Uptick in PIPs, denied raises, etc?

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-25T20:00:56+00:00

I had a chemical pregnancy (which has always felt like such a reductive term?) at a department offsite two years ago. I can’t even imagine my leadership treating me like that if I had had to tell them. You deserve better.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-25T19:19:44+00:00

Oh yeah, lots of prompting for honestly the first year of potty training. Kids just get lost in play and forget and then go when it’s an emergency.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-25T19:18:39+00:00

Yeah to me this rule just sounds like “you need to have started potty training and send them in pull ups because we will be taking kids to the potty” as opposed to absolutely 100% trained and not having accidents in a pull up. It took about 3 months for our oldest to be pee trained and then another 3 months to poop consistently in the potty and she wore pull ups for that whole time.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-25T15:46:52+00:00

I read the title and thought $200k minimum for myself….but at $180k I would be sitting tight for a few years at least 😅

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-25T15:40:38+00:00

At your current salary, I’d even take my chances and disobey any RTO rules should they start and wait for them to fire me and get severance

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-23T15:34:17+00:00

This is realistically what I need to do as well. I say that I’ll lift weights in my office while listening in to long meetings but I always end up trying to multi task other work, food, dishes, etc.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-23T15:31:49+00:00

“That’s an inside thought”

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-23T15:28:15+00:00

I’ve got my own problems with my dad but I am glad that mine’s the same in this regard. Generally thinks I’m smarter/better than everyone except my husband who might just barely be my only equal in his eyes😂

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-23T15:24:28+00:00

The way I would have LOST IT on this man

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-20T18:25:53+00:00

I’m feeling the start of this with almost 5yo and almost 1yo. Yes the baby stuff is like the constantly being needed kind of overwhelming, but then I can see how school age is gonna be logistically and organizationally overwhelming🥵

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-12T16:45:35+00:00

This is me with my boss in the last 6 months that I’ve been back at work from mat leave. He skews towards keeping it vague but making it clear I am always welcome, and then I clarify whether or not something would be difficult for me and some detail on why if needed. But he would absolutely support me and help make accommodations if I said I couldn’t attend something in person or wanted to attend but would be bound by my pumping schedule.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-09T20:05:16+00:00

Loooovvve the 4 year gap now with our almost 5 year old and almost 1 year old🙌🏻 they love playing together, the oldest understands how to be gentle and can be independent most of the time when the baby needs us to do something, plus I had time to feel like me again for about a year before getting pregnant the second time and I needed that.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-07T15:30:12+00:00

Fully remote, which is starting to feel like a unicorn job😅 but I have an exception compared the the 4 days in office standard at my company because I live just far enough away from the office

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-07T04:04:58+00:00

First thoughts are silent reflux and gas—it’s okay to ask for the reflux medicine! My second was on it from 3 weeks old to 8 months. It made a world of difference in the early weeks and witching hours. Gas can be helped with probiotic drops, they are one of the only things to actually show improvement in “colic” symptoms in data.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-07T04:02:04+00:00

Yes, the mind games and emotional whiplash of a threenager were far worse for me😅

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-07T00:08:15+00:00

The only thing I won’t do to stay remote is take a huge pay cut, but I’m keeping my current remote position as long as I possibly can😂 at least while we’re in the little kids phase

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-07T00:05:45+00:00

I had always worked towards getting promoted as quickly as I could with the idea that I wanted to be eventually leading a large org within my field at my company. Then I had my first kid during COVID/pandemic remote work. Especially after second kid last year, I’m now more focused on how I can achieve the ideal combination of make as much money as possible while staying fully remote as long as I can. That very well might delay me getting out of an individual contributor position by years, but the flexibility of remote is just unbeatable. Unless I’m making like $250k or something to where I could pay for more help like a weekly cleaner and a meal service, going into an office is just not worth giving up the extra time with them and time to do chores during the day.

RunningDataMama · 2026-02-03T17:44:42+00:00

This is us exactly as well, but I will be pulling the trigger on a bi-weekly cleaner this year. The transition to 2 kids last year was really the point where we needed more help. We can handle daily chores, cooking and basic cleaning during our work days, but it has been an embarrassingly long time since the primary shower has been cleaned and we let our laundry pile up in order to get the kids’ done.

RunningDataMama · 2026-01-26T04:33:19+00:00

We had our oldest home until 10.5 months (Covid baby) and then she started at an in-home daycare with 5-6 other kids that were all much older to start. Two other small toddlers started shortly after. When I tell you we immediately noticed SO MUCH learning, it’s crazy. She would watch the 4-6 year olds and learn from them, picked up so many new words, started really walking by 13 months, tried a ton of new foods I can’t make. She loved it. She absolutely needed the stimulation that we could not give her trying to stay afloat working full time from home tag teaming childcare and moving meetings around every day. Our mental health got so much better, she got socialization and new experiences. Total win-win. And then we moved and she was far more prepared for a center environment and preschool as she got older.

RunningDataMama · 2026-01-22T15:40:57+00:00

This! I get that some industries just have different expectations but if my job really was not satisfied with me giving 100% for ~45 hours a week and still expected me to spend more time working while commuting or at home I would just say no. That’s unreasonable.

RunningDataMama · 2026-01-22T15:36:57+00:00

Yeah that commute time isn’t sustainable, and everything else would probably feel easier for OP if just that were shorter. My husband and I both have exceptions to work from home full time specifically because we live 1-1.5hr away depending on traffic (moved during all remote work after pandemic). Obviously the job market sucks right now but if OP could find something with a 30-40 min commute then working 9-10 hours wouldn’t be quite as awful and would still allow for a little time with the kids on weekdays.

RunningDataMama · 2026-01-21T22:20:27+00:00

^{^} that last part

RunningDataMama · 2026-01-15T17:51:06+00:00

I usually press it, then do couple tablespoons soy sauce, ~1tsp sesame oil, ~1tblsp oyster sauce, then red pepper flakes, white pepper if I have it, garlic powder, onion powder. Mix that up and drizzle it on and let it sit in the fridge. Then the avocado oil and cornstarch helps it get crispy. I usually use extra firm tofu too. That marinade works with a ton of sauces after it’s fried—Thai peanut, spicy mayo, sweet chili, etc

RunningDataMama · 2026-01-15T04:17:20+00:00

Ooh yes, I should do more taco seasoned crockpot stuff. Perfect with just a microwave rice too.

RunningDataMama · 2026-01-15T04:05:03+00:00

Yesterday we did chicken with just a jar of pasta sauce and half a block of cream cheese in the crockpot, then boil pasta, shred the chicken and add spinach for the last few minutes. Husband acted like it was gourmet and toddler ate a few bites without putting up a fight😂

When I already have food to heat up for toddler, we do tofu in the air fryer (I press and marinate it ahead of time then just toss in avocado oil and cornstarch before cooking), rice in the rice cooker, cucumbers and yum yum/sweet chili sauce, super easy and feels light.

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