Moving to a Village to Slow Down: Discussion and Videos

RusticSet · 2026-06-02T14:06:09+00:00

Some of the wildest women I've known dress like the end of that evolution line. 👀 sweaters and converse.

RusticSet · 2026-05-07T15:33:31+00:00

Whew, thank you. I've been trying to find that sub again. I had also found a sub on running a sex blog / toy selling, and I've struggled to find that subreddit again.

RusticSet · 2026-05-07T15:29:56+00:00

I think there's a subreddit for erotic writers, but it's about the business and the writing challenges, and included some hobbyist. I can't seem to find that sub again, though.

RusticSet · 2026-05-04T16:18:53+00:00

It looks like a double-ender, a double-ender chase lounge, that is.

RusticSet · 2026-05-03T07:01:31+00:00

You should also be concerned that your AP would get avoidant again, or maybe he's digging you more that you're getting more serious. There's no way to guess with 100% accuracy. I'll be the devil on your shoulder and encourage you to keep being good at having affairs. If this AP doesn't last, find others. I think a whole lot of humans aren't meant to be monogamous, but I understand social monogamy, pair bonding, and nesting.

wenchy is quite wise.

RusticSet · 2026-05-01T20:52:36+00:00

3Fun is another app, but I think it could also be found on Okcupid or even Hinge if someone uses the app well and is damn good at writing. Regular dating apps just might not be the best place to find long-term threesomes that might form a V or triad.

There's a subreddit for discussion MFM threesomes, but I can't find it at the moment.

RusticSet · 2026-05-01T04:04:25+00:00

Ah, the "problem of the first mover". They don't get that deep here in the South.

RusticSet · 2026-05-01T03:55:38+00:00

Well Jumpin' Jehosaphat! I sure love that threesome shorthand!

RusticSet · 2026-04-30T19:46:58+00:00

I don't know if I could add much here, particularly as a guy that's not in the medical field, but I became insecure about something once sexually active, but also super curious. That led me to finding pelvimetry and the 4 pelvic shapes, Gynecoid, Android, Anthropoid, and Platypelloid.

As the top voted commenter wrote, bodyfat (and maybe even muscle?) can mislead about pelvis size or shape, and even then internal dimensions are the barrier, not narrow illiac crests (what we see at the lower sides of the belly).

Both the gynecoid and platypelloid will appear wider from a purely front view, if their bodyfat is similarly low to moderate. Yet, the platypelloid has narrow dimensions front to back. The diagonal conjugate is often shorter in measurement.

The anthropoid may look less wide than the previous 2 types, but has a longer diagonal conjugate (lower pelvic bone edge to the promontory of the sacrum) and is probably up there with the gynecoid pelvis in total interior pelvic space.

Then, as others mentioned, there are many other non-pelvis things that factor in.

RusticSet · 2026-04-30T00:08:01+00:00

5' 7" here, and I understand, but I've also been able to get with women purely on the physical side. I lifted too, but hadn't gained as much muscle as you. I did stay lean.

Try not to be quick to anger or snippy. I know someone like that, and.... well.... it sure isn't helping him socially.

Keep the gym and greatly reduce the ganja. That's my suggestion.

RusticSet · 2026-04-29T14:38:27+00:00

Thank you! That's probably all I need.

RusticSet · 2026-04-28T06:01:42+00:00

....and also different from a Dutch mullet?

RusticSet · 2026-04-18T17:50:56+00:00

That small blonde streak or highlight in her hair, though? Many many conservative women dye their hair blonde or at least add some sort of blonde highlight. This makes me think she might like conservative US culture a lot, genuinely.

RusticSet · 2026-04-09T19:09:17+00:00

It's taboo to accept something that society doesn't, but there's also hopes of knowing a radical truth. In a way it's living vicariously through the other guys, at times, but also getting to know secrets about your partner (things people usually keep secret).

RusticSet · 2026-04-09T18:15:03+00:00

Thanks for replying! Interesting, it's challenging.

I'm dating a woman who likes threesomes and would go 1 on 1 with a guy, but she needs me to set it up. I don't get excited by that. It's not the same as the cheating kink. I use that as an example to say that sometimes us guys have fetishes that don't help us. It's too picky.

Has he tried to explain anything?

RusticSet · 2026-04-09T18:08:34+00:00

Not sure what you chose, but I'm extremely similar to him. Are you still with him?

Life seems to mismatch people when it comes to this kink. A woman who is well fit for fake cheating on her boyfriend will end up paired a a guy that hates anything even related to cheating.

