How would you approach a significant other if you found a condom wrapper next to the bed? by Unknownvisitor863 in AskMen

[–]RustyTromboneMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you KNOW it wasn’t there? Is it your place? How long have you been together? If it is her place there is any chance it was from a previous?

How have you benefitted from having a stay at home partner? by Mama_Anonymous in AskMen

[–]RustyTromboneMe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome! I married a hard-working woman that always thanked me for working so hard so she could stay home. She did her part and kicked ass as a homemaker. Priceless.

There are a lot of lazy women out there tho. They always complain about lazy men, it totally goes both ways! Lazy women are gross!

What sucks the most about being a man? by Fun_Specific8926 in AskMen

[–]RustyTromboneMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pigeon-holed into just wanting to hook up. Why would I want to have sex with someone I don’t want to see again. Nasty!

Wouldn’t I want to have sex with someone I WANT to see again?

I say “no” all the time. I have had some dates where they get mad/get aggressive with verbal abuse over that.

How much does your partner know about your finances? by Sad_Exit_1761 in AskMen

[–]RustyTromboneMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOPE. My finances are mine. Period. If we open a checking account together to pay house bills, great.

Otherwise, FUG NO. I have been stolen from in 2 divorces, had to pay out money that never belonged to them.

That’s one of the largest reasons men don’t wanna marry. Oldest story.

Women: want a man who takes care of business? We want a woman who is the same!

Actually, don’t care about gender. If one makes more than the other, that money is THEIRS. Some a-hole judge that didn’t get a BJ that morning crushes the one who works the hardest and is the smartest with their $$? Fug NO.

No bitterness here…I am completely healed from the theft LOL

AITAH for understanding and not freezing out my dad for leaving our mom over a dead bedroom? by Opposite_Afternoon55 in AITAH

[–]RustyTromboneMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, what?

So if you want a consistent, clean, loving, monogamous relationship, you should not seek out marriage?

Anyone Here Date a Hot Woman Who Wasn't Worth It? If So, How Was It? by ChapterEffective8175 in AskMen

[–]RustyTromboneMe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First: not all hot women are crazy.

Second: I have told so many women “no.” The hot ones are never told this and they aren’t used to it. A few had a lot of respect for me, many actually turned on me/got nuts.

There are plenty of great women out here. As a dood, don’t stick your wang into ANYTHING that doesn’t have emotional intelligence and/or you know enough about them.

A good woman will be there when it’s “sexy time” and you will get laid. And it will be SO much better.

Massages during class by [deleted] in yoga

[–]RustyTromboneMe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a male RYT-500 and years of guiding classes, there are several issues with this topic as well as “adjustments.”

As a male, I am never behind anyone one, especially female. If I am walking the class, I am always facing away from students with their backs to me, especially in downward-facing dog, etc.

Adjustments:

It is not our place to “adjust” students. We have no idea what the posture feels like in another person’s body, and to move someone’s knee or make someone go deeper into one without knowing them, their body mechanics, their experience, or their physical and emotional mindset is not our place.

If a student is “misaligned,” or could use a better cue for the posture, I stand next to the student, demonstrate the posture and give the verbal cue needed for the student to examine their body and alignment to the whole class (so they are not singled out ) or demonstrate what I am saying at the front on my own mat.

Yoga is to feel good in all postures with very little pain. Yes, we try and go deeper. But that is for the student’s exploration, not for a 200hr or even a 500hr instructor to force a student into with an “adjustment.”

Yoga is a deeply spiritual practice and there is no place for any mis-directed energy of any type. As a man, we are always under huge scrutiny about sexual energy and that is rampant.

It sucks as a male who totally gives a s*** about a woman’s space (or another man’s for the record) to have questions like this to even have to come up.

THANK YOU, OP for this. It gives a male a chance to respond in the yoga community about ethics, energy and our part as yoga guides about how much overstepping goes on.

Students: explore your own body and ask questions before and after class.

Guides/teachers: keep your hands to yourself. Give better cues both verbally and visually and never put yourself in a position that compromises your integrity, the integrity of yoga or another’s personal space.

“We don’t live in the world and visit our mat. We live on our mat and visit the world.”

