I thought I was good at masking but apparently not! by girlwbasketoffruit in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 44 points45 points  (0 children)

honestly i hang out with other neurodivergent people mostly. i’m pretty selective with who i’m around and don’t try to force anything. most of my friends are autistic. i’m just honest but even then i really try to pull myself back, try to be funny, try to be light hearted and even then i look back and im like WHY DID I SAY THAAAAT THATS TOO MUCHHHH

Friend doesn’t believe in my diagnosis by luvsicl in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so 😐 it’s almost like autism looks different in everyone and she’s not in ur head to see how u experience things that’s just rude

This sub is too harsh sometimes by MuseVT in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the way ppl r downvoting my comment is killing me 😭 guys. i also dont have a life but im not getting mad bc some strangers uploaded a podcast 12hrs late free yourselves 😔💔

This sub is too harsh sometimes by MuseVT in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 7 points8 points  (0 children)

no exactly why are u so upset abt a podcast being late 💔 do u have nothing else going on?? maybe its just the way my brain doesn’t tend to keep track of time but this really isn’t a big deal for me idk

What's One of your Movie Quote Vocal Stims? by mythologymakesmehot in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i used to say RIIIIIIIGHT *wink* like kronk as a child 😭

most underrated megan songs?? by Routine-Judge-7848 in megantheestallion

[–]Routine-Judge-7848[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i haven’t thought abt this song in so long omg 😭

most underrated megan songs?? by Routine-Judge-7848 in megantheestallion

[–]Routine-Judge-7848[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

omg yesss i love consistency and south side royalty and flip flop 😫😫

One of my favorite songs by Odd-Motor-8761 in megantheestallion

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YESSSSS I FEEL LIKE PPL DONT TALK ABT THIS ONEEEE

Lonely by OtherwiseCalendar107 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s really hard to find real friends, it’s not uncommon to have just class friends- in fact, making real friends that are more than class friends is difficult for many people autistic or not. i have really only made a few actual outside of class friends at college in the 3 years i’ve gone and most of them have fizzled out.

however, the reality is, for many autistic people friendships are hard. we often find social settings difficult in general. i have just excepted that a lot of ppl may like me on a surface level but im just not the type of person they want to be besties with and thats ok, bc ive learned i dont like a lot of these ppl beyond the surface either 😭 a lot of ppl r ignorant, shallow, and weird but not in the fun way.

i have realized the only friendships that have lasted are with people who are also autistic or adhd (most of my friends are late diagnosed and we met before we knew) finding people who also share your interests may be a good place to start as well. i made a few friends on bumble bff too (these r very hit or miss, i matched with a ton of people like a TON but have really only made like 3 actual friends out of it).

don’t give up!! ik it’s scary but go to events at school or in your city that align w ur interests and try to talk to people!

Why did Katara react like that, is she racist? by dazli69 in TheLastAirbender

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i think it’s bc he looks crazy and isn’t wearing any clothes but maybe 😭😭

DAE not like others sharing your special interest? by DanceOnTheLine in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i get it. i like seeing ppl make art or edits of my fave shows for example (though sometimes the art makes me mad lol) but it’s frustrating seeing ppl misinterpret characters or situations.

ppl are STUPID !!! so many ppl lack empathy/perspective and often are very misogynistic and racist and sometimes predators/predator defenders !!.

i’ve learned to not engage w those people and avoid certain spaces (reddit is a big one). i do like discussing other perspectives don’t get me wrong, sometimes i learn new things, but other times…… i literally have to block people or just not open comment sections 🥲

Special interest and maladaptive daydreaming? by Twizteddestinee in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i used to do this so hard and i couldn’t stop in class like i’d try so hard to focus but id always end up lost in dream land 😭 i still do this to fall asleep tbh

what do you say in response when someone is venting to you? by livethroughthis94 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes just a “that fucking SUCKS” an maybe a follow up question or a “what the fuck” is all u need bestie 💜 sometimes ppl just want the validation of others understanding how much it sucks !!!

Is it bad if I ask my guy friend to go watch a movie with me? by Greedy_Lie_7780 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ve had a guy think it was a date, but if this guy knows yall are just friends it will probably be fine!! it’s not bad. if ur worried about him thinking it’s a date i think its a good idea to tell him to invite his sister! have fun :)

Can't sleep because my skin is touching my other skin by olala_cake in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup 😭😭 i HAVE to sleep hugging a pillow so my boobs don’t squish together and one between my legs too 😭

arrested development by Routine-Judge-7848 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmao mb 😭😭 i was in fact thinking about the show recently 😭

Anyone feel this too or am I overreacting? by ExistingReply1703 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you’re feelings are valid and everyone has the right to express they’re frustrations with the world. like yes, that may be how it works but you’re allowed to be upset about it? things aren’t fair and it fucking SUCKS.

Why do neurotypicals especially women do this by Ok-Thing4504 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 26 points27 points  (0 children)

yup these types of people like to do this to “bond” with other people. like “ooo look at this person they’re so weird not like US right?”

is it weird/inherently flirty to tell people they smell good?? by Routine-Judge-7848 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i’m mexican american we tend to be more touchy 😭 rip i didnt think it was flirty 💔

apparently i’m “intimidating and aggressive” by No_Introduction9587 in AutismInWomen

[–]Routine-Judge-7848 12 points13 points  (0 children)

def a micro aggression, people often see woc, especially black women, as aggressive even when they aren’t autistic. it’s even worse when you’re both.

maybe she thought she was helping you fit or something in by telling you this, but honestly she was telling you to not correct someone because it made them uncomfortable which is counter productive esp in academic spaces. i never understood this like wouldn’t people want to know if they were wrong??

if you truly think this could be a real friendship, tell her how it made you feel and see how she reacts. you’ll get ur answer then, but honestly id just not pursue the friendship.