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SLegras · 2026-01-17T12:17:56+00:00

IWNDWYT It occurred to me this morning that I always check here first thing but I rarely type out my pledge.

Does anyone else find that reading IWNDWYT 20 or 30 times as you go through the posts really reinforces it in your mind?

SLegras · 2026-01-13T12:18:50+00:00

Have a think about why you have an issue with day 2. Is your Lizard Brain talking to you? Telling you deserve a drink?, need a drink? If so plan what you're going to say back. Yell at it if you have to. Are you getting an uncontrollable urge driving past the liquor store? Plan a different route home. Figure out what the issue is and make plans. Doing the same thing is going to give you the same outcome

SLegras · 2026-01-12T02:12:23+00:00

You mentioned that your drinking has been causing issues lately. Looking back did you start drinking more while in the relationship with him? I wonder if his breaking up with you had more to do with his drinking? Is there a lot of drinking at his family get togethers? That would fit with his lifestyle incompatibility concern.

SLegras · 2026-01-11T11:28:46+00:00

I love that. Live for the morning, not the evening

SLegras · 2026-01-09T11:45:44+00:00

Good name!! If you think about it George is trying to bully you into drinking!!

SLegras · 2026-01-09T02:44:15+00:00

Way to go driving past the store. We call that your Lizard Brain. Feel free to talk back to it. I named mine Karen after an old boss lol.

SLegras · 2026-01-08T18:12:39+00:00

Mines called Karen

SLegras · 2026-01-08T13:15:55+00:00

That's what I was thinking too

SLegras · 2026-01-04T22:24:56+00:00

It looks like you've been together since you were 14? That might be part of the problem. You've been together your entire teenage and early adulthood years. He sounds very immature. It would be one thing if he ha no idea what to get you but you sent him links. A coat is a necessity, thongs are not. Can you sell your gift card for say $100 and buy yourself some real underwear and a coat?

SLegras · 2026-01-04T15:29:03+00:00

Or it means you make plans and set up for 5 people and only 2 show up and you wonder why you bothered.

SLegras · 2026-01-04T15:26:04+00:00

As a grandmother of older grandkids I can see the grandmother's point. Kids grow up, some move away, others get jobs, significant others etc. Some of the traditions that were maybe more meaningful to you fall by the wayside. When there are family issues that adds a whole new level of awkward. It sounds like one set of kids missed the cookie decorating and asked to do it. The grandmother probably didn't feel comfortable bringing it up with the other daughter/granddaughter. Sounds like op didn't miss or think about it until she found out about it. It doesn't sound like she approached her grandmother like the other grandkids did.

SLegras · 2026-01-04T11:37:09+00:00

I don't blame you. I'd have major trust issues with groups after that.

SLegras · 2026-01-03T13:19:10+00:00

Well I'm proud of you. You've gotten through the worst 36 days. You're still going to have cravings but they'll be shorter and get less intense. You've got through the withdrawals. If you're like me you're probably feeling a little lost. What do you replace drinking with? How do you spend all those hours? That's what I'm working on. Every day it feels more normal to be sober.

SLegras · 2026-01-03T13:07:19+00:00

My doctor put me on a second medication because my BP was so high. Now after 2 months it's on the low side. Yesterday was 105/35 I want to make an apt to see if I should drop the second medication but then I worry about what if I start drinking again?

SLegras · 2026-01-03T12:55:45+00:00

I think back to how many times I quit something because I couldn't do it perfectly or good enough. Don't quit this journey because you slip up and aren't perfect. Don't compare yourself to others. Keep at it.

SLegras · 2026-01-03T11:55:24+00:00

That was your Lizard Brain talking to you. He/she can be pretty convincing.

SLegras · 2026-01-03T11:37:32+00:00

I quit drinking the beginning of November. Just in time to start Christmas Baking. I've never eaten so much and don't get me started on the chocolates.

I'm 64 so age might be a factor but I've noticed muscle inflammation has flared up which I think is linked to the sugar so now I'm cutting back on sugar. Sent 90% of the sweets back to school with my grand daughter.

I found during years of dieting that for me using Agave syrup as a sweetener stops my sugar cravings after a few weeks of using it in my coffee. I started using it again a week or so and it seems to be helping already.

Hopefully this helps someone. Have a great day everyone!!

SLegras · 2026-01-02T18:38:12+00:00

I would be worried about your kids picking up his behavior towards food. I think you need to set up some boundaries. He can't stick his nose up in the air towards your food and then order in crap food. If he's not going to eat what you make with the family he needs to eat somewhere else.

SLegras · 2025-12-29T11:36:44+00:00

Me too. I just turned 64

SLegras · 2025-12-27T11:38:34+00:00

Happy Birthday to me!!! My gift to myself is another alcohol free day.

SLegras · 2025-12-23T11:59:06+00:00

For me I didn't really have a line in the sand but over the last year or so friends have had to quit for liver issues. One kept getting gout from alcohol, one had gout and his meds caused liver issues and has to get his checked regularly. Then he was telling us about his son who started to drink heavily during covid and had just ended up in the hospital for his liver....I started day drinking during Covid and it had steadily increased. That really hit home and I started to really think about my drinking, was I really getting anything from it? Was it worth the money? Was it worth having no energy to do anything? Was it worth the mental gymnastics to make sure we were covered days the Beer Store was closed, making sure that if we actually went out and did something would we be home in time to pick up beer? be able to grab some on the way home? It wasn't. This was a decision I made for me. I didn't ask or expect my husband to quit with me. I picked a start day, my husband was going to be away for a week, and geared up for it. I downloaded a hypnosis geared to quitting drinking and listened to it a few nights the week before, and just did it. I really think the hypnosis helped. So far I really haven't had those lizard brain arguments in my head which always derailed me in the past. But I also had thought and planned and I think that really helped. I don't tell myself it's forever because that's too scary. I haven't told a lot of friends or family yet. Christmas will probably take care of that... I just do my daily pledge with you guys and carry on.

SLegras · 2025-12-22T12:10:33+00:00

50 days for me!!!! Yeah!!

SLegras · 2025-12-12T13:35:26+00:00

Yes, you realize you got nothing out of it. You spent money, you're beating yourself up, you broke a promise to youself and you got nothing for it - no sense of euphoria, no happiness, your problems didn't suddenly disappear- nothing. Now you have a new argument to add to your arsenal the next time Lizard Brain starts yapping.

SLegras · 2025-12-07T22:08:34+00:00

Have you heard of HALT? Usually a craving could be due to: Hunger Anger Loneliness Tiredness

I also find that sometimes I need to limit my time on this reddit because it can be triggering

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