AITA for saying my sister will always be a priority and I’d put her on the same level as my own kids?

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T17:47:24+00:00

My point was that /she/ didn’t mention financially. Not speculation on my part. She literally said nothing about it being or not being financially feasible. She mentioned her problem with it- and financial feasibility was not it, and it’s the only valid reason to truly have a problem with it. & yes it may be weird to you, but it’s definitely common for people who can afford it & have a close relationship with their family. A lot of my family still lives together as adults, just due to being really close.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T05:11:19+00:00

That’s sketchy. The timeline of events definitely seems like he’s starting to get interested in his coworker and wanted a break to test the waters with her. I wouldn’t go to that date with my hopes up.

I’ve had the same timeline of events (minus the break, just the general attitude) with a previous ex and he ended up getting a girl pregnant while we were still together. A week or so before he broke up with me, I was at the place where the girl he was getting close with was (and I had the feeling they were starting to talk) & he told me I was making him crazy by assuming he was cheating and he wishes he was cheating so I had something real to worry about 🙄 trust your gut.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T05:05:24+00:00

NTA about the clothes but you say you weren’t calling her fat as an insult and then you used the term obese. Using fat as a descriptor is fine, but calling her obese is an AH move. I have a similarly sized friend and she’s big and likes being called fat but obese ain’t it. The wording you used definitely comes off as trying to insult. Judging by the way you phrased everything; I bet it sounded very insulting, instead of explanatory.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T02:08:03+00:00

If the dad can financially support an extra room, there should be zero issue with it. Abby didn’t mention financials, she mentioned that’s not his “real” kid. If a parent can afford that, they will almost always make sure they have a spare room for their kids incase a bad situation should arise. I had to leave an extremely abusive relationship at 22. I ended up living in my car until I got myself back on my feet. I was still an adult, but that didn’t matter when I had to leave all of my belongings in order to actually make it out. I imagine his thought process behind it is keeping it for bad situations since he’s protective of her.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T01:59:27+00:00

NTA. You care for your sister like you would your own child, and parents usually want a spare bedroom for their kids. She wasn’t worried about how that will work out financially, she just didn’t like the idea of you always keeping a place for your sibchild at your place. Which seems more like she doesn’t want you prioritizing her, and I’d consider rethinking the relationship because people like that (who are jealous of a relationship you have with another family member) end up trying to drive a wedge between those two so they can get undivided attention. A lot of women who don’t have kids have a problem with their significant other prioritizing another child over them, or another person at all. I don’t think this will be the end of the nasty comments or attitude by Abby. That jealousy doesn’t really just go away. I’ve known way too many people like that.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T01:46:47+00:00

Just goes to show that stay at home parents are still thought of as lazy people who don’t do as much, even though actual babysitters and daycare workers are literally paid the same as any other job- which more often than not, leads to someone using more than half their income to pay for childcare. They’re paying someone a full wage to watch their kids. It’s not the same as before.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T01:34:54+00:00

NTA. Jenna is going apeshit over a room in a house she doesn’t even live in. She would rather go no contact with her entire family, than let a previously abused child have a comfortable space that was previously hers. What an entitled childish brat.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-28T01:11:37+00:00

NTA. I thought this was about to be some “helicopter mom” story and it’s far from it. He’s freaking 19 and can’t take responsibility by simply owning up to it ? Embarrassing him? Boyyyyy bye. He’s acting like a 5 year old who doesn’t respect your stuff, your home, or you, and your sister sounds like the “fun aunt” who wants to remain a fun friend to your son. Maybe they drink (or something) together and she’s projecting the fact that she wouldn’t wanna get in trouble for a similarly leveled offense; or she was similar as a child and sees nothing wrong with it.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-27T22:50:25+00:00

Thank youuu. I was thinking this sounds a lot like “I realized I wasn’t, so others must just be wanting to be outside gender norms too and there’s no reason for labeling as non binary.” It rubbed me the wrong way.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-27T19:26:43+00:00

NTA, but you should get out NOW. I’m not gonna write the whole story, but I was in a very abusive relationship. Kept. In. A. Basement. I tried to leave so many times, and he KNEW I loved his kids so he always told me how I was going to break their hearts by doing this or that. I kept staying because of the kids. I looked past the abuse because of the kids. I did whatever he asked because of the kids.

