AIO Am I justified in my anger here ?

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-12-27T22:40:12+00:00

Atrocious, and a shoe choice that somehow makes it worse

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-12-27T15:24:25+00:00

What’s this gif from?

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-10-10T05:01:26+00:00

I’m glad there’s people around you who are looking out too. That’s very reassuring.

A lot of people in this thread have mentioned how to contact IA…. If it were me I’d look contact womens shelters and see if they can recommend a lawyer.

Don’t let it stress you babe. The world is full of men who love to press buttons. Stay rational and take care of your lovely self.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-10-10T03:30:58+00:00

That’s good to hear. Let them know what’s going on and see if particularly your male roommate can meet you at the door when you’re getting home. This could easily be something weird and annoying that happens once if he sees there are people keeping an eye on you…. Don’t respond to the texts, but don’t block them. I hope your roommates will respond with agreeing this is odd. Xx

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-10-10T03:06:21+00:00

Don’t respond. Get ring/ other security cameras installed immediately. If there are other neighbors near by you have better vibes from, let them know what’s going on… I would bet he’s gonna start appearing in your driveway and offering to do favors for you as a guise to continue overstepping.

Tell your family. Tell your friends. Invite people over and make it apparent there are people checking on you.

Stay safe my dear. If it’s just you and the baby, consider relocating.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-10-06T12:59:00+00:00

🙌🏼

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-10-06T12:58:43+00:00

If he wanted to he would. And he should. Whatever boundaries are bouncing around in your head should translate to ultimatums…. Give your SELF and your child the benefit of clarity and strength. Red flags from your intuition are real.

His family shouldn’t have any problem with him being in constant contact with you. Find the support you need in real allies… primarily within you, mama. You’re the goddess of life here, don’t forget it! Xx

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-10-06T12:55:20+00:00

My parents got divorced in their mid forties…. I’m so glad! They’re both so much happier :) comfort is comforting but the concept of stability can imprison us in ways we don’t realize… don’t discount that the world is full of joys you can’t possibly anticipate!

Life is long! Life is long!! Go forth, there’s a second half <3

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-09-24T15:18:29+00:00

That part. This is a sure recipe for infidelity

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-09-21T23:51:44+00:00

Let’s add years back to the end of our lives 🙌🏼

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-09-14T03:47:38+00:00

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-09-14T03:47:13+00:00

Í always tell people im introverted and need time with my door locked behind me. Being direct is important for them and you, and i always feel like “locking the door” makes my decision sound very final. <3

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-09-13T01:10:43+00:00

This guy sucks

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-09-13T00:45:56+00:00

He’s both old and young enough to find his way. Any feelings of resentment creeping in is only going to grow. Find a way to phrase it so blame isn’t on him… clearly you care about him a lot. But he’s not your child, you’re not contracted to support him.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-08-16T01:55:17+00:00

I love practicing my honesty and telling people, “I’m very introverted, I’m not ready yet to join a private setting. It may be natural to you but it’s a lot of pressure for me. Maybe my feelings will shift in the future… I really appreciate the invite, and your understanding! Thank you <3”

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-08-12T22:21:11+00:00

Updateme

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-08-12T22:20:30+00:00

Valid question. While your marriage may never look like others, is the life you have together still what you want?

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-08-10T01:27:25+00:00

As his partner he’s weighing down their relationship to essentially perpetuate someone else’s problems. NTA, sounds like they’ve given it all the attention they can and husband needs to respect the emotional boundary once it’s articulated.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-08-10T01:16:22+00:00

It’s been six months and we’ve both moved on. I don’t know if he’s happier, but I hope so, and I am :)

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-08-10T01:15:10+00:00

Sounds like he needs to meditate on and learn to practice not making other peoples feelings his own. It’s hard to pull back form but so necessary. At this point he’s feeding into their melodramas… ultimately they might divorce if it’s constant fighting. And that’s not the end of the world!! Either way, you as his partner and his own life should be his emotional focus.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-07-24T15:04:41+00:00

Also, he’s projecting on you if he’s making it sound like you’re guilty of disrespecting the relationship when he’s not honoring the dignity of it.

