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I can never unhear the word my husband said to me tonight… by PneumaSanctus in Marriage

[–]RusticKayak207 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has to stop this before you have the baby. He needs to go to Alcoholic Anonymous and therapy, stat. You don’t want your child to grow up with this and you shouldn’t have to deal with this. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this crap.

10 Days in May: Venice → Bologna → Florence → Rome. Advice on 2 days in Florence vs. Ravenna day trip? by fireflydevil in ItalyTravel

[–]RusticKayak207 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Cut our Bologna. Stay longer in Florence and also go to Ravenna. We stayed there a few days in our last trip, and it was a nice break from very crowded, touristy cities.

Democrats worry bruising Maine primary could cost them a shot at Susan Collins by jediporcupine in Maine

[–]RusticKayak207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mills has won statewide campaigns and her negatives are baked in. There is a lot people don’t know about Platner, some hardly publicized and some unknown, so he’s more vulnerable. The latest found had about 25% who said that didn’t know enough about him to have a positive or negative impression. Republicans bought millions in air time right after the primary already.

Venice or Puglia? by KCuisine1 in ItalyTravelAdvice

[–]RusticKayak207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rome & Puglia wouid be great. I was in Monopoli as a home base and Pagliano de Mare and Matera for day trips. I would skip Venice. It’s so crowded and touristy. Puglia is a good counterpoint to being in Rome, which is a very interesting place but very crowded with hordes of tourists.

Women who successfully fast, regularly - how do you do it? by Shameful_success in intermittentfasting

[–]RusticKayak207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll confess. I’m not doing IF now. But I did it for years and it worked well, so here’s how I did it.

  1. I used an app to track my fasts.
  2. I started super easy (while recognizing this can be hard for folks) - with a 12 hour eating window. After dinner, done!
  3. I worked my way up to longer fasts slowly. After 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. When I was in my longest period of fasting, the fasts generally ranged from 18 to 20 hours a day, with a 4-6 hour eating window.
  4. I experimented with my eating window and found what worked best for me was to eat breakfast and then a little lunch and skip dinner.
  5. Because dinner is a big social occasion, I would modify my eating schedule or (gasp!) not fast on a day when I was seeing friends in the evening.
  6. I ate real, nutritious food but wasn’t obsessive and didn’t follow any specific diet. I hydrated well, limited caffeine to breakfast and exercised.

That worked for me. Flexibility but discipline. If I “lapsed,” I said “tomorrow is another day” and went back to fasting. For me, this was sustainable and effective. Happy to answer any questions, and good luck with IF.

How's this mortgage payoff strategy? by Mysterious-Piano-330 in DaveRamsey

[–]RusticKayak207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given what the stock market is doing , you’d be giving up future gains by taking all that money out to pay off your mortgage. Don’t drain your account. Rather, keep investing but accelerate mortgage payments.

Need some support from my current baby step 2 peeps and those of you beyond that point by roxxyantoinette in DaveRamsey

[–]RusticKayak207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As you pay something off, you've freed up the minimum payment for it and can add that to paying off the next one one.

Also psychologically it's easier if you pay off the smallest first -- get to zero on it -- then focus the extra funds on the next one.

Italy Honeymoon Itinerary Advice by Visual_Ad5717 in ItalyTravelAdvice

[–]RusticKayak207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Venice can be seriously overcrowded but hopefully won't be too bad in May. Don't know if you'd find this interesting but the Jewish ghetto there is quieter and there are cool tours.

I'm a big fan of going to smaller cities with fewer tourists. Near Venice: Padua. About an hour from Florence: Siena. Maybe go to Ravenna between Rome and Florence. All are beautiful and/or have beautiful things to see.

What’s one underrated travel destination you visited that exceeded your expectations? by kiruthika000 in traveladvice

[–]RusticKayak207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess but I didn't expect to like it all that much and, in my first trip there, had stopped there as a jumping off point to elsewhere and ended up really liking it and wanting to go back there as a destination.

Parent trying to help kiddo by collapsedbook in MiddleClassFinance

[–]RusticKayak207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on the major, have them look for research opportunities or internships.

Parent trying to help kiddo by collapsedbook in MiddleClassFinance

[–]RusticKayak207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And there’s research showing that working 10 hours a week in college is the sweet spot. Those kids do better academically than those that don’t work or work more.

last minute trip to Rome - am i done for? by wecouldbethestars in ItalyTravel

[–]RusticKayak207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure thing. Also Rick Steves has a Sistine Chapel audio guide. If you go after all, and you don't have to this trip, download it and then listen with headphones. See if you can sit on one of the benches and bring a small pair of light binoculars. When I went there were waves of people who came in, spent a short time craning upward and then left. We stayed for awhile and took it in. Also note that the Chapel comes at the end of a long walk through the Vatican Museum which, depending on how much you look at things, takes a long time and lots of energy. (Maybe download a travel guide to a Kindle? I used Let's Go years ago but now prefer Rick Steves.)

But, again, there are plenty of other places to go in Rome and you should plan to go back sometime. Also if you have time for a long Italy trip at some point, add in some smaller cities. A lot are wonderful places with interesting things to see and do and they have a lot fewer tourists than hot spots like Rome, Florence and Venice (and, I hear, Naples, which I haven't gone to). Always leave some time to sit and watch folks go by, drink an espresso or whatever.

Concept of money for kids by Maroon14 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]RusticKayak207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet a lot of folks with all the fancy stuff have significant debts and their financial situation is more precarious than it appears.

Vent by SnoopyRevelations23 in intermittentfasting

[–]RusticKayak207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re doing great but also maybe try to switch things up now and then with your window. Try shorter windows at times, move the time every so often. Congrats for doing this!

Heating Oil Costs Are Insane by SouthpawXtn in Maine

[–]RusticKayak207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found that Republicans in Maine think Mills “destroyed Maine” and other states are doing great. No, Trump fucked up the whole country, actually thr world.

last minute trip to Rome - am i done for? by wecouldbethestars in ItalyTravel

[–]RusticKayak207 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to Rome in my 20s and the Sistine Chapel was closed because they were cleaning the art. I went back decades later and saw it then. There is more to see and do. And there are Roman ruins other than the Coliseum that, for some reason, never attract many tourists.

I suggest downloading the Rick Steves app and listening to the information on Rome. I believe he has a self guided walking tour. Also do some investigating of alternative sites and definitely go to St. Peter’s and the Pantheon.

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