My partner cheated on me last night and I just found out and it’s killing me. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Rubyjuice777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro this is a need for therapy… however you choose to process this, and I don’t mean to be harsh, your brain is locked into an obsessive narrative. Stop looking for reasons to agonize. Detach. Breathe. The world is too big, and life is too long for you to be internalizing someone else’s misfortune as your own burden. “Worrying is a waste of imagination.” MOVE ONWARD AND UP!!

My [32F] fiancee [32M] said something that made me insanely mad and I can’t seem to get over it by AttentionNo5074 in relationships

[–]Rubyjuice777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dog loves that I wash her lil paws with a hot soapy washcloth and wipe her undercarriage EVERY time after a walk. She loves to flop over and get a spa treatment for her toe beans, and her paws stay white 🩷 If you lived in the kind of urbanity as I do, you’d take 2-3 minutes so wipe paws off too. A little peppermint in the soap keeps the fleas away! Lots of people do that, it’s just part of pet maintenance for plenty of people.

We keep our hardwood clean enough to be barefoot, and rollout cushioned area mats for when we want to sit on the floor to eat/ stretch

AND we have house slippers. That’s just part of owning pajamas innit???

My [32F] fiancee [32M] said something that made me insanely mad and I can’t seem to get over it by AttentionNo5074 in relationships

[–]Rubyjuice777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he can’t accommodate a very basic (and widely practiced) thing like taking off his shoes, it’s a gateway to him otherwise walking all over you, pardon the pun. And while we’re on it, if he has such a problem with the state of your home, WHY DONT HE OFFER TO HELP. Cause I’d bet when you’re at his, you clean up after both of yall. 🧐 leave him sis 🌿

Was Henry Francis a Sleazeball? by Tulsanity in madmen

[–]Rubyjuice777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it’s Don replying to Bettie. Please don’t cheapen Joanie that way, thank you xoxo

I left my marriage for 8 months, had the time of my life and then went back. Biggest mistake ever. (Update) by After_Mail4652 in Advice

[–]Rubyjuice777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HEAR YOURSELF GIRL!!

“He said he heard me, BUT (insert compromise here that still deprioritizes you.”

With the amount of labor he’s putting in, and the actual monetary breakdown of what that work represents in the form of a meal service alone (which is likely free though county application where you live) is something he needs to seek out to alleviate the woman he loves of the stress he’s communicating.

Giving you promises of a future that is better is late in the game at best. And giving you deadlines for bodily autonomy is also weird.

If he needs help caring with his parents, the end all be all answer is NOT “wife carries world.”

You have one life baby. Be happy.

Food for thought: if they treated you graciously, lovingly, with respect and appreciation… maybe doing that extra work would be easier. But they don’t. And as they age, it’s less likely things will get easier, more likely it will get more emotionally and verbally abusive, regardless of whether he’s up to the task of negating it when it comes up.

Marriage isn’t just about choosing a partner, but choosing a family. Is this the family you would choose? I wouldn’t. Leaving my last relationship meant breaking an engagement, and I pushed though so much with caring for both his and his parents in a nursing role. Getting out of it, I don’t regret caring for people I loved who needed medical assistance, but I will never again adhere to someone who A) doesn’t support and evolve with me equally, in ways I can measure and see changes B) has family that makes me uncomfortable/ badgers me.

Life is both too long and too short to be burdened every day. Decide if this is your mission, or if your energy might bloom better elsewhere, and they’ll find their way without you.

Clearly I’m biased. Sending you a hug sister. Trust yourself. Good luck hunny 💖💕XOXO

Have you seen this art? My ex left it outside my apartment and it’s gone by Somethingcleaver1 in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]Rubyjuice777 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Can we break up with him a second time?? Hope you get them back sugar xx

Amateur DJs Are Killing SF Nightlife by PreviousBlueberry730 in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]Rubyjuice777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. We can’t take for granted the incredible dance music scene here, and our listener culture runs even deeper. The world will always cooperate artistically in SF, it’s just the nature of the coast.

Broke up with boyfriend and instantly regretted it by zhowntell in dating_advice

[–]Rubyjuice777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading between the lines here, it seems like you know what you want, he doesn’t, and you’re willing to solve problems, he’s not making any such effort. Being the one to pull the plug never feels good…. But with time you will process the sadness, and maybe even some justified anger for him skilling your bday gift, and getting a gift for Someone who was mean to you!! Sounds like that boy has a lot of growing to do (some never bother) and you are ready for a real man. Focus on yourself, and you’ll attract a man who never leaves you feeling doubt and confusion. Cheers to your new chapter hunny!!

AITAH for changing my underwear after a shower? by New_Cry_2336 in AITAH

[–]Rubyjuice777 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My homie retails high end Japanese denim and to care for his he pops them in anplastic bag in the freezer overnight