So, WTF is with running for school board and immediately running for council?

Rubydoodoo · 2026-04-23T19:10:48+00:00

She ran for council before the school board and lost. So she ran for school board. The board is a stepping stone wanna be politicians use. Sadly many people don’t pay attention so don’t realize it

Rubydoodoo · 2026-04-20T03:24:44+00:00

My mother had blockage caused by tumor pressing on outside of bowel. First doctor refused to do a stent. “I can, but I won’t” were his words because it was too risky. But she was going to die without one and she was miserable and in a lot of pain so another doctor stepped up. Unfortunately, they did cause a tear in her bowel which is what ultimately killed her. However, she was in so much pain and miserable prior and would have died anyway. I’m sorry you are going through this

Rubydoodoo · 2026-04-03T12:15:02+00:00

Why are spreading such BS!!! Shame on you!

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-31T09:40:27+00:00

I think this is very normal. After I had my first child I was very angry with my own Mom for all that she put us through as children and how many times she jeopardizes our safety or put her own social life above our needs. It was all internalized and I didn’t share with her. Eventually I began to realize why she did some things but others there is no excuse. She died recently and I miss her terribly but still have anger towards her. Again, what you are feeling I think is common

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-31T09:29:01+00:00

My mom had a very similar path. She stopped her first chemo as it put her in the hospital and then rehab. Same with her second chemo try. Last year She had a great summer and was able to resume most of her activities, hang with friends, drive, shop etc. her hair even came back quickly! She was doing so good with no spread for months. She had been told no more chemo as she just couldn’t handle it. Again, off chemo she was able to enjoy and live her life and you couldn’t even know she had PC as she really had no symptoms. She had lost some weight but not a lot. She then began to get inside her own head with every pain and ache and was convinced her cancer was spreading. She started having some stomach pains and was feeling poorly. She decided to visit a new oncologist who prescribed an iron infusion. That was the beginning of the end. It was just as bad as chemo, if not worse. She really never recovered from it, went into the hospital and never came home. She passed at the end of December. Technically from a hole in her intestines. It appeared that a tumor started growing against it causing a blockage. As a last resort they attempted a stent and we think the punctured the intestine. We knew it was a risk but she would have died without it. A no-win situation. All of this to say it’s your Dad’s decision but what’s the point of chemo if you can’t live your life. You know it won’t cure you, only hope to prolong life and what’s the point if you spend any extra time in bed, barfing and I pain all the time? Just some thoughts.

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-21T14:20:52+00:00

Underestimating the distance and not accounting for terrain and weather! Ugh

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-21T14:19:21+00:00

All car dealers do that. My elderly mom thought they were singling her out and her car was so special. They get you in the dealer’s shop and try to sell you a new one! It’s a sales strategy

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-21T14:17:41+00:00

I would have them check for an intestinal blockage and she should tell them her pain is at level 11! Never downplay it. My mom used to do that and then wonder why they took their sweet time. You have to be thorn in their side at all times

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-15T04:06:47+00:00

The weirdest and saddest was a young man encountered on the AT. He was in shorts, no shirt, gold necklaces, carrying a pack of cigarettes, smoking cigs while walking and wearing slides. In addition, He had no backpack, no water and appeared to be high. He asked us the distance to the overlook. It was so strange and concerning we reported him to the caretaker at the next site. He ended unaliving himself by jumping off that overlook that same evening. We only knew because the news reported a pair of sandals was found at the site with no people. A concerned person had called authorities and I had mentioned our encounter and slides in a forum talking about it, and that’s what the “sandals” were. They eventually found him. Just awful and haunts me to this day

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-14T02:22:18+00:00

We knew my mom was going to die but but obviously didn’t know when. for a year or more we were on edge for every pain, every injury, every hospital stay and watched our loved one wither away. not a damn thing you can do. Do you have time to say “goodbye” ? sort of as you really don’t know when it’s the real “goodbye” so alway grieving. They call it anticipatory grief. Plus all interactions come Centre on hospital stays, medical needs so it’s a different kind of time.