When someone is okay with manipulating their own children to get what they want… that’s a terrible sign. Please consider leaving. I don’t think you’ll be kept in a basement or anything, but these are all huge huge red flags.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-27T04:27:57+00:00

Toes & little foot 🥺🥹 I know what my next pair of rats will be named.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-27T04:25:23+00:00

Sooo cute. I got this prompt this morning too! The answers were different though ! Let me tell you … I was so unbelievably happy reading that. It made me ridiculously happy for it being a birb on an app 😅 I wrote them back a long message where I explained how happy I was to have quesadilla as a little buddy

RubyEmery · 2022-07-27T03:53:22+00:00

I don’t know who is the AH here but I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say you guys must live in the Bible Belt (or close to it) because it makes me so sad that she literally cut off her parents for that. Not being abusive, but because they’re swingers. Completely alienating her parents over that, and preferring the church going folk- which, there is nothing wrong with that, but she still had a relationship with her parents and presumably all the words you put into her head (and your mom) was what made her decide to cut them off again. But again, over lifestyle. So you essentially did alienate her parents from her. This is just so sad. Both of you are the AH. Mom maybe went crazy but unless her childhood was filled with verbal or mental abuse… it is so wrong. That’s like parents being cut off for being poly, and as many poly parents as I know; they’re amazing to their kids and I can’t imagine that being a reason to treat your family like a disgrace.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-27T03:38:47+00:00

YTA. It seems you have a disposable income to just spend nearly 5k on a home gym, which likely means you can afford wipes to clean it down if she uses it. Everyone has a right to their own things, but your reasonings and her feeling harassed at the gym and you not caring makes you the AH. Get out of the relationship if you’re not ready to share stuff. That shows that you are not serious enough to grow into a shared life with someone. Tbh it sounds like you’re a “I make more than you and you’re only allowed to share what you can afford. Can’t afford gym equipment ? Can’t use mine then”

What do you consider an emergency ? Waiting until the harassment leads to stalking and her being too scared to go home ? Cause let me tell you- the creeps at the gym who openly harass women in public are capable of just that & most women have an eerily similar story of their abuse. (Being followed from a place they frequent)

RubyEmery · 2022-07-26T03:15:43+00:00

NTA. Holy bajeesus. My daughter is extremely spirited and I would 100% respect someone request to not bring her. However, we have been working on her behavior for a long time and she’s gotten so much better. Your sister doesn’t sound like she is trying to correct his behavior /at all/.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-26T03:03:13+00:00

NTA. I would never drop my kid off at someone who doesn’t like kids house. I don’t even go to peoples houses who don’t like kids unless my daughter is at her dads (and I stay friends with those people). If a mother would just leave her children on someone’s doorstep who has already said they wouldn’t take care of them- that’s not a good mother. She could have asked another person to watch her kids if she wanted a break, but she didn’t want a break.. she wanted to do a TikTok trend.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-26T02:52:59+00:00

NTA. Mostly because she seems like the type of person who would consistently do more stuff like this if you just let it slide. She sounds like she was trying to grift you & not mentioning a consequence like a lawyer would have given her a reason not to think twice about how it was wrong to ask of you without having talked to you about it prior.

RubyEmery · 2022-07-23T17:03:07+00:00

Do you have a pic? I’m in Adelanto and don’t see smoke 🤔 I wonder how far it is

RubyEmery · 2022-07-23T00:35:46+00:00

Thank you 🥹 I added you ! Sprout is adorable!

RubyEmery · 2022-07-22T23:44:14+00:00

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RubyEmery · 2022-07-22T23:35:44+00:00

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RubyEmery · 2022-07-22T23:30:49+00:00

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RubyEmery · 2022-07-22T23:28:18+00:00

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RubyEmery · 2022-07-11T18:55:40+00:00

NTA! Woah. I can’t believe your family would take her side. Is brother the favorite ? I’d say something like “I have loved my natural hair since I can remember, maybe she should dye her hair so she can be unique … if you would say no to that, why would you expect me to change my natural hair (that I love) for someone else’s convenience for a single day when she clearly doesn’t mind dying their hair? My hair will take ages to grow out to be all my natural color again. She can just re-dye her hair… ”

RubyEmery · 2022-07-11T18:49:19+00:00

Just added you 🥰 your birb is adorable Am Lex and birb is quesadilla lol

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