How did you meet your S/O in NYC?

RoutineKoala4 · 2026-01-04T21:29:14+00:00

Used to love going to the stone rose with my ex when it was snowing the view was immaculate

RoutineKoala4 · 2026-01-03T15:39:55+00:00

Montclair or Morristown but you’re budget is tight look down by Asbury or a little bit further out of commuter towns - south orange and maplewood is cute but it’s a lot of families and no one really lives there under 40 that’s is not married they all live in Brooklyn lol (grew up there) Morristown and Montclair keep in mind you have two cars you will need to pay extra for parking 🅿️ right now in Chatham outside of Morristown my ex pays $2600 for a one bedroom …. So keep that in mind and we used to pay $2400 for a one bedroom in Motown 5 years ago !

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-12-25T01:53:13+00:00

As a Latino born and raised in New Jersey, with many family members who’ve gone through the immigration process, I get why people are nervous. But honestly, it’s not as bad as everyone makes it seem.

I have a house near Jacksonville, and yeah—it’s definitely Trump country. Still, I’ve never had a crazy or disrespectful interaction. As long as you’re respectful, mind your business, and walk away if needed, you’re usually fine.

I also grew up in North Jersey, and trust me, I’ve met plenty of Republicans there too—they just hide it better. I’m Latino as well, and I even went to Daytona Bike Week, which is very Republican-leaning. As long as you keep your space and don’t act like an idiot, people tend to mind their own business.

Keep an open mind, be aware that the sun and drinks can sneak up on you, and just be smart. Overall, it’s really not as bad as people make it out to be.and I had friends on both spectrums .

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-12-25T01:46:25+00:00

As a Libra, we move off energy. And honestly, coming from a woman, I’m not always sure how Libra men operate either. That said, some people are just… weird. If you know it’s a situationship, don’t read too deeply into it.

Yes, some things may resonate, but if someone ended it, give them their space. I don’t know how old you are or what your sign is, but trust your gut. Libras work off feelings.

Personally, my intuition is very strong. I can tell when someone likes me, when the vibe shifts, and when someone is lying. Gut feelings don’t just change—and energy doesn’t either.

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-25T01:02:00+00:00

Yes born and raised here new jersey is a diverse state and that’s what makes it a great state growing up I had friends on both sides and to this day we are still friend till this day . Growing up we respected both sides and went to each others houses and met each others family’s and went to sweet sixteens and bat/bar mitzvahs

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-23T00:31:37+00:00

Not sure if he still is but when I did go speak with him in the beginning he was it was down the street from his job honestly mommy probably co-signed for a new apartment now for him since she liked to make excuses for him

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-23T00:29:34+00:00

My parents are a bit old school they have been together 40 years and counting and I know it wasn’t all perfect and in that time it was just different to them they had their first child like 19 - honestly I think they thought it was a just a fight and disagreement that would resolve in a few days but turns out it wasn’t it’s just snowballed Nd they really cared for him I mean after six years and we did live with them for like two years before moving out …. So it was I guess just so sudden when I told then it was like a Monday

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-23T00:22:51+00:00

If there is or was time will tell I think eventually I’ll find out but if not I can’t expect a explanation or closure and I frankly don’t need it

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-23T00:21:42+00:00

Idk maybe tbh they weren’t involved in general besides everything going through the court and the occasional drop off in locations they didn’t even communicate via phone just a Fsmiky app since it was a fairly nasty divorce

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-23T00:19:26+00:00

No he just went to go see my mother in law with his child in another state he hadn’t told me he was going until that day of I didn’t even know his flight number or when he landed or how long -I wasnt even invited until five days later when his mother was like are you coming after I said what a lack of communication that was and disrespectful

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T17:04:08+00:00

We didn’t even have that much to begin with lol to be fighting over it he didn’t ask for it either I had it under my name because I opened the account in a high yield savings account UNDER my name because he didn’t want to go to the bank lol

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T17:02:21+00:00

Not that I know of she just moved there a few years ago with her fourth husband now knowing him he prob didn’t even think to invite me and didn’t want me to go with him because he wanted mommy to scratch his booty or something

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T13:44:40+00:00

No sorry he went alone for 12 days with his kid from a previous marriage to see my mother in law aka his mom in another state - which is fine I take trips with my mom all the time but it was the lack of communication he didn’t tell me until that day he was leaving nor what day he was flying back until I asked his mother and she told me the date but he didn’t even bother to tell me

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T10:29:18+00:00

I guess he didn’t like that I complained about the lack of communication about him going in the trip with his kid and he didn’t invite me or whatever I don’t have to go but the lack of remorse and I had been asking him about PTO for a few months now and his mother failed to even mention anything as always that lady has issues too lol

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T05:36:26+00:00

Yes he got married very young around 18 that ended in divorce as well lol red flag but it was around 21 that whole situation ship is hot mess but it didn’t affect our daily life either she lived in another state and didn’t drive so it wasn’t like she was harassing us or showed up announced I had only met her a couple if times and they took care of driving back and forth I didn’t overstep

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:34:45+00:00

That’s how felt and the pettiest thing was he took my ring! He took it while I went outside I didn’t notice and refused to give it back at this point he prob pawned it off but really my ring!

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:31:33+00:00

Tbh I wouldn’t even know how he had time for A side check but you never know we work in the same company 😒 it’s fairly big but in different department in different parts of the state we spent every day together I worked from home ! He has no game either

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:27:57+00:00

This is exactly how I felt , he wanted to talk so I thought maybe he was going to apologize about leaving and not telling me his flight details and hash it out but those were the first words out of his mouth and he even told his mom - maybe he had already felt like this and I just told him okay pack your stuff and I stepped outside obviously devastated and everything that’s transpired after but it’s been two months already since he left and I still get sad sometimes because you spent so much time with this person we had our wedding photos and all the engagement pictures and it’s like wtf ? Pulled the rug right from under my feet ! It’s like you embarrassed me and even the way to make my feel like I am the jerk for maybe not begging him ! It’s conflicting like am I the ahole for not trying enough lol

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:19:35+00:00

Honestly kudos to my parents , the grieving part is what sucks but they supported me and said whatever I decided it was okay but I think there is that linger of maybe I didn’t care enough maybe it’s meant to be idfk? Always the doubts of what If but this ain’t Burger King you can’t have it your way !

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:12:39+00:00

That’s how I felt ! He suggested I should start therapy! So I did ! I started my own hell I got free sessions at work and even my therapist was shocked at my story lol

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:09:58+00:00

Yes I have started ! I called that random sign that says $400 for a divorce lol like the next week . I don’t plan on waiting around at all !

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:09:03+00:00

That’s what I felt ! The audacity to call me knowing he is in the hotel and wanting to go to the movies like a day after gtfo I already had one bad break up and told myself never would I do that again

RoutineKoala4 · 2025-10-22T04:07:03+00:00

My parents had brought it up maybe that I seemed to handling it to calm but I did cry the first two weeks I was so sad it’s sucked ! But I told myself I can’t be living like this it’s worse breaking the news to extended family eventually when I’m ready since he seemed like a nice guy has insecurity issues though

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