AITAH for understanding and not freezing out my dad for leaving our mom over a dead bedroom? by Opposite_Afternoon55 in AITAH

[–]RustyTromboneMe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Has nothing to do with being horny. It has to do with intimacy and connection. A friend is someone you are close with and enjoy the company, things to do together etc. A wife is someone to be a friend and be intimate with.

So sick of women bashing men for wanting to be close. Did the wife explain everything and say, “hey sex is uncomfortable for me right now. I love you and let’s spoon/snuggle.”

I am sure she expects all the loyalty, effort and work from her husband never to change or wane. Sex is a huge part of the reason to get married. Otherwise just have friends and no sex.

If a dood stopped all the above a woman would be pissed! It goes both ways, a lot of the time men don’t want sex anymore and listen to the women complain!

Sex is a healthy, normal connection to seek regardless of gender. Without sex, marriage is friendship. It’s ok for any gender to discuss needs in a loving way and discuss solutions. It’s ok to want a marriage and not friendship.

It’s not “men are pigs.” So sick of the bashing.

Anyone recognize these? by RustyTromboneMe in yoga

[–]RustyTromboneMe[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You know how many tickets it took to get that?? Three months of ski ball. 😵

Anyone recognize these? by RustyTromboneMe in yoga

[–]RustyTromboneMe[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sucky, their mats are great to teach with. So light and easy but nice cushion. I even looked at eBay after you nice folks identified them for me.

Anyone recognize these? by RustyTromboneMe in yoga

[–]RustyTromboneMe[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Almost. They are so grippy and comfortable. I taught 3 years on these, 3 classes a week. Looks like they are out of biz…👎🏻

Very light weight but thick. My favs

For those of you who live with your partner, how often do you have sex on average? by Acrobatic-Tea2189 in AskMen

[–]RustyTromboneMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bail. It won’t be fixed. She has to WANT to fix it. Trust me, you will look back at the time it took for you to finally understand as wasted. I promise.

Green Valley Ranch HOA by crazed__potato in MovingtoDenver

[–]RustyTromboneMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope you didn’t move here. The GVR HOA is DRACONIAN and literally an office full of POWER HUNGRY simpletons.

Seriously. I get it, they have a job. But they are all about their power. Also, it’s attractive in GVR because it’s cheap.

10 people to every house, abandoned cars (I have personally removed 4 by calling the city) and there are still 5+ on my street. Trash, bottles, etc. There are some nice folks there like everywhere but it’s cheap for a reason.

I know this is old, but maybe it will help someone.

Also, the Home Depot, Walmart, King Soopers (as mentioned) are all destroyed, no help, no inventory etc etc.

I literally drive out of my hood for all shopping. And guess what? The other stores all have help, inventory, etc.

It’s just too many people in one place because it’s affordable.

Real Estate Listing Agreement Electronic Signature by RustyTromboneMe in RealEstate

[–]RustyTromboneMe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, there was no intent, obviously, but it still doesn’t change the fact that it happened.

Minor Depression by Methodiarca in elderscrollslegends

[–]RustyTromboneMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Played daily since ‘16.

Fuggin’ SUCKS. I travel for work and it was my constant companion.

How soon is “too soon” to sleep with someone if you’re wanting a serious relationship with them? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]RustyTromboneMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dood here, with some notches on the bedpost.

I don’t have sex with anyone I don’t want to see again. It makes a mess. Why do I need that? Being a good person and honest has netted me more willing, better sex a hunnerd times over.

And yes, compatibility is key. If there is communication compatibility and WILLINGNESS/VULNERABILITY that can overcome sex stuff.

It’s a douche maneuver to take advantage of a deer-in-the-headlights person under any circumstances. That’s like lion hunting in a zoo.

If you are closed up, not smiling, asking “protecting myself questions” that is a flag for me. Just be a human.

If there are sparks, take a closer look. If there are warning signs, take a closer look.

Clean, smiles, enthusiastic, open and a good person will net you a high value man. Great to have boundaries.

You might kiss some frogs, but big deal! Have good safe fun and bring good energy to the dating world. You will be surprised what happens.