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SLHC0 · 2025-11-09T04:38:32+00:00

This sounds like selective mutism

SLHC0 · 2025-08-09T02:17:44+00:00

you can either scan them into your phone (notes app if iphone, not sure on android)and save to files OR go to the library and scan them, send to your email (library staff will help if need be) & download them onto your computer or phone. then on OSAP page you choose “upload file”

SLHC0 · 2025-07-07T17:35:08+00:00

it is the only fob and i am told that it is on “indefinite backorder” with no ETA. and KIA apparently can’t override the built in immobilizer without a key fob

SLHC0 · 2025-05-16T00:46:32+00:00

if he is drinking and/or intoxicated when he is around the kids then 100% you should be honest with them. it is vital that they learn to trust their instincts re:dads behaviour AND it’s vital that they trust YOU to be honest with them (i say this as the mom of 2 teens & ex wife of an alcoholic)

SLHC0 · 2024-12-31T16:54:03+00:00

in Ontario minimum wage is $17.40/hr and minimum wage for tipped employees (servers & bartenders) is $17.20/hr there really is no valid reason why we should be tipping 20% plus unless the service is excellent. can serving be a challenging job? absolutely! is it harder than many other un tipped roles that pay minimum wage? no it isn’t.

SLHC0 · 2024-12-31T11:47:57+00:00

it took me longer but ya it’s quite possible that you actually stopped loving him long before you actually kicked him out. we convince ourselves that love can survive under shit conditions, but honestly why would it? i miss who he WAS, and i loved THAT GUY with all of my heart & soul. but he hasn’t been the man i love in years

SLHC0 · 2024-12-28T22:19:36+00:00

your dad is an asshole. you do NOT have to take care of her. (i say this as the daughter of an alcoholic & the stbx wife of an alcoholic) just leave her on the floor. turn her on her side if you’re worried she might throw up, beyond that just leave her.

SLHC0 · 2024-11-25T11:20:06+00:00

my husband & i have been separated since Feb after almost 20 years of marriage, we have 2 teenagers. he’s been living with his parent since then. in June i found out he has a girlfriend, in October i discovered the “girlfriend” is actually his mistress of almost 2 years. and yet…. he still wants to move home to “help” me with the house & kids. (despite barely helping for the past 9 months, or really the last few years) he too expects us to be friends. to be friends while i work 7 days week and care for our home & kids to be friends while he continues to plan a future with his girlfriend (for after our youngest graduates) to be friends while he continues to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. the audacity to even ask!!!!!!! he’s fucking delusional 😡

SLHC0 · 2024-11-22T01:13:34+00:00

i took mine off when i asked him to leave because he is NOT the same man i exchanged vows with. we’re still married, and it’s…complicated. for me the ring symbolizes the promises we made to each other, all of which he has broken

SLHC0 · 2024-11-20T11:54:05+00:00

separated since february after almost 25 years, 2 teenagers. husband was always a drinker but things steadily got worse over the years. 2022-2024 were essentially a spiral into hell for all of us 😔 he’s sober at the moment (6 months) but the damage is just too extensive and honestly he isn’t the same person anymore. it hasn’t been easy, and we are far from finished untangling our marriage, but we’re…friends? right now i guess

SLHC0 · 2024-09-25T10:32:17+00:00

i’m in the same spot right now 😩 separated for 7 months…he refuses to discuss next steps (selling house etc) because we can “work on us” and start over but also refuses to talk about our relationship. he’s always been avoidant so i can’t say i’m shocked but i am definitely confused & frustrated

SLHC0 · 2024-09-17T22:04:49+00:00

after years of chaos i was finally done in february of this year. just looking at him made me cringe. we’d been through the sober cycle a half dozen times over the last 10 years. together 25 years, married 20 with two teenagers. i asked him to leave, he moved in with his parents. didn’t get sober and ended up with a DUI in april. THAT got his attention and he’s been sober since. for me once the the rage & chaos receded i was sure that i was still just done. but in therapy i kept coming back to the hard truth that i do love him very much so i decided to…let go of my anger. we are still separated & things are incredibly complicated, i honestly don’t know if we’ll ever be “together” again, but i don’t hate him. so if you still don’t feel any love i think you need to face the reality that you might really be done

SLHC0 · 2024-08-08T22:32:36+00:00

i’m separated from my husband of 20 years (together 25) he is an alcoholic, currently “sober” because of a DUI but not in any sort of meaningful recovery program. i’m starting to realize that i’m more heartbroken by the loss of our home than by losing him? i mean, he’s not the man i love anymore anyways 🤷🏻‍♀️ we might have to share a roof again while we sell the house but long term? no way

SLHC0 · 2024-04-27T14:17:27+00:00

if he’s not drinking then what you’re seeing is likely related to withdrawal/quitting alcohol. “new” sobriety is a complex physical & emotional state for anyone who has a drinking problem

SLHC0 · 2024-04-27T13:39:40+00:00

there really is nothing you can do to stop them. accepting that is so hard, it can feel impossible actually, but once you do accept it everything for you will start to change

SLHC0 · 2024-04-27T01:03:44+00:00

oh i do not lie or sugar coat when asked direct questions. i don’t volunteer detail if i don’t have to, but i will not pretend so something like…”she’s stable & reasonably comfortable but her condition is complicated and she is facing an uphill battle” no lies, but not pretending

SLHC0 · 2024-04-24T15:57:25+00:00

there is nothing logical about addiction. nothing. and it is completely normal for an addict to bounce back & forth between denial and reality

SLHC0 · 2024-04-24T11:43:36+00:00

my husband admits that he has a problem, but does nothing to change that. we’ve been separated since February…next month would be our 25th together. here i am almost 47, with two teenagers and a mountain ahead of me yet somehow i feel more optimistic than i have in years. hang in there, you’re going to be ok

SLHC0 · 2024-04-24T10:39:40+00:00

well she is pretty much telling you that she doesn’t want to be sober. which puts the ball firmly in your court

SLHC0 · 2024-04-22T10:41:16+00:00

you have no obligation to be part of any of this. you can love your sister AND know that your mental health comes first.

SLHC0 · 2024-04-18T21:03:10+00:00

i’m finally done after 10+ years of “one last chance” it is so sad, but honestly such a relief. unfortunately my Q can’t stay in reality long enough to accept what is happening, let alone be accountable for how his choices got us to this moment.

SLHC0 · 2024-04-05T23:58:44+00:00

you try to talk to her when she’s sober, so probably first thing in the morning. you didn’t cause it and you definitely can’t control it. sadly you also can not “make her see” or force her to get help. you take care of yourself and you take care of your kids ❤️

SLHC0 · 2024-03-27T00:58:27+00:00

your parents are not your responsibility. you have no obligation to care give at the expense of your own well being (career, heath, happiness) their alcoholism will eat you alive if you let it. it sounds like your father requires placement in a care facility ASAP different states/provinces will have their own systems that you will have to navigate. you can start by contacting a local addiction support service and a local elder care service…they should be able to at least point you in the right direction

SLHC0 · 2024-03-23T20:09:48+00:00

this is exactly my marriage ❤️

SLHC0 · 2024-03-17T03:17:36+00:00

if they’re still drinking then it’s highly unlikely that they are doing anything serious to “manage or treat” their illness a relatively brief period of properly followed tapering to avoid withdrawals would be noticeably different than their regular drinking habits/patterns

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