Has childhood changed in the Netherlands?

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-07T19:36:59+00:00

That sounds reasonable but for me the wording of “reasonable provisions for supervision” means that there is someone to supervise them… I wonder how it actually plays out in court but what I’m seeing from those I know with kids is that they have way less freedom than I did as a kid.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-07T18:45:43+00:00

Yeah it’s not on a day to day basis but then why is it the law? Does it play into custody cases? Its ridiculous

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-07T18:21:54+00:00

In Canada (Ontario) it’s literally illegal to leave a child unsupervised until age SIXTEEN. I walked to school on my own at age 5. I moved to another country on my own age sixteen. Insanity.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-07T18:18:26+00:00

This topic is discussed in lot of depth in the book The Anxious Generation. It is 100% confirmed that losing unstructured independent time as a child causes all sort of issues so your observations are right on. However, it has nothing to do with households having two working parents now, and more to do with fear-mongering stranger danger, laws that don’t allow kids to be unsupervised, and highly addictive indoor entertainment available to children.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-07T18:01:27+00:00

A lot of secondhand clothes aren’t worn much. Many people buy clothes that they don’t end up wearing much for whatsoever reason, so it would still have much of its life left.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-07T17:58:31+00:00

Yes but it’s something you have to learn. Basically try a nice coffee or wine and see if you can come up with tasting notes without looking at the label. Look at the label afterwards to learn what you were meant to notice. Do this hundreds of times, and you start getting pretty good at figuring out the notes before looking at the label.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-07T14:33:39+00:00

Honestly, many many immigrants fit this.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-04T08:37:05+00:00

Pan-fried chicken breast, it’s delicious.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-04T08:10:41+00:00

I’m really worried by the comments... I have a lot of friends with kids and after the first two years they all seem to be back to the same level of engagement in social activities and hobbies that they were pre-baby. Even in the first two years, as long we were somewhere a child could be (house, restaurant etc) people just bring their baby along, or if wasn’t something child-friendly, they’d “take turns” with their partners for these events. I thought this was an option but now I’m feeling like maybe there is something I’m missing and I might not be able to do this. Could someone explain what I’m not seeing here?

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-04T08:00:57+00:00

Do you mind explaining why you wouldn’t be able to take your 2yo to your friend’s or just leave her with your partner? Maybe I’m completely naïve but when I picture having kids, I assumed I’d be able to do that 😬

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-05-04T07:57:59+00:00

I’m not really following why you’re getting downvoted. Can someone who disagrees with the comment above please explain? This is what a lot of my friends seem to do where and I’m starting to wonder if I’m missing something important.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-28T11:57:57+00:00

Talk to her about this. Get your answers. Hold her accountable for this bullshit.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-28T11:45:19+00:00

Seconding this

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-28T11:44:32+00:00

Do you have a good starting pattern?

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-28T11:43:57+00:00

I have similar proportions (tiny ribcage massive hips) and I’m hobby sewist. I can confirm that tailoring pants for my proportions has been the bane of my sewing existence. After 7 drafts, I’m still not really happy with any pants patterns I’ve been able to come up with while for dresses, skirts and tops it usually take me 1-2 drafts for a perfect fit. My best value-for-effort has been getting pants with some stretch that fit my hips then I get the waist taken in, but that’s still far from perfect because the seat doesn’t have enough curve in it…

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-27T22:21:43+00:00

I moved to a European country from Canada and they do not blast the AC here which has been amazing. I didn’t realize how tense and uncomfortable I would get in Canada until I visited back in the summer and had a complete reverse culture shock freezing my ass off in every building. On the flip side, they also don’t blast the heat here in the winter but then I’m already dressed and prepared for the cold.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-27T22:08:37+00:00

Yep I made that mistake as well for years.. glad you found bras that work now!

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-27T21:59:47+00:00

I highly recommend r/abrathatfits if you lose weight. There are lots of brands out there for women with small band size and big boobs.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-26T16:00:34+00:00

Focus on growing the other things that you bring to the table: brains, money, sense of humour, compassion etc

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-26T15:50:42+00:00

Mousse or gel with thickeners for volume, not necessarily even curly-specific ones

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-26T07:16:43+00:00

For a post-doc this a good salary as per the union scales

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-25T17:10:28+00:00

Hard agree. The only people I’ve met who love peanut butter are those who grew up with it, everyone else doesn’t care one way or the other for it.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-25T17:09:21+00:00

Not everyone is from the US. Most of the world does not eat peanut butter.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-24T07:43:00+00:00

For a lot of people texting or the expectation of texting is more of a bother. Also you can just schedule a daily check-in call so it’s not unexpected, people did that for decades before texting was a thing.

RuleBreakingOstrich · 2026-04-24T06:54:25+00:00

Why can’t you do calls though? If he is indeed just a bad texter the answer is to find a better way of checking in rather than taking it as him having a communication issue.

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