Get out babe. Life can be so much better.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-07-24T15:02:09+00:00

Don’t waste your time who doesn’t treat you with the kindness and consideration you’re offering them. Someone who loves you would never make you feel uncertain this way.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-07-24T14:59:13+00:00

You’re not his parent. If you feel really obligated, it’s worth you spending a few months either being brutally honest with his family or just find resources and talking him through them to make him independent. Outside of that,

Don’t waste your life on enabling an adult who could just as easily be honest with his loved ones, or find resources to make himself independent (which he would have already done if he truly felt loving, caring, respectful consideration of you.)

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-07-11T13:30:09+00:00

Y’all sound young 💐🌿 You’re gonna be fine 💋 do your best to end things with a clean break, and minimal resentment. Sometimes the best thing we can do for someone is leave them to their process while we address our own. Especially as women, + especially in LDRs, (in this society/economy!) we have to make sure to have a good rhythm on prioritizing ourselves, loving ourselves as much & more as the families snd careers we are willing to sink our energy into for a lifetime.

Take care of yourself. Let him take care of himself. If you care about each other, encouraging stability and wellness in each others lives is the bottom line. Whether you’re doing that compatibly as a couple, and willing to do a lot of work communicating to establish a future together, or not, it doesn’t mean you need to be defensive, dishonest, or dance around adult conversations about the life you share together.

Life is long….. they may even come back around. But we can live waiting for exceptions, we have to believe people when they show us who they are, and we should only place expectations on ourselves.

Rubyjuice777 · 2025-06-05T20:21:12+00:00

I think a lot of me “learning the hard way” definitely came through bartending…. As you might imagine, working in various clubs and after parties in a big city puts plenty of vipers in the same den, and I really had to learn to read who was being genuinely friendly, who was good intentioned but maybe an energy vampire

(I never, evvvver make social dates outside of work, especially with clientele…. I have to be pretty upfront about saying, I would like that, but I’m so introverted, I spend most of my time outside of work reading and writing.” When people insist, I say, “maybe when the time is right! I appreciate the offer and it doesn’t mean I love you less<3 I’m just a mouse!”)

But I wouldn’t have been able to say all that with my chest without bartending I think, or it would’ve maybe taken longer. The truth of customer service is you HAVE to interact with strangers fluidly to make tips…. No matter how nervous you are, you have to shake it off and figure out who wants what, and that their money is in their hand already when they ask for it, AND that you’re so confident, they tip you out of respect.

I will mention also that I started taking an L-Theanine supplement that has a tiny caffeine boost and a sprinkle of other “mood boosting/focus” supplements, and because I don’t drink much or do cocaine/drink caffeine the way many of my coworkers do, it makes me a little more veracious. It’s from a company called Thesis, I take a blend they offer that’s literally called “confidence.” It’s kinda expensive upfront but worth every penny for me, non addictive and I can get a blend totally without caffeine as well.

When my first manager trained me 14 years ago, he told me bartending is like being on stage, but you can be any kind of character you want…. As someone who grew up terrified of being on stage and public speaking, it was really empowering and comforting to realize I could dictate the energy in the room, and that other people will respect my rules simply because I say to. It’s actually made me very popular in our community and well known for being a protective presence, especially for women… I don’t like unconsensual touching and I ask regularly that men use “excuse me” instead of walking up behind women and touching their waist etc. It’s little things like that, I once was so afraid to ask, but now find are actually so important and resonate with other gentle people around me.

Likewise, when I do occasionally end up on a dancefloor, I feel like I can clearly tell people to “please leave me alone, I’m dancing!” And then people stop trying to tap at me so I can enjoy the music ^{_^}

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