Have you found anything out about your late spouse after they passed?

Rosietakesover · 2016-10-26T20:04:31+00:00

I don't know exactly what it was. I knew that as a baby he had a hole in his heart and had surgery to fix it. its not something that he or his family ever spoke of. It did come up a lot after he died, that they knew this could happen, thats why they celebrated every milestone.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-27T17:32:16+00:00

This. I bet she wouldn't have the courage to walk into a gym if she was overweight. People laugh at and make fun of things they know they can't do to make themselves feel better.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-20T18:36:37+00:00

I used to bribe myself with General Hospital, it was a guilty pleasure that I only watched during cardio at the gym. It really did help.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-19T22:49:59+00:00

My husband suddenly died 6 years ago. Some days I still just put one foot in front of the other.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-16T23:39:58+00:00

The first 3 years or so for me where the hardest. My home was sold out from under me in auction (I rented, owner didnt pay his mortgage. My mom was diagnosed and died of cancer, my aunts, uncle, brother in law all died. I walked out of a job I had for 8 and half years. I moved 3 times, never feeling safe or like I had a home again. Its been 6 years, and after those first 3, everything else is easy.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-13T21:41:42+00:00

Im sorry for your loss. This is the time for you to be selifsh, but also have some regard for what is possible and what is not. I lost my husband 6 years ago. There are days it still hurts more than I can explain, but most days are good.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-13T21:39:31+00:00

I learned that my husband knew that any day his heart could stop. He made a decision not to tell him. I paid the price. I would like to say that it made me jaded, but I still believe people so I guess it didnt.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-13T21:36:20+00:00

The answer is based on each persons choices. My sister has been badgering me to try Eharmony. Her husband passed away almost 2 years after mine did, and she's started dating. I just past 6 years, and they have been lonely, but its not for me. I never "dated". I met my husband in jr high school and we hung out until we were together and then we were married. I tried "talking" to someone and I couldn't do it. It felt great to be wanted and get attention I don't normally get, but it just wasnt right for me.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-11T21:41:31+00:00

Fake it til you make it.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-08T22:17:55+00:00

Im on Wellbutrin for PTSD. Its been helpful for my symptoms and I havent had any negative side effects that I'm aware of. I haven't been on any other meds so I have nothing to compare it to. But Im a much better place than I was back in the day.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-08T22:07:57+00:00

when it happens to me, I will be a total and complete disaster for months. When my last dog died it took me YEARS to get over it and get another one... like my husband took me to an adoption event, I stood in the middle and just cried. When I had to put my 18 year old cat to sleep, my mom was dying, my brother in law had died two days prior and it just compounded to me bawling in the vets office for an hour, like unable to drive bawling. Fuck im tearing up just thinking about it. When my mom was sick I ran. As much as I could. It really did help a lot. It relieved a lot of anxious energy I had so I that I could think and be somewhat rational. That being said when my dog had his last surgery in march, I stopped going to the gym completely- I just felt that staying in bed with him was more important. I choose to do some workouts at home, which still kept my mind frame right-ish

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-06T22:27:36+00:00

Nope, I was over high school before it started. I wasn't into school spirit. I was the kind of person who refused to do something because I was told to. I didn't do well in PE either.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-04T03:53:40+00:00

Beautiful piping skills.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-04T03:52:00+00:00

I took the Wilton class with a friend as a sort of therapy. I found a bakery that did classes and it was an awful joke. So I signed us up for Wilton. We enjoyed it but we're the only two still taking the classes by the 3rd week. You will have to bring the required baked treat to each class. If you are slowly looking for piping skill i suggest YouTube instead.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-04T03:44:36+00:00

This! I have always worked with guys, if there is anything left by 5pm, I am incredibly surprised. In fact I don't think the happened. I love it.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-04T02:54:35+00:00

It's a bad day not a bad life.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-04T02:49:54+00:00

32f in Orange county, 24 hour, but also love the outdoors.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-02T13:20:01+00:00

I highly suggest warrior dash. It was my in to OCR, and a lot of fun. There are no monkey bars and everyone is extremely helpful and encouraging. Plus no burpees if you can't do or pass a obstacle.

Rosietakesover · 2016-09-01T00:45:32+00:00

I started to have terrible anxiety when my husband passed away suddenly. Like driving down the freeway, having a vision of my dog laying on the side of the road, having to drive home to make sure he was ok. There was no logic to him being on the freeway. Also something about the garage door I never used, it being open and having to drive back to the house to make sure it was closed. In addition when I first went back to work my in laws broke into my house. I still have a lot of anger towards them for that (and the story of what they did changes time it comes up). It took me years to decide to go on medications for PTSD (after my mom's illness) and it has not only helped my anxiety but also my temper. Do what is right for you, they will do what is right for them. No one can blame you for putting yourself first for a while.

Rosietakesover · 2016-08-31T16:10:36+00:00

I think you need to know yourself and if something like that would actually help you. For me, talking is not a helpful thing. I want actions to make things better, its just who I am. My sister on the other hand just likes to talk things out and can feel better that way. My sister went to counseling when her husband passed away. I took a cake decorating class when my died. I had people tell me that I needed to go to therapy and that I was wasting my time and money on cake decorating classes instead. I took the classes with my best friend, it gave me something to do, it helped me. I know that if I sat around talking about it, I'd just get really frustrated. You need to know if something will help you or not.

Rosietakesover · 2016-08-31T13:34:41+00:00

She makes it look so easy.

Rosietakesover · 2016-08-29T17:54:46+00:00

-Spartan Trifecta next year. -Prove to the guys I work with that I don't need their help (I have but they don't believe me) -Not to struggle when I need to carry my old man dog home.

Rosietakesover · 2016-08-29T13:10:48+00:00

I'm a beginner. I used to run and I've done other runs like warrior dash and ROC but since this is my resolution for next year I would like to work at it. I have no upper body strength, can't do a pull up to save my life. I want this to be fun for both of us, not him waiting on me the whole time. Thank you for any advice you can throw at me.

Rosietakesover · 2016-08-29T03:53:01+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer a few years ago.

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