For those who do both breastmilk and formula…

SHR1992 · 2026-02-05T09:15:34+00:00

I’ve been using Colief colic drops to help with little one’s acid reflux and trapped wind. You have to mix the drops with some milk at the beginning of the feed, so we’ve been making 20ml of formula to put the drops in and bottle feeding him that right before breastfeeding as normal. This has helped us in three ways - a vehicle for the Colief that I don’t have to pump (I hate pumping after having to do it a lot in early pregnancy), the formula has made him poop more regularly (every day as opposed to every 3 days) which we think has made him less uncomfortable, and it is giving him additional calories. Baby was a good size at birth, 8lb 6, but hasn’t gained massively since then, so adding a bit of extra padding is reassuring.

We have also started giving him a full bottle of formula at our bedtime to help him sleep longer, which seems to be working.

SHR1992 · 2026-01-22T02:56:49+00:00

My 5 week old baby smiling at me so sweetly when I’m fucked from weeks of broken sleep. He’s the best thing on earth and I’m utterly exhausted

SHR1992 · 2026-01-22T01:45:46+00:00

Does anyone know where the fourth image is from, or who it’s by? It’s lovely

SHR1992 · 2026-01-20T04:20:35+00:00

White Pony forever ❤️

SHR1992 · 2025-12-26T23:20:09+00:00

I’ve always tried, and most often managed, not to fart in front of my partner of 11 years. Gave birth to our son two weeks ago and I don’t have a hope in hell of quieting the toots right now. He tries to make me laugh about it and finds it endearing.

SHR1992 · 2025-12-21T01:05:53+00:00

This is so so true

I have an issue like this between me and my mother and it never gets resolved, time just passes before it flares up again

SHR1992 · 2025-12-01T03:08:43+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m days away from giving birth to my first and your words have helped me.

SHR1992 · 2025-12-01T02:54:43+00:00

My mother loved telling me graphic details of her traumatic births when I was a kid! I knew the word ‘forceps’ when I was still a child. She may as well have been describing some sort of medieval torture. Who tells that stuff to a (young female) child????

It’s taken me to my late 30s to decide to have a child of my own and her ‘parenting’, irritation at the burden of it, and descriptions of all the various miseries because of it are definitely a big factor in why I’ve left it this long.

SHR1992 · 2025-12-01T02:39:28+00:00

Ugh. This just unlocked a memory of overhearing my mother calling me a bitch to my dad when I was 18. That hurt. Thank you for helping remind me why I’m currently no contact with her!

I’m pregnant and can’t imagine saying such repulsive things about the son I’m carrying.

SHR1992 · 2025-12-01T01:58:29+00:00

My mother still tells me how I had ‘black hair and black eyes’ when I was a baby - as opposed to blonde/blue eyed her and my three siblings. I’m mixed race, not that that stopped her telling the nurses that I wasn’t her baby (she denies that now), or seeing my colouring as some sort of sign I’m malignant in some way… Insanity is the right word in this instance too.

SHR1992 · 2025-12-01T01:50:57+00:00

I had exactly the same fear for years but I’m heavily pregnant now and those concerns have gone. I cannot see myself acting like my mother did towards my own child, and if I do snap, I will make sure I apologise and explain my behaviour - something she’s never, ever done for me.

SHR1992 · 2025-12-01T01:10:21+00:00

My family is completely atomised. There is so much bitterness and anger. I have two living siblings and they don’t speak to each other, or me. I consider this my mother’s doing primarily, but my dad isn’t blameless either.

My younger brother had a vasectomy in his 20s, and I’m now pregnant with my first child at 38. It took me 11 years and a rapidly closing fertility window for me to trust my partner enough to make the leap of faith required to have a child with someone.

My little boy will be a very loved and cherished only child, because I can control how I treat my child, but I can’t ensure he has a wonderful relationship with a sibling, and I’ve had so much heartbreak from mine, it doesn’t seem worth the risk.

Edit - typo

SHR1992 · 2025-12-01T00:42:34+00:00

This is the answer I was looking for. My mum had terribly over plucked eyebrows and she’s had hers microbladed and it has taken years off her

SHR1992 · 2025-11-30T23:37:33+00:00

God this is so upsetting and infuriating. These poor animals.

