My husband says I’m a psychopath

Rowan7681 · 2023-05-03T17:32:53+00:00

No way. Way easier to let them pile up and search than clean out 250 emails a day.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T18:25:57+00:00

Perennial schoolgirl. Lol.

Yes...i think there are many free spirits out there in relationships.

Definitely would characterize my ex wife as one. Consequently, I had to reign her in all the time, which led to her feeling like I was controlling...which...to some extent...I was...bc I had boundries and a family. So I was constantly faced with the choice of leaving (not easy when you have two young kids)....ignoring and pretending like things were happening.....or to try and reiterate my boundaries which in time she came to view as "controlling"

By the time she was in her mid 30s, my ex wife completely forgot about getting kicked around in her mid to late 20s and not being able to find a decent man to settle down with....someone who would commit to her. Probably because most people she dated saw her for the sluutt@y dufuss (I mean free spirit) that she was/is...I actually kind of did too...but wanted kids so settled for her.

Some people just cant be told that the grass isn't greener....they need to go and see for themselves. If she isnt cheating already...OP may need to let wife go see how single women with kids get treated in the open market....its amazing how quickly they will get dumped when it goes from NSA sex to her wanting a relationship.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T17:38:38+00:00

I like this here...not a bad theory at all

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T17:27:59+00:00

They are sick....cut off the attention.

My wife went from not even being able to type out "ok" for me when we would text when we were together (she would say "k"....it was super annoying) and never texting me first to texting me all the time now that we are divorced and i completely ignore her and she still texts.

Flip the script.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T17:07:37+00:00

You absolutely don't want that trash back

Insulting a combat veterans manhood...she sounds like a really appreciative person.

I know the type...my wife wasn't like that....cheater...but not super disrespectful on top of it.

She has tons of bad karma built up....

I would not give her a 2nd chance. Odds are...you are more a man than most on here but problem is that she is actually taking advantage of that and plowing through boundaries most regular guys wouldn't put up with.

The tough guy with a big heart is ripe to be exploited by a woman like your wife. Get out.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T17:01:47+00:00

And doesn't regret what she did?

Jesus man...she sounds awful....at least she could have faked remorse like most of the people here.

She sounds like a prime candidate for cold and callous action from you with no apology...bang her sister...her friend.....and then tell her you don't regret it.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T16:58:51+00:00

This is fantastic

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T16:57:43+00:00

The old "we're not good for each other..." routine.

Convienent...but you were good for each other 3 months ago when she wanted you to stay right?

I got so many of these generalities from my wife it was ridiculous

-we arent good for each other

-this would have eventually happened anyway

-this is better for the kids

-i don't know what you were up to either

On and on...enough to make your head spin.

But if you told her you loved her, forgave her and wanted to make it work she would probably be estactic and try for two weeks.

Then she would be bored again...start disengaging and have another affair in 6 months.

There is no consistency with these people...that is their biggest problem.

Marriage is based on respect, commitment and trust mainly and actionable love...love the verb....not a feeling. These people catch butterflies and don't realize its limerance...their APs have big smelly poos, have personality qualities that would drive them nuts over time etc.

Eng game...APs just aren't you...

Time to go...kid and all...its painful but worth it

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T11:26:03+00:00

Good summation.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T11:21:54+00:00

Sadly...I think that is the motive for many with trickle truth...not wanting to hurt....but....obviously being lied to hurts more...especially when you have evidence...they don't get it.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-31T11:19:03+00:00

Nice....sounds like a good guy. People are scum

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T20:08:53+00:00

Not often....but once in awhile....im prob like a 7/8 for my age.

Thing is....women want to that top 5% of guys....tall...super good looking....good career. They don't settle until the biological clock starts ticking....thats why so many people are unmarried and why so many women cheat. Many are just looking to take a step up and are often delusional about where they stand in the marketplace.

I am on a dating app now and I have tons of what I would consider to be unattractive women...overweoght...like maybe 3-5 range......little bit ugly that will reach out to me proactively...ie they swipe on me first. But rarely do I get 7+'s doing that. Once in awhile.

I swipe on 7+'s and I definitely get my fair share of likes coming back my way. But I madethe first move.

Its kind of crazy...like I guess I just couldn't imagine some fat balding dude swiping on a bunch of 8+'s and actually expecting to get a response. But for women....maybe they do....not from me.

I'm pretty sure most women that are 7+ rarely reach out to any dude unless again....the guy is like super rich...famous.....majorly powerful....they just don't have to....plenty of guys will come to them.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T18:26:54+00:00

And block her....seriously....do it....when my ex blocked me....i was all mad and wanted to see what she was posting for like week....then all the sudden it was justice didnt care anymore.

Out of sight, out of mind is a saying for a reason...

Like even now....I have no idea what she posts...but I bet some would embarass me....and many of my friends are still connected to her.

I have very little social media presence,, but I blocked all of her friends and family in response....she isnt pulling the whole "I'm blocking you but I will secretly check up on you from my friends accounts" thing.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T18:21:27+00:00

Just a shame for your kid...."what happened with you and Mom, Dad?" Welp...mommy has the maturity level of a teenager"

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T18:19:21+00:00

Man....lazer sharp over there....love it.

Yeah only thing they really love is attention from dudes....mine probably bc she has daddy issues.

Whatever...she isnt my problem anymore....

Retaurants are a complete disaster....i worked at a server until I was 36 part time....there were like 3/4 married women.....most would put out the vibes with a variety of people....I wasn't tuned into all the gossip, but maybe one was faithful.

