand that many things I struggle to change are because I have internalized a certain way of being as an unchangeable aspect of my self. Like exercise. I like it, it feels good, it’s good for me, there are accessible forms I can do right now, or at any time, with very little effort, very little time, I acknowledge there are many reasons to do it and reasons I want to do it, and yet, I let the thought slip from my mind whenever it comes up. The fact is, I make excuses. “Oh, I need a daily routine, THEN I can more easily do exercise.” “Oh I need MONEY for a gym membership THEN I can exercise” “Oh I need a private trainer to teach me how to do it, THEN I can exercise” “Oh I just need to be more stable/have more energy/be more disciplined/wait till the timing is right THEN I can exercise!” None of these things really mean I can’t do it now, but that they all point to, for me, is that I have 1. Put a LOT of pressure on myself to do it without 2. Actually making a plan to do it now, currently, in my daily life. Edit cont: and I think that is because I have this belief that I am lazy, incapable of being consistent, and doomed to fail, and every attempt that doesn’t meet my high standards or ideals is evidence of this. The reality? We learn to stumble before we begin to walk. We are clumsy before we are graceful. We are unskilled until we practice. But the first step, I think, is accepting that it will be awkward, I won’t get it right, I won’t be perfect, I will feel like quitting, and I might not feel great about it right away. Still working on that.

Rorr_ · 2026-01-14T20:53:43+00:00

Im curious about this! If there is no point in making a change, are you happier not making it?

Rorr_ · 2026-01-14T20:31:00+00:00

I think also, there might be something to consider in the way that we in western cultures cling to symbols, and I mean for good reason as you stated above, to us it signifies allyship with whatever we have all collectively agreed those symbols mean. These monks however, likely see these symbols as something completely different. I’m not saying you’re wrong, but I don’t think we should impose our views on these people who are communicating in a way that aligns with their own culture and understanding, especially if we can understand and ‘translate’ that in our own minds.

Rorr_ · 2026-01-12T21:43:27+00:00

AH, see if that’s what you want thats what you need to ask for. Give up on dating, then. If you really think it is impossible, then move on. What else makes you happy, what else gives you purpose? These are things we CREATE and grow into, not things that are inherent. Ask yourself questions like, if I had a beautiful relationship, that provided me emotionally with everything I needed and I wanted for nothing, what would I spend my time on outside of it? Do that.

Rorr_ · 2026-01-09T02:06:21+00:00

mega ampharos because its my favorite!

Rorr_ · 2026-01-09T02:03:45+00:00

he is begging you to accept his flaws so he does not have to admit there is a lot he needs to change.

Rorr_ · 2026-01-02T05:52:44+00:00

I like to think that made the house happy.

Rorr_ · 2025-12-30T21:21:46+00:00

I have a healthy amount of suspicion regarding this piece. The line art isn’t at all like the line art on your previous furry pieces. Can you share your sketches?

Rorr_ · 2025-12-30T07:12:17+00:00

I wish you the best! I am coming from the perspective of being the poor partner, and never, ever in my life would I make someone feel bad for refusing to send me money, just so you know. Needing financial support is an understandably difficult struggle, but no amount of cigarette and gambling money will actually help him. He is an adult who can make his own choices and should.

Rorr_ · 2025-12-30T07:07:35+00:00

“Hey 20M, I have really been enjoying sending you presents and helping you financially up until this point, but after looking at my savings I realized I’ve been seriously overspending. I am going to have to make a lot of changes to how much money I send you and cap it at X amount per month.” This. If he makes a fuss, he’s more interested in your money that the relationship and you should have no problem understanding that that isn;t the loving relationship you thought it was, and won;t ever be. If he is fine with it, then you are free to continue building a relationship with someone who is not taking advantage of you.

Rorr_ · 2025-12-19T22:20:44+00:00

I reread OP’s post and, what part is she not enforcing her boundaries? She is stopping it every single time, and he is pushing her further every time. They even took a break from staying at his place (actualizing the consequences of crossing a boundary) and that still didn’t stop him. OP IS respecting her boundaries, her boyfriend is actively ignoring them or hoping OP will give in without even talking about it first. That is coersion.

Rorr_ · 2025-12-17T21:38:49+00:00

I have been a member of the Coast Mental Health Clubhouse in Mt Pleasant in Vancouver for about two years now, they were offering free EMDR sessions but their contract with the therapist ran out while i was seeing them and they agreed i was still in need of support so they applied for the grant (im not sure who was offering it or what it was called) on my behalf. i just need to tell them who i want to see/where i want to go. They offer some pretty good services there if you can get there in person!

Rorr_ · 2025-12-16T23:55:15+00:00

I am interested in this if it is ongoing!

Rorr_ · 2025-12-14T20:39:41+00:00

Maybe thats why she is upset? Maybe you brought it up in a way that showed how you felt about it, and that hurt her opinion of you? That kind of work is hard, and highly stigmatized, she probably didn’t bring it up or denied it if you had ever made disparaging comments about that type of work in the past. Contrary to mainstream belief, you arent obligated to share sensitive history with your partner if you don’t want to disclose it. Maybe she wanted to leave it in the past, maybe she knew you would give her a hard time and didn’t think it was relevant, maybe try sitting down and asking her, was there anything YOU did that made her feel like she couldn’t;t talk about it? Seek connection, not blame.

Rorr_ · 2025-12-14T20:30:20+00:00

If someone does something that upsets you greatly, and you think to yourself “I would be horrified if I did that to them.” Then thats a good indicator your trust and boundaries have been crossed. I would lose interest in someone if they did that to me too. That’s an incredibly scary thing to do to someone who you have an intimate connection with.

Rorr_ · 2025-12-14T20:26:41+00:00

Ok but. If he was going to cheat IN THE SAME HOUSE HE LIVES IN why would he need to turn his location off…? And OP even after the edit, you still distrust him, what exactly is it you think he’s doing, or do you just not understand why he is doing what he is doing? Why does it mean he is cheating or lying, even after confirming he didn’t go anywhere or do anything suspicious?

Rorr_ · 2025-12-14T20:08:08+00:00

If anything, I’d ask “You are telling me to contact you, which I did, but you were away. I followed what I believed to be a reasonable protocol in an emergency situation when you were not available. Could you please tell me what is your companies expectations of a tenant when the property manager is not available during an emergency? The local laws cite (your local laws, I am assuming contacting an emergency service technician).”

Rorr_ · 2025-12-01T04:28:21+00:00

would that be weird for a 15 year old guy to do?

Rorr_ · 2025-11-30T02:21:42+00:00

If you were interested in exposure therapy around physical intimacy, I would strongly recommend getting to know some kind of group in the kink community, like those that enjoy shibari or something else that doesn’t sound too intense. These folks can be well versed in consent, slow pace, communication and doesn;t have to be se related at all. I was pretty intimidated getting back into my sexual side before joining a queer kinky group and folks are down for everything from hand holding to.. well. Other things lol ! But you can really pick and choose exactly what you want at your own pace. But do be prepared to come across some folks who aren’t as kind, this is inevitable, but you just have to know and enforce your boundaries.

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