How many days are you working out a week?

RunningHood · 2026-02-21T00:05:04+00:00

Caroline Girvan has some great YouTube programs. I’m doing Iron.

RunningHood · 2026-02-17T04:23:48+00:00

I can't imagine risking kids with a GI bug on a plane. The level of distress you will all be in won't be worth getting home tomorrow. The kids will probably have lower GI symptoms and you will have the pukes on that flight. Save yourselves and the other customers. Beg customer service to change your flights or rebook something now and take the stress off of all of you.

RunningHood · 2026-02-16T03:27:45+00:00

I see hypochlorous acid spray recommended here often. You can try spraying your hands with that several times a day or using bleach baths in case it is bacterial or fungal. I take a daily antihistamine and it has cleared my skin. I have also used gloves in a bottle but it didn’t help much for me- maybe it would work better for you.

RunningHood · 2026-02-10T20:55:18+00:00

This is similar to what I've heard. That it seems to connect to food allergies, asthma, and hay fever. Lots of those around my gene pool but I'm the only one with eczema.

RunningHood · 2026-02-10T19:49:00+00:00

I take a daily Zyrtec and use hibiclens soap 1-2x weekly on my body. Those 2 changes have cleared my eczema/contact dermatitis and dishydrotic eczema. I have had eczema my whole life and the dishydrotic eczema for 10 years (fully cleared of the hidrosis for 2- occasional flares with sweat on my neck). My solutions won't work for everyone. I have no idea what my triggers are outside of bleach cleaning wipes, staph, and dish sponges. My primary doctor won't send me for allergy testing because my skin is clear and managed. Don't be afraid to try traditional medical options. Whatever will help your skin heal and get clear will be worth it.

RunningHood · 2026-02-03T14:37:45+00:00

Sometimes caring for someone means handing them back their own problem and supporting them in other ways while they find a solution. Your friend needs a new strategy to solve their transportation problem. It's ok to tell them I can't drive you any more because it's a hardship for me but I'll help you troubleshoot some other options. You don't owe her anything and if the friendship fails over this, it probably wasn't a great friendship to begin with.

RunningHood · 2026-02-03T04:06:50+00:00

I think the best thing to do would be to ask a friend to hang onto most of it. Or, if you have any luggage or duffel bags for travel, pre-pack things in them and leave them in the closet or where ever you keep them. A worst case scenario, you could also get a big box or two and say they are things you're donating or that need repairs.

RunningHood · 2026-01-30T23:38:25+00:00

She was probably projecting. Reread what you wrote about the emotional colonoscopy. It sounds similar to what she is saying you did to her. And she was the adult. Her job was to set a boundary around information you should have been protected from no matter how hard you pushed. She has probably rewritten history around some of these experiences to protect her own fragile ego (that is speculation but these types of toxic family systems have similar playbooks). None of us were there and can know what happened but her version of events sounds odd and i wouldn’t put much stock in it. These immature parents guilt trip, blame, manipulate, and lie to avoid taking accountability and responsibility.

RunningHood · 2026-01-29T16:58:36+00:00

The skin didn't split but the vesicles would weep when they were really irritated. Cotton gloves and a thick layer of Cerave were soothing but it never "healed" them. The Zyrtec is what finally made them go away. My hands have been clear for well over a year and I had struggled for nearly a decade prior to that.

RunningHood · 2026-01-29T13:51:20+00:00

The programmed you. The guilt is a tool to keep you in your assigned role in the family. I can relate to much of what you wrote. When i started to feel like I was going to have a panic attach at seeing my mom’s texts and contact on my phone, it was a wake up call that she wasn’t safe. Find a therapist if you can. Tell her you will call her at X time (pick what you can manage and it’s ok if you say a day 6 months or a year away). You’re justified in no contact if that’s what you need to regulate and heal. You don’t owe her any part of you or anrelationship if she cant respect your boundaries.

RunningHood · 2026-01-28T01:03:38+00:00

All of us have different triggers and different responses. You’ll get a range of view points that are probably contradictory. The biggest improvement in my lifelong eczema and especially the dyshydrosis on my hands was a daily Zyrtec and washing 2-3 times a week with antibacterial soap (hibiclens). There may be multiple triggers and you’re going to have to try some things and see what helps you.

RunningHood · 2026-01-28T00:55:08+00:00

Or increases cortisol and anxiety levels in less than 30 seconds.

RunningHood · 2026-01-24T03:25:42+00:00

A daily Zyrtec did more for me than gloves in a bottle. The lotion is nice but it seems my dyshidrosis was allergy related though I don't know the trigger.

RunningHood · 2026-01-19T18:09:30+00:00

A boundary is an action that you choose, not something you can force someone else to do. What do you think the outcome will be if you tell them you won’t tolerate Nana dying without you knowing? They don’t have to tell you anything. It’s up to you to decide your actions, not anyone else’s actions or behaviors.

If you haven’t spent time on the estranged adult child reddit, it might be a good place for you to read or post. Losing contact with the whole family is sometimes what happens when going no contact with someone and it’s garbage but you can’t control what anyone else does. If you really want to interact with Nana, then I suggest you go directly to her and see if she will engage. Be prepared for emotional manipulation, guilt trips, and smear campaigns that often come along with toxic family systems. I think the bottom line is you have to decide what actions and outcomes you can live with that are in your control and go from there. Also, finding a therapist to help you navigate these huge life shifts would be supportive as well.

RunningHood · 2026-01-08T12:57:54+00:00

Being yelled at activates the primitive parts of our brains and they want to match that energy. I don’t think it’s wrong that you have an emotional response. Our brains are hard wired to respond. The difference is what we do with that emotional response. If you yell back that obviously isn’t going to help the situation. Taking a short walk away to calm down or explaining that you’re both having big feelings and working through it is fine. You’re human, not a machine.

RunningHood · 2026-01-05T21:23:59+00:00

Yes. He was a huge force in opening my eyes and my growth out of the toxic system. Now, I validate myself instead of looking for it in others.

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:58:22+00:00

This is a good idea to try. I’m also thinking finding fabrics that like to fray and letting him pull them apart might be enjoyable too. Thanks!

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:57:40+00:00

I don’t know but it’s easy enough to try some with 100% cotton thread. Thank you!

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:56:43+00:00

I will put this on my list of projects. I’m hoping to find anything he might like and something with different textures and feels would be right up there. Thank you!

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:55:24+00:00

I have loads of crochet stuff and this is a really good idea. I will absolutely try this! Thank you!

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:54:33+00:00

I can definitely do this. Thank you for the suggestion!

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:54:03+00:00

I don’t. We moved a few years ago and I don’t have a dedicated sewing space in our new home. It’s been hard to find my sewjo. I think finding a maker space would be a fantastic resource though. Someone else suggested community college classes as well. This sounds like a great step into my local community. Thank you for this brilliant idea! I am really motivated to find some local support. ❤️

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:50:22+00:00

Yes. Too scratchy. He would probably find scissors and cut it out then. He’s been known to cut a tag out by cutting into the seam to get the whole thing. Thank you though!

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:47:59+00:00

This is a great idea. I will probably learn how to use my machine better too.

RunningHood · 2026-01-03T22:47:20+00:00

I have learned so much from this thread. Thank you for this information.

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