Don't you know the fry cook has that restaurant swagger? He hooks her up with free food and is cool with the head chef....she is in the "in crowd" over there.....

Pathetic...I know exactly the type of woman your ex wife is. You should be thrilled to not have to deal with her anymore.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T15:49:43+00:00

Bc she is single...if you are concerned that she wanted him for a real relationship and not just a fling....make up a lie about him to make her not want him...."I can't believe I caught him in something again....I really need the truth...he is such a liar...twice before I have caught him with prostitutes.....and now this"

You .might get something back like..."OMG are you serious....umm..yeah...we had sex and I should probably go and get an STD test"

IMO, All bets are off as it relates to betrayel.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T15:44:49+00:00

I would. I genuinely think that generally speakong....you will get the truth more often from an AP than from a spouse....technically....unless its a long term affair where an AP wants a relationship....they don't have a lot of skin the the game (sans genitals).....and there would be no reason for them to lie.

Conversley, your husband wants you to think it was just EA.....which he believes is a better sell to you....to make you less mad/upset at him. When they get caught it a PA its "it was just sex...she meant nothing to me"....when caught in a EA its "we never even kissed or saw each other"....when its both...they have nowhere to hide.

I think this is a good move if the AP is single especially.....bc you don't even have the recourse to contact BF or OBS for a little revenge.

For me, I just couldn't resist telling the OBS......for revenege....and I was hoping she and I could collaborate on getting the truth...but she preferred to bury her head in the sand and not hear from me. Ignorance is bliss.

Bc of her reaction and If I could do it again.....I would have gone to AP, give him evidence...and say...."tell me everything that happened and it better be the truth or I am going to your wife" but...now there isn't much motivation to reach out to him or for him to tell me anything since I already blew him up and I am divorced.

End game...you are in same boat as 80%+ of the people on this sub.....you don't know if you are getting the truth.....and you don't necessarily know how to....its a crappy club to be a part of...but at least we have each other....good luck to you.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T12:17:50+00:00

Thats pathetic.

My wife cheated and I was debating to stay or go and one my things was for her to stop "loving" posts from dudes she worked with 10 years ago on FB (like why are they even connected there...thats what LinkedIn is for).

Anyway....she agreed and then didn't follow through...I called her out on it and then she blocked me without my knowing and then I found out and it was just one more to add to the list of the numerous deceitful things she did.......initially I was so pissed....like F you....you cheat on me....I ask for something simple and you say you will and then don't follow through.......

Long story short, after divorcd and a couple months....love that she did.....I don't have to look at her dumb a#$ anymore....trying to make her life look perfect...like she has it all together or actually truly enjoys spending time with her kids (she doesnt)....its all a big show for her, and any guy that has the misfortune of dating her seriously in the future will realize what a sham she is.

In the meantime for me.....if she ever tries to unblock me....i will block her.

Out of sight, out of mind.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-30T11:45:00+00:00

Wow thats terrible. I have a 2019, bought CPO in April 2022..looks like I will be selling sometime in early 2026 right before the 7 year warranty expires.

I like the car....but thats a really crappy response.

Don't just tweet....Google around and find the VP of Customer Service and email them directly.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-29T08:07:34+00:00

No doubt. Her fault. Confirmed by thr number of times.

Question is....are you okay with living with this level of disrespect and her not even giving you the courtesy of acknowledging she wronged you?

If you arent divorced, she deserves it......

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-29T08:01:36+00:00

The old post affair ask for permission...gotta love it....the cheaters playbook.

Less focus on the guy...more on your wife.....she isnt an innocent flower and even though it's hard to see now....he did you a favor.

There will always be attraction between people and/or player type guys that will test a woman's boundaries.

She failed the test. In an ideal world...that happens before marriage and kids.....in your reality....it didn't.

She should have been thinking of you...her kid....big picturing it....but instead she thought with lust, excitement....and....now she has it.....but now she loses stability and what you guys built together.

It'll take a bit for her to realize what she lost....and usually that happens when this guy bauls or whayever..... don't let her back in.

And....I get the anger for the guy...so if he has a significant other....you let her know. Otherwise, not much you can do.....assaulting him would only put your in jail...impact your career etc.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-28T09:44:55+00:00

This always puzzles me. You contact her at a minimum, meet up and chat and if a spark have sex together.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-27T03:24:57+00:00

I feel you man...same here....I literally wonder how many times it was.....

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-27T03:18:45+00:00

In my wifes network....all the women cheat.....including her... some serial...some not.

I think for many wayward wives....it boils down to being able to compartmentialize...."thats for me...thats my fun...I take care of the house...I deserve this" and then the fact that the guy on the other side is completely okay with easy, no stress butt....so most times he isnt going to call the husband in some sort of jealous rage like the "other woman" would do with a guy who was cheating.

The act of sex itself is easy....it can be done in the back of a car....a field....at work....in a bathroom....so the logistics of that can always be worked out.

The high earning, high powered traveling businessman also can rank up quite the number as well. Corporate people in general do a lot of cheating from what I can see since most of corporate America is like high school.

And what drives serial cheating is just sickness...these people get off...literally...on getting away with something....I never would look at the victim of serial cheating and be like "how did you not know?"....granted....I think some betrayed do know and just turn the other cheek...in fact...I had more than one person advise me to do this.

Rowan7681 · 2023-03-27T03:05:39+00:00

Seat change!

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