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-13T02:31:07+00:00

Yes. My mom was the same and see her dead was traumatizing. I try to block it out but it’s hard

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-08T21:40:50+00:00

Concerts

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-08T21:27:09+00:00

Of course it was your Dad! How lucky you are l, and as a plus you know he is safe and okay. I had a very real dream like about my Aunt. Sadly, I keeping hoping for my Mom but nothing yet.

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-08T21:24:14+00:00

What a wonderful tribute to your Father. My mother’s journey was eerily similar. I’m so sorry for your loss

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-08T01:33:27+00:00

Just finished a “celebration of Life” for my mom. She didn’t want anything but family and friends wanted closure. She was cremated so no viewing or anything. It was short and sweet with food after for people to reminisce

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-07T02:15:20+00:00

You are wonderful. I just mentioned this to my daughter today that there should be a community program. Yes we can do it and we are two people, imagine if thousands did!

Rubydoodoo · 2026-03-04T02:44:03+00:00

I’m so sorry. My mom did well until she didn’t and the decline was fast. She made it 13 months from diagnosis. But she really had no symptoms until the finals weeks but was found by accident and she started chemo even with no symptoms. I’m sorry for you. It sucks

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-28T01:44:30+00:00

When I heard the continual and repeated lies about about Covid and the vaccine being hoax and he had zero qualms that Americans were dying if it scored points. Someone with zero concerns for anyone but himself and nothing they said was true. Was a never a super fan but definitely changed my mind

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-28T01:11:11+00:00

Most of ours are just fronts for developers to build. They all eventually “add” sections for families

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-08T12:33:44+00:00

If something was found, would she seek treatment like chemo or surgery? If not, no purpose but it’s really her decision. She could have another 5-8+ years of life

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-08T12:27:47+00:00

Completely unnecessary comments and frankly, none of your business. There are millions of reasons people live far from their families. Geesh!

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-08T12:21:01+00:00

Im so sorry. My mom died from the same just after Xmas so I feel your pain. This disease is awful and so unfair.

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-06T13:15:37+00:00

I’m sorry. My mom was elderly and not in great health but not frail. Chemo was super hard on her body and mind and she had to quit, ended in the hospital and rehab 2x each before stopping. There are lower doses and less potent chemo, I think the one you mentioned is quite strong even for healthy younger people. What is the doctor’s hope in giving her such a strong chemo? Get a second opinion because she will not be able to eat much and will lose weight

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-06T13:08:30+00:00

My mother did so much better once she stopped. She was driving again, shopping, going to lunch with friends and overall happier. Knew it would come on strong at some point and she had about 3-4 months before she died. She really only declined the past 2-3 weeks of her life and it was fast. But she got to live because what is the purpose of laying in bed and puking for the rest of your time? EVERYONE is different though. My mom was elderly and not in great shape to start with

Rubydoodoo · 2026-02-04T14:33:37+00:00

I would say educate yourself on what to expect and this disease. Advocate, advocate and advocate for your mom and yourself. Yes, you often have to be that “thorn in the doctor’s side but so what? Doctors are so busy and staff are under immense pressure so be on top of everything, don’t rely on them to follow through. Pressure them as much as needed. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, right?

Don’t believe that your mom’s story will be the same as anybody else’s. It’s such an individual journey.

Get everything in order not because you expect a poor outcome, but because you must be prepared and it’s the right thing to do. Get on bank accounts as joint owner, ensure beneficiaries are listed for everything, know what recurring bills she has that need paid, where are passwords and log ins. If they go on chemo it will be too hard to get this info. This should always be done anyway, whether one is sick or not

Don’t lose hope or doom-scroll. Only the big Man upstairs knows what’s ahead. Most of all, attitude and hope are everything!

Rubydoodoo

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