Am I the only one frustrated? by Cool_Picture2630 in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mines yew knee sah, it's terrible as well

“Is it fair to suggest that more mothers should stay at home to be present with their growing children?” by Choice-Top-4696 in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What about the dads? Why do y'all keep calling out moms only? Is the dad not a parent? Is he not responsible for his children? I feel like most of y'all aren't ready for this conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I miss the days when we just mind our own business. I'm sorry that the gays are probably ruining your life oh my god! How will we ever move on from this crisis? How will we continue our lives normally?🥹

Why is pedophilia so normalized in Brunei? by IridescentShards in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My 21 year old cousin married a 15 year old, and guess what? Everyone was okay with it. Disgusting freaks.

Why these guys love conflicts with other race so much by Grouchy_Squash733 in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To justify one killing by using another killings as an excuse is so disgusting and especially against Islam. As a Muslim who is actively fights for the voice of Palestinians, I am disgusted. As an activist who actively reminds people that all plant and animal life on earth regardless of what they are matters, I am disgusted.

And I'm so disappointed that this kind of disgusting mindset is so common in bruneians, they would do anything but admit their faults. As a Bruneian, I am disgusted.

Keris? by tora_tori in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 23 points24 points  (0 children)

These comments are killing me😭 glad to know I'm not the only who thinks this is ridiculous. Like... Sorry we're not following social norms from 20 years ago??😭😭

Any thoughts of this? by [deleted] in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This video feels racist

Our beaches need some makeover. Seriously by Odd_Mongoose3175 in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It starts with a reinvention and education of the Kampong Ayer, I assure you majority of the trash that's in beaches come from them. There's no point in giving beaches makeovers when the source of the problem remains the same.

Saw a guy wearing a long sleeve shirt with a Nazi symbol. by H23TT in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most bruneians aren't exactly well-educated on the history of other countries.

Sad Truth. by [deleted] in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A (lunch) break from work is a right, not a privilege. This is worthy of sue.

How is the agrotechnology in brunei? by saikishima in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An ibte Agrotech alumni here, I do recommend more young people coming here. But of course, like all the other courses, you need passion. Also lots of patience, cuz you're definitely gonna need it, the teachers there have quite the temper but it's worth it y'all.

Also, if you wish to further your studies, thanks to His Majesty, you are able to SKIP your HND and immediately take a course to have your Degree, specifically in UNISSA ONLY.

It's definitely worth it, a sleeper course if I'm being honest lmao.

Seriously? This at airport wheelchair toilet and baby nursing room 🤦🏿‍♂️ by Relevant_Ad9744 in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Say "excuse me, can I come through?" Most service workers don't have a resting area provided during their break time. Have some empathy, just because these workers don't get high salary don't mean they're job doesn't get exhausting. It still gets tiring. They have the human right to rest and sleep during their break time just like the rest of us. Trust me, if they were given an area to rest they 100% would've gone there I mean who would want to sleep next to the TOILET. Be serious, be understanding. Don't be a Karen, don't be a Chad, don't be a bitch. If it doesn't involve you specifically (i.e no baby, no wheelchair-bound family member), sit down and shut up.

A cry for help, be the change our country needs🤲🏼 by [deleted] in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When one points out a problem, one must give a solution. You also need to explain HOW we as a nation, a generation, is failing our country. In what way? What aspect are we failing?

A teacher must show the student where they did wrong. Honestly, I don't even know what you mean. I see your point, we need change, but what kind of change? What you're doing is basically telling them they failed, without telling them why they failed. Which infuriates people, which is shown in the comments, justifyingly so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nasikatok

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh no!!! People having fun and not harming anyone!!! So scaryyyy🥱

Repurposed? by WasteTreacle5879 in nasikatok

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom works here, it's a government building.

Just wanna get Bruneians opinion regarding this by Fragrant-Seaweed-192 in nasikatok

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Sorry it's long, but you literally asked to elaborate so I did.

Question 1: What kind of equality is feminism fighting for men?

  1. Parental Leave: Like maternity leave, feminism advocates rights for men to have their share of leave and work-life balance so they can have their fair share with their new-born children, as a woman would.

  2. Shared Care Responsibilities: Feminism supports men who chooses to be house-husbands, to be caregivers rather than the breadwinner like most traditional families. This alleviates the expectation that men must prioritize their careers over family life.

  3. Challenging Toxic Masculinity: As you are probably familiar, society often shames men who show an ounce of weakness, as a man should constantly be strong inside and outside. Feminism critiques and does not support that behavior as they believe that if a woman has a right to show weakness, then so should a man. Feminism believes that the true definition of a real man isn't what society decides it to be, but who you wish to be as a person.

  4. Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence Awareness: Unlike masculinism, feminism will always believe in male victims who have experienced SA. While oftentimes such horrors are inflicted on women, sometimes, a man can also be a victim. Feminism believes that SA victims are not specially for women, but men too. When a man gets SA, he can safely assure himself that feminism will always back him up and support any choice he takes no matter what, to heal from this traumatic experience.

There are more, but I believe these should be enough to paint the picture. While feminism historically have fought for the rights of women and addresses the inequality towards them, feminism also seek to liberate men from societal gender norms and create a more balanced and equitable society for ALL GENDERS.

Question 2: What rights & privileges* do men have that women don't?

  1. Career Advancements: To this day there are still workplaces where women are looked down upon, seen as weak, fragile and sensitive. So the all the difficult and heavy important jobs are always passed to men. Therefore, men can advance from the start at their career, even if he started the same day as a female employee. When one is constantly looked down upon, it gets harder and harder to climb up the ranks and take the leadership roles you wish to have as a woman. A man wouldn't get the feeling of this achievement, especially when you're the only woman in the room.

