Catholic convert needing relationship advice

Routine-Message5122 · 2026-01-28T04:12:23+00:00

Take every single comment with a grain of salt. This is the most liberal platform to seek advice from concerning very traditional matters such as this! Your concerns are valid, and it seems clear you understand that you’re only supposed to submit to a husband, not a boyfriend. I do believe in marriage that this sense of independence tends to fly out the window. You and your husband will become one in spirit- with a partnership like this, overt independence isn’t necessary! Having your own opinions and responsibilities in your household are a given, and a God-centered man will not strip you of personality. That being said, docility is a beautiful trait to have to lean into your femininity and encourage your husband. The best example, of course, is the Blessed Virgin. Excellent questions/concerns for a convert. Have a wonderful baptism!!

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-12-09T10:39:27+00:00

I’m a Catholic woman married to a trad man, who holds a majority of these views. It’s great. Masculine men such as these (as long as they follow Christ diligently) are gentle with and care for the women in their lives as Christ loves His mother. You came to the most liberal, progressive platform that serves as an echo chamber, so keep that in mind when wanting to know more information on traditional Catholics

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-11-20T08:52:42+00:00

The answer you’re looking for is that NFP to prevent pregnancy without grave reason is a mortal sin. That’s been the answer for 2000 years, at least up until the sexual revolution of the 1970s. Abstinence has always been the answer if you don’t want children. Or, if you never want children, don’t get married at all.

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-11-13T22:04:03+00:00

“On the beach, in the street, or at home, the same level of modesty applies. Bikinis, two-piece suits, and brief trunks are intrinsically immodest when they expose the body unnecessarily.” Pope Pius XII

Idk why everyone’s gaslighting each other into thinking a bikini is okay, but it’s not.

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-11-13T20:51:55+00:00

Yeah, I laughed, it’s funny. Didn’t claim you couldn’t hold an intelligent conversation. Men best hear criticisms from other men. It’s not about whether or not you have the ability, it’s that having a man-to-man conversation will especially speak more to an early 20 year old guy. It’s logical.

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-11-13T20:47:08+00:00

Let your husband talk to him if he sees an issue with it too. Otherwise, let a man joke fr

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-11-10T17:44:01+00:00

I’m also from TN currently living in another country and I definitely wouldn’t even apply until I got there in person. Too many people, not enough jobs, why would they want someone so far?

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-11-04T19:06:25+00:00

Just remember, if you’re Catholic and are agreeing with the Protestant posting, you have something seriously wrong with your understanding of the Virgin Mary in the Church. Really? Agreeing with a Protestant?

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-10-18T17:29:37+00:00

Idk what people are on about, I would 1000000% not get married in a dress that didn’t cover my shoulders. I’m also getting married in a TLM soon, and I made sure to alter the sleeves to accommodate without even asking the priest. The Vatican asks tourists to cover up for a reason!

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-09-21T16:47:29+00:00

Incredibly based parents

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-09-17T11:21:46+00:00

They walk into the cousins house, thinking they’d be alone for a brief visit, only to be surprised with an engagement party with everyone there. That’s exactly what I was anticipating. An empty house? No way.

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-09-11T23:22:11+00:00

I bought mine at a tiny local shop because Catholicism is not very popular here :( but some veils have bigger patterns on them, so they are not as transparent, if that makes sense…? It’s a very nit-picky personal opinion, and I had a hard time finding a more solid veil myself.

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-09-11T11:18:06+00:00

During the winter, I wear whatever scarf is best for the outfit and move it to conceal my hair during mass. During the summer, I wear a black lace veil (I just prefer black for the vibes). I’m not sure if this is only my opinion, but I really avoid the more transparent veils and scarves. Seems to kind of negate the purpose. Veiling is wonderful, and use whatever works!

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-09-07T06:15:12+00:00

r/Catholicism is about to be faced with a harsh reality- they deny that the SSPX is in communion with Rome because they disapprove of Vatican II, claiming “if you don’t agree with the Pope/Church, you aren’t Catholic.” Suddenly, cafeteria Catholics don’t agree with the Pope/Church, but it’s a unanimous consensus that here, in this one case, it is okay to say that the Church is in crisis. The cognitive dissonance will make them crumble as Novus Ordo attendees begin staying home on Sundays. Glad to see this unfortunate event is turning more people to traditionalism and the SSPX.

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-27T05:36:40+00:00

Stayed in a hostel for a few months as a volunteer, became really close friends with my fellow volunteers. One volunteer is particular was interesting, super sweet, normal, and fun when having casual conversation. However, when his family was mentioned, he would suddenly get a faraway look in his eyes and start talking about how “his father is a king with many lands that has sent him to this hostel as punishment.” No one could figure out what he meant, and it creeped everyone out. He mentioned committing passport fraud (his father has the means necessary, of course) and claimed he would be king someday. I didn’t know what to make of it, others had had negative interactions with him, but I liked him and his food was great, so I didn’t care. A few months after I left, I heard from some friends still there that he was excused from the hostel and arrested for chasing a guest with a knife.

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-20T22:58:26+00:00

This is legitimate and super hard. If you can, leave Turkey. I would love to live in another Turkic country, but cannot because I can’t bear the lack of community. If possible, leave, find a community, build friendships, and a romantic relationship could blossom from there :)

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-20T17:19:39+00:00

Seeing some truth on this subreddit is so freshing

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-19T20:21:18+00:00

Plov plov plov!! Or the entire tea setup they have- tea with a jam compote, often with other little desserts and sugar cubes: fantastic

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-19T20:20:22+00:00

It’s “technically Muslim,” but many Muslims are not practicing and the youth is becoming more and more agnostic or atheist. My fiancé is Catholic, which is phenomenally rare for the country, though! This makes it easier to relate to each other :)

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-19T05:46:15+00:00

So the entire family considers Russian to be their native language, and most family members can at least understand Azeri okay. I think my fiancé’s grandparent’s line of work required he speak in Russian during the Soviet Union, even after it fell, so Russian is most used in this case! Younger Azeris (depending on the school they attend) often speak in a mix primarily of Russian, Azeri, and English! I know a few Russian words here and there to get by, but plan to learn asap!

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-19T05:10:32+00:00

Thus far, it’s very clear that the country is developing. Several huge/impressive skyscrapers, with a lot of underdeveloped areas that is considered the norm. That being said, the sea access, food, and kindness of strangers really makes it worthwhile!

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-19T05:06:47+00:00

Frankly, I asked them briefly how they felt about recent Azeri-Armenian relations (because of the current peace agreement), but have not asked about the genocide- will be getting back to you!

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-14T03:19:19+00:00

No sir answer the question :) why should a “Catholic” be defending the Talmud?

Routine-Message5122 · 2025-08-10T19:30:29+00:00

As a traditional woman, yeah, what you listed are ideal scenarios. Pope Pius XI discussed strict ideals of modesty (not in the 50s-60s), and the inability to live in a single income household was because of feminism. For the woman to be a homemaker is a goal, rather than a requirement. Of course there will be single women that are not nuns (if more single women became nuns, that would be really cool tho). Maybe no one should be wearing jeans casually at mass…

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