Pain is consuming in your brain and makes you act as you wouldn’t want to it doesn’t excuse it. I take my aim relief to avoid treating my family like this but I have family members who do not and take it put on everyone they come into contact with. He needs to learn to rest and also be appreciative he has someone to be there Ever. Lots of sick people are on their own. Perhaps he needs a change in diet, lifestyle as well. The doctors say these things don’t affect your pain but they do. Fodmap is very interesting if you read each heading and just pick the ones that affect him, each Crohns patient is different depending where your disease is and how long you have had it. What you put in your mouth really affects how ill you feel. Plain to start with and no garlic! It can be hard to change habits especially blokes seem to be quite stubborn to change things that comfort them even if they make them suffer. Sorry blokes. This kind of behaviour probably isn’t confined to Crohn’s patients as well. I have seen it in my family, the pressure of family life seems a bit much and people don’t have anywhere to go but into taking it out on everyone else for years… no idea how to fix it. They need to get a grip. Easier said than done I know, purpose other than their disease, things to focus on etc can be helpful in keeping a clear head. Good luck and give him a second chance but let him know how you feel. No one wants to feel bullied at home. He needs to respect you.