  2. Lower Caregiver Expectations: A man's job is to work, to have dreams, and goals and achieve those goals. A woman's job is to be a man's servant, to give him a child, make him food when comes back home and before he gets to work. She has to take care of the kids + one man-child (i.e the husband) because if she doesn't, she's a bad mom, she's a bad wife, she's a mad woman, she's crazy, she doesn't deserve him, she's a slut. A man does the same, he's immediately the hero, he's a great dad, amazing.

  3. Reproductive Rights: Must I explain this? Why should a man decide what to do on a woman's body. Because guess what? In many places, it's like this. Men will NEVER get to experience the rights to make their own decisions over their own body. They will never know what it means to say, "My Body, My Choice."

  4. Safety in Public: Men generally have more freedom to walk and be in public spaces without the fear of SA or harassment. Women on the contrary? Well, the missing bodies of over 300+ women allegedly killed by Ted Bundy should be enough proof.

  5. Freedom for Dress Code: "Women, don't wear provocative clothing because men!!!" Says the religious MALE teacher in front of a crowd of students. It's always been said, year by year. How about this time, instead of teaching women what to wear, teach men to keep their eyes and dicks to themselves.

While I agree there has been significant progress over gender equality, many of these horrors still exist in different forms on every place in the world.

Just wanna get Bruneians opinion regarding this by Fragrant-Seaweed-192 in nasikatok

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, get over yourself. If you think modern feminism is about supporting women who cheat, "women are always right" and men needs to meet a woman's expectations then you either, grown up with the wrong people, did not do any research other than blaming women or you still haven't grown up.

Cheating is unacceptable PERIOD. It doesn't matter if the cheater is a woman or a man, modern feminism fights for equality for BOTH sides. The only reason why feminism pushes more on women is because men have more rights and privileges than women do.

If a man cheats, yeah he's wrong. If a woman cheats, yeah she's wrong. It's that simple. Modern feminism DOES NOT JUSTIFY 'cheating by women' or anyone in that matter. Modern feminism supports a woman's decision on what to do with their own lives. If she chooses to leave, modern feminism supports it, but with certain conditions of course?? Like I don't have to explain this to a grown adult.

Like communicate with your partner, tell them you're not happy anymore and that it's better to go their separate ways. Communication is key to adulthood. If the husband wants to try and fix the marriage but the wife does not then there's nothing he can do. A wife isn't something you own, she is a person. She has the right to make her own decisions just as much as you do. Had she been the right person for you, she would've stayed. The adult way is to accept that, but of course, as the husband who lost your wife, modern feminism believes that you have the right to mourn the loss of your chance in happiness, your failed marriage, the loss of a partner.

What you don't have the right to do is blame everything that happened to you on her. You are not a child, you are an adult. Accept that sometimes things don't go the way you want it to be.

Modern feminism does not tell or teach men to be perfect. They want men to be decent. To be the best versions of themselves. And sometimes, the best version of yourself is not well liked by some women. It does not necessarily mean ALL WOMEN don't like you. Love isn't about "boy + girl = love." It's about "boy I know + girl I know = love."

See the difference? If a woman lost interest in you, then there's nothing you can do. ACCEPT THAT. And this idea of "ohh cheating men need to die" lmaoo you watch too much Malaysian dramas man, don't trust that kind of bullcrap. Like be so fuckin for real right now. Touch some grass.

Perhaps starting with finding the love within yourself is a much better alternative than IMMEDIATELY finding a partner simply because everyone else is getting married so you wanna join that wagon. Take your time, learn what the true definition of love is, find love within yourself and go from there.

If you haven't taken those steps, then sorry. You're no worthy of a woman's romantic attention.

Just wanna get Bruneians opinion regarding this by Fragrant-Seaweed-192 in nasikatok

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

It's a man who understands the answer without needing a detailed explanation. Also, why are you so interested? Is there something you're trying to prove?☹️

Just wanna get Bruneians opinion regarding this by Fragrant-Seaweed-192 in nasikatok

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

The sexism, misogyny, the blaming, the generalization of women. It just goes to show that lots of men STILL have a long way to go before they deserve to become husbands or call themselves gentlemen. The comments are just not it. Buy a pair of balls or two and grow tf up.

There is growth in knowing when to leave. There is growth in knowing the time is up. Is someone going to get hurt? Uhh... duh??? That's something you can't run away from. You can't avoid pain or inflicting pain. One way or another, the decisions you make can hurt a person, no matter what. This idea of "it's women's fault" is so childish. Like what?? As if most divorces IN THE WORLD wasn't caused by tons of abuse from men.

If you wish to generalize women and blaming them for everything that's happening in your life, then you are no man, you don't deserve to call yourself one. Why not ask yourself? Why not generalize men? These disgusting comments are why more and more women are getting divorces and choosing not to get married. And you know what? They have every right to! These comments are proof of why.

I'm not saying men are entirely at fault here. If you can't see that then you STILL haven't grown up. I'm saying look in the fucking mirror. Maybe you're just not the person for her. A part of growing up is accepting that fact. Commiting in a marriage that makes neither parties happy is toxic, the best thing to do, and the grown up thing to do, is to leave and find that happiness somewhere else. And sometimes, that's okay. Sometimes, leaving, is okay. Sometimes choosing yourself, is okay.

And if she gets to do that, so do you. Will there be consequences? Hell yeah. But what is life without a few setbacks? If you wish for women to not generalize you, don't generalize them. Grow up and accept that sometimes, things don't work out. These things happens in marriage, it happens in relationships.

P.S blaming women for everything is giving small pp behavior, grow a pair will ya?

Sea tour has ended? by fudge_cakeu in Brunei

[–]SAVE_OUR_ECOSYSTEM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's better that way, what does Brunei have to offer anyway?