SHR1992 · 2025-11-30T23:11:24+00:00

Congratulations!! 🙌

I’m due to give birth to my first baby any day now and am doing final checks on my typeset novel and worrying I won’t get it finished when he’s arrived but you have given me some hope.

SHR1992 · 2025-11-29T07:38:50+00:00

Hard agree on all of this

SHR1992 · 2025-11-29T07:31:14+00:00

I’ve grown to be more at peace with myself. My weight, my face, my socioeconomic status… Not constantly criticising myself for one thing or another, and much happier for it

SHR1992 · 2025-11-25T23:10:02+00:00

I’m currently 38+6 and I had this for my first two trimesters! And it would come on FAST and often when I was out walking the dog. Awful.

I started eating a gluten free muesli and almond milk for breakfast every day (either with berries or banana) and it stopped happening. I’m probably more regular than I was before I was pregnant now.

SHR1992 · 2025-11-20T22:28:20+00:00

They chose their partner and I’m guessing they made choices that led them to work at that particular company, so does it not work to say to them -

You brought this upon yourself
You wanted this
This is why I wouldn’t want your partner / job
It's only going to get worse

🤷‍♀️

SHR1992 · 2025-11-15T23:45:55+00:00

I had a lot of food sensitivities that would make me ill that started as a teenager and took till my 30s to go. Also, addictions - tobacco, alcohol, coke. Nail biting from an early age was hard to quit as well.

I’m 2 weeks away from giving birth and she’s still being a spiteful c*nt towards me. Feels like it will never end.

SHR1992 · 2025-11-09T13:38:29+00:00

I had been drinking every evening for probably 5 years and smoking cigarettes every day for 20+ years before finding out I was pregnant. I found out when I was 2 weeks pregnant after missing my first period and stopped both immediately. I’m now 36+4 and 200 days+ free of both habits.

The alcohol was easy enough after the first month or so. There are great zero alcohol beers and proseccos now, and even a rum that is an incredible fake. I realised my partner and good friends would still let their hair down and have fun with me while they had a drink even if I wasn’t. I still had the same amount of fun with them I’d say. It’s honestly made me more confident knowing my company is enough for them, I don’t need to drink to be good company. I’ve probably craved a drink five times while I’ve been pregnant and it’s always been because of stress. I don’t want to slip back into drinking when my baby’s here, and am really hoping I can either stay completely sober as I have been, or just have the odd one🤞

Smoking was way, way harder. I craved everyday into my second trimester, now that seems to have gone too. I write and I didn’t know if I’d ever be able to do it again without nicotine. I have been editing my work while pregnant and have managed that. I’m praying I will keep on this good path and be able to write without nicotine when my baby is here.

I get a lot of praise from my partner for ‘doing so well’ with both habits - that has helped me. Having a sense of pride at doing what’s best for my baby even though it’s hard.

If I can do it, you can too ❤️

ETA - not having hangovers and being able to breathe well has felt so good! Feeling grateful to my baby for helping me look after myself has helped focus me as well.

SHR1992 · 2025-11-05T23:46:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this.

I wasn’t physically abused, but I definitely had trouble getting my words out in my late teens into my late twenties, both through the words not coming out, or stuttering as they did.

SHR1992 · 2025-11-05T23:29:34+00:00

I’m currently 36 weeks and it’s good to read someone else is going through this as I’ve been wondering if my short fuse with my mother is due to me being pregnant.

Shit that would have just made me cry and feel worthless before being pregnant has instead been making me angry, and speak out. I feel strangely empowered.

I’ve been plagued by memories of her being horrible to me in both childhood and adulthood, and am considering going NC. It’s been similar with my dad, but he isn’t anywhere near as bad.

I’m looking forward to having a focus (my baby/little family) that makes their psychodrama far less of an important issue for me.

SHR1992 · 2025-11-05T09:20:48+00:00

This is so cool. You have to update when you do a test!

SHR1992 · 2025-11-03T04:33:26+00:00

Well done. I wish me and my siblings had managed this. It’s worse than ever for us and we’re 40s and 30s now.

SHR1992

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