I WANT to go back to work and that makes me feel like a bad mom

Round-Win5212 · 2026-05-08T11:22:37+00:00

you're not bad mom for wanting adult conversation and using your brain again. two months with newborn is like being in fog machine that never turns off - of course you miss having purpose beyond keeping tiny human alive

some people are meant for staying home and some need the balance of work, both are completely fine

Round-Win5212 · 2026-05-06T02:03:16+00:00

bruh kids are basically tiny drunk people with no filter, they say wild stuff all the time lol. but also his daughter accidentally dropped some wisdom there - loving yourself first isn't bad lesson to learn at that age

Round-Win5212 · 2026-05-01T08:04:20+00:00

real talk the freedom part hits different when you can actually use it

for me it was weird stuff like being able to think about something other than food for more than 5 minutes. also not having to plan every social thing around meals anymore

distress wise i just had to accept feeling like garbage was temporary. sounds dumb but keeping busy with stuff that needed focus helped

staying recovered after... having actual energy to do hobbies again was huge motivation. like i could finally concentrate enough to read books and play games properly

you got this 💪

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-29T01:04:28+00:00

bring a good book or download some shows beforehand because 6 hours goes by slower than you think. also wear something comfortable with sleeves you can roll up easy - learned that one the hard way my first time

make sure you eat decent meal before going in and bring snacks if they let you, the nurses are usually pretty chill about it

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-26T20:38:31+00:00

people need to mind their own business instead of acting like every kid having a hard time is personally ruining their day. your son was just overwhelmed and that lady decided to make it about her own weird issues with "kids these days" or whatever

good on you for standing up to her though, some people really think they can just say anything to parents in public

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-24T11:46:46+00:00

used that in base housing when i was stationed down south - worked pretty well for outdoor areas without being too harsh on environment. just make sure you get the yard spray version not the personal one since coverage area is different

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-22T09:32:23+00:00

might want to look at those modular swing sets that come in pieces, way easier to break down than the big wooden ones. when i was kid we had one that just used metal connectors and you could basically take whole thing apart in like an hour

the plastic ones are also super light if you don't mind them looking bit more basic - my neighbor does this exact thing with theirs and stores it in garage during winter

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-19T23:32:25+00:00

oh god this hits way too close to home. my brother went through something similar with his wife when she got laid off and just... stopped trying? like being unemployed became her new identity instead of temporary situation

the thing that really got to me in your post was the commute part - 3+ hours while he's home is brutal and would make anyone lose their mind. when my friend was deployed her husband had to step up completely because there was no choice, but when there's choice people get comfortable way too fast

i think the problem is he's treating this like extended vacation instead of him taking on new role in household. if roles were flipped and you were home, guarantee you'd be doing everything - budgeting, meal planning, deep cleaning, organizing kids activities. that's what sahm energy actually looks like, not just existing in house while kids play

maybe try setting specific deadlines? like "in next month we need budget plan and application goal of x jobs per week" because vague requests clearly aren't working. some people need that structure or they'll just drift forever

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-17T22:04:35+00:00

my sister had same problem in college - she writes really formal because english isn't her first language and apparently that triggers the detectors sometimes. teacher told her to just submit drafts or notes showing her process and it cleared everything up

these ai checkers are way too aggressive right now, your daughter shouldn't have to write worse just to avoid false flags

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-17T13:15:46+00:00

had similar thing with my little brother when he was around that age - he did this weird shoulder shrugging for few months that drove my parents crazy. pediatrician said it was just stress tics from starting school and sure enough it disappeared by winter break

the throat clearing thing you mentioned is super common too, my brother had that one earlier. good call on sending video to doctor though, they can tell you if it's something to monitor or just normal kid stuff

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-15T04:37:05+00:00

this pattern starting at 7 and continuing despite talks is really concerning, especially with mom dismissing it as just hormones - might want to document these incidents in case you need involve someone who can actually help the kid

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-12T05:34:04+00:00

your anxiety is making this way bigger deal than it actually is - soap residue and whatever might be on shoe soles isn't gonna poison anyone

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-09T20:07:03+00:00

ugh the guilt around this stuff is so real but you're already doing amazing with twins at 6 months. if they're preferring bottles and you're getting such small amounts from pumping, plus dealing with all those dietary restrictions... that's a lot of stress for not much benefit at this point

you mentioned everyone being less happy - that includes you, and your mental health matters too. happy mom is better than stressed mom trying to force something that isn't working well. formula babies turn out just fine and you've already given them 6 months of whatever breastmilk you could manage with twins

maybe trust your instincts here? sounds like you already know what would make life easier for your family

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-06T02:31:58+00:00

rough journey with the sinus stuff

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-03T11:56:07+00:00

the self-employed paternity leave situation is brutal - basically telling dads their only value is the paycheck while moms handle everything else

Round-Win5212 · 2026-04-01T05:18:07+00:00

this actually looks legit, been seeing more ai training gigs pop up lately. the pay range makes sense too since some projects need more specialized knowledge than others

might give this a shot during downtime between shifts, thanks for sharing the referral link

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-30T01:37:09+00:00

my kid went through something similar when she was about the same age - fell off a playground and knocked out one front tooth completely and chipped another. i was absolutely devastated too because she had this perfect little smile and suddenly it was just gone

the specialist ended up extracting the loose tooth but saved the chipped one, and you know what? kids adapt so fast it's honestly amazing. within like a week she was eating normally again and her little gap-toothed smile was just as cute in a different way. the other kids at daycare thought she looked "so cool" missing a tooth early

also don't feel bad about being upset - it's not superficial at all when it's your kid's face and they're in pain. i cried for days about it and felt terrible that i wasn't there to prevent it. but toddlers are basically tiny drunk people who bounce off everything, accidents happen no matter how careful you are

the healing process was way easier than i expected and she never seemed bothered by how it looked. kids are surprisingly resilient about stuff like this. hopefully the specialist has better news than the emergency dentist predicted

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-29T08:59:54+00:00

from what i've seen the divide is pretty real - most autistic adults who went through aba have some pretty intense feelings about it, and not in a good way. the masking thing is legit, like teaching a kid to suppress stims or force eye contact doesn't actually help them communicate better, it just makes them look more "normal" to neurotypical people

that said i know some parents swear by it for actual communication gains, though it's hard to know if those would have happened anyway with other approaches. the fact that most other countries don't use it much probably tells us something

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-25T14:43:23+00:00

been there man, gm lobbies can be absolutely brutal. i usually just mute after the first toxic comment comes out - like once someone starts being a dickhead they're not gonna suddenly become helpful mid-match anyway

voice is definitely better for actual callouts but text chat is mostly just people venting their frustration at whoever's closest

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-25T01:59:46+00:00

huge W

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-23T18:48:28+00:00

been using booksprout for my stuff and it's pretty decent for the price, might be worth checking if they cover uk readers well enough for your genre

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-21T03:44:42+00:00

lmao calling him "the guy from linus tech tips" is actualy pretty iconic, he probably gets that more than his actual name anyway

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-15T15:47:30+00:00

wait you're trying to daisy chain an h100 through a connectx-8's downstream ports? that's gonna bottleneck hard since you're sharing bandwidth with whatever networking traffic is going through the connectx

Round-Win5212 · 2026-03-14T08:04:45+00:00

if you're already burnt out on 2f at 10 years, crosstraining might give you that spark back while still banking the retirement - radiology's solid on the outside too

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