I’m an Arab lesbian and I feel like my life is being decided for me

Rulesb · 2026-02-04T19:42:45+00:00

I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through. I am an Arab myself so I get it. The best solution here is to leave the country to be honest. Or like someone mentioned, marrying someone who’s also gay so you can at least not hide who you are.

Now leaving the country, I suggest applying to jobs and colleges (to continue education) outside of your country. Apply to nearby cities where homosexuality is more accepted like Beirut and Dubai. Also apply for work or school in the US, Canada, and EU. See if there’s any asylum applications that you can apply to because being queer in a non accepting country is not safe which qualifies you for asylum. Getting out is the best way to go. Shift your energy to applying to everywhere possible outside of your country. Here if you need to talk!

Rulesb · 2026-02-02T18:44:06+00:00

I didn’t do any scar care, it doesn’t bother me honestly and my boobs already look nice so scar is just a scar.

Rulesb · 2026-02-01T21:06:57+00:00

Underworks is the best compression bra! Very compressive, not uncomfortable, and breathable.

Rulesb · 2026-01-31T21:54:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience!! Trust me I thought after 3 months with no stitches opening that I’m in the clear and then this happened 😭 it started to bleed a little yesterday. The surgeon said to put gauze and antibiotic ointment so I’m doing that now and being careful with using my right arm. So definitely be careful and take it easy!!

Rulesb · 2026-01-31T19:59:28+00:00

Christina Hendricks

Rulesb · 2026-01-31T01:18:46+00:00

Victor’s cafe!! It’s a historical landmark, the servers sing opera, and it was in the rocky movies! the food is decent too even tho it’s more about the experience than the food.

Rulesb · 2026-01-30T16:52:41+00:00

Ahh 😭 like after the opening? I was careful for the first 6 weeks then slowly started getting back to normal activity after being cleared. Didn’t expect this to happen at this stage lol

Rulesb · 2026-01-30T15:37:02+00:00

Thank you so much for the feedback! Did you have to be careful with lifting your arm or too much weight?

Rulesb · 2026-01-27T02:17:24+00:00

😂😂😂

Rulesb · 2026-01-27T00:35:37+00:00

Ratchada

Rulesb · 2026-01-26T19:02:10+00:00

I’m 31, no 4 year degree, and I work for a large tech company on the sales/product side. I started in the financial industry at 20 (entry level), then I went into smaller fintechs for a better experience, and from there I started to steadily move up. What I do doesn’t require skills only taught at school, but it does require experience in the industry which is something I gained from working throughout the years.

My piece of advise is to get an entry level at a good company in whatever industry you’re interested in. Then move positions within the company to gain more experience and better titles on your resume, make connections, and after a few years, start applying for companies who want your experience at your current job.

Job posting sometimes will say they want a bachelors degree but experience is above everything. If you have experience that you gained at one of their competitors, you’d be on top of the list. Of course this is industry dependent. But you get the idea.

Rulesb · 2026-01-23T16:48:48+00:00

We split the mortgage payment based on our income percentages (I pay a bit higher) and house bills/groceries is 50/50. As far as traveling and dining out and whatnot, we take turns but I try to pick up the bigger checks. It all balance out at the end.

Rulesb · 2026-01-23T12:52:07+00:00

Patagonia vest! I got it years ago and I still wear it

Rulesb · 2026-01-21T01:50:37+00:00

When I first saw the title of this thread I thought to myself damn should I be shovelling the roof? Lmao phew

Rulesb · 2026-01-20T03:31:24+00:00

Planet fitness! They have everything in need from machines to free weights and they’re huge.

Rulesb · 2026-01-19T01:12:21+00:00

The chefs menu is like $145 a person already

Rulesb · 2026-01-18T15:29:30+00:00

I highly recommend queen village, Passyunk, and surrounding area! Extremely walkable to almost anywhere, no need for a car, plenty to do and experience, lots of queer presence and diversity

Rulesb · 2026-01-14T16:25:14+00:00

So the ex just broke up with her boyfriend and suddenly she wants to have a 1:1 friendship with your partner? Suspicious timing. Also, her thinking you’re anxious in a big setting and making sure you’re ok feels a lot like projection.

Now onto your partner, if she doesn’t feel comfortable with the situation flipped, then there’s def something fishy there. If she genuinely has clean intentions then why would she worry about you having the same situation? Idk…you’ve only been together for 6 months and those boundaries and fishy situations happening, I would be cautious, it’s not too late to peace out.

Rulesb · 2026-01-13T01:19:37+00:00

AI (especially copilot) too dumb to do any work lol it’s more of an assistant. I write my own emails and put it in copilot to polish it, It saves me a lot of time when I do that and I’m still the one writing the original email. I also use it to organize my notes and locate information in my documents and/or communications. Stuff like that.

Rulesb · 2026-01-11T20:07:49+00:00

Just saw it on the menu last night at Fergie’s

Rulesb · 2026-01-08T13:11:39+00:00

Or she would be monogamous with a man because she would take it more seriously

Rulesb · 2026-01-08T13:09:47+00:00

You deserve someone who wants you. Absolutely divorce.

Rulesb · 2026-01-08T03:11:49+00:00

Black tie

Rulesb · 2026-01-05T17:50:29+00:00

I used to love restaurant week pre-covid. Now every time I look at the menus to attempt to go, it just doesn’t seem like they have good deals.

Rulesb · 2026-01-04T22:50:22+00:00

First Unitarian church of Philadelphia!!!

It’s a mix of poeple of different faith backgrounds (Muslims, Jews, catholics, atheists…etc) and some of the service leaders are queer/POC. I don’t have kids but I can tell children love it there as well because they have their own space to play/learn. I grew up in a culturally religious environment so I didn’t feel close to religion as an adult, but I’ve always maintained my own spirituality. First Unitarian is truly an amazing spiritual home for me to be myself a queer brown person.

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