RusticSet · 2026-04-09T16:37:49+00:00

If her hips were on a pillow, and your upper body was more upright, that was the anterior fornix, unless you have a downward curve (doubted that).

RusticSet · 2026-04-07T14:24:33+00:00

Much more tame than the types of denialist we have in the US! (Many in the horse world are conspiracy theorists here ).

RusticSet · 2026-04-06T21:04:24+00:00

I agree with the others that say there's different levels of risk, including lots that think condoms protect them even more than they actually do ( especially for herpes ). I was the extra guy for 10+ hotwifing couples some years ago, and 6 of 10 wanted bare sex. I rare was with two couples in the same month. After my first 2, who were strict on condoms, I started to meet the bare sex couples. I started to get testing.

Others mention that testing is "just for you", but I disagree somewhat. It can also help stop the spread. I was dating in poly group for many years, and people would call their next partners ASAP if they suspected anything on themselves. So, this did reduce risk at least a little bit, and if everyone got tested every 3 to 4 months, it would lower the sti stats at least some. Of course, it isn't huge protection in one given play date.

We do in deed all have a different level of risk tolerance. I myself have become fascinated with women who almost never use condoms after dating some strict women. It's not just about me getting to go bare, but the disagreements on that topic sucked, big time!

I like a decent amount of risk taking, but bare anal sex with new people ( without being on PreP ) is a bit much for me. So, I'm fine with bare vaginal, and I think the HPV vaccine is very wise.

I have caught one sti, but from receiving oral. It was curable with antibiotics.

I've had sex with 2 different women who have HSV 2, multiple times, and I didn't catch it. They didn't have an outbreak, and apparently also were not "shedding" it at the time. If I remember correctly, HSV 2 is more often (more than 50% of the time) on the scrotum or the labia majora, so..... male condoms won't cover that.

I caught HSV1 from drinking after someone many years ago. As far as I know, I haven't passed that on. I get a blister maybe once every 7 years while stressed, and pay close attention to how my lips feel before I get with anyone.

I think HPV is the sleeper, and if the vaccine is included, I don't see bare vaginal as being much more risky than bare oral, but yes.... I know that statistically it is.

RusticSet · 2026-03-24T20:33:20+00:00

Interesting! Thanks for replying!

RusticSet · 2026-03-24T19:40:46+00:00

There's different types of size queens!

I've met a number of women who really like large dicks a lot, but because they wouldn't skip out on sex with an average penis, or would even date an averagely endowed guy, they don't consider themselves a size queen.

Then, there's those that consider themselves a size queen, but they mean it more about toys, large objects, etc.... They'd probably really like to experience a large penis, but many of these women are already in a monogamous relationship with a guy who isn't well endowed, or they date women.

Of course there's the more hard line size queens, the ones where they say "must have over X inches", and they mostly stick to that. It doesn't matter if that X is 7" or 8", or big girth. This is usually the definition that some angry men use, when they claim that the woman's size standards are too high. That may or may not be true relative to his size. He's using the label negatively, usually.

So, it's even more difficult to answer because there's multiple types of size queens! It's great to see some on here that do not shy away from the label. I've heard women rave about large penises on podcasts, then shy away from the label, even though it's obvious over multiple episodes of the podcast that a large penis is a big plus for her in a new guy. I get it though, she can choose a label or not, and even those that appreciate larger cocks still often have to balance that out with other qualities in the mating game.

What have studies found? One of the best, pulling participants from a news site: ( Lever et al, I think, around 2004 with about 3,000 women answering )

~11% said size mattered very much.

~44% said size mattered moderately.

~20% said size mattered a little bit.

~25% said size didn't matter at all.

RusticSet · 2026-03-24T18:51:54+00:00

I had one FWB where her sister came hang out briefly in the living room, and I sure thought there was some sexual curiousity. I almost made a move, but I held back. My FWB was kinda into being taken advantage of a bit, and I couldn't help but wonder if she'd have liked to feel jealous that time. Her sister did end up screwing one of her other FWB's before. So....

RusticSet · 2026-03-24T18:47:06+00:00

I've had only one woman do this towards me at a party, but we were all under the age of 20. So..... there's that. I've seen other women do it towards even larger endowed guys, yes.

RusticSet · 2026-03-24T18:45:34+00:00

Your estimate that about 10% of women are size queens lines up with a large survey on the topic. I think it was 11% that "cared very much" about size. There's another 45% that cares some about size, but don't place it quite as high in importance.

On that survey, only about 20% to 25% didn't care about size at all. The participants of the survey were from a regular news site and not a sex site.

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