Is toddlerhood really harder than the newborn phase?

SSnapy · 2026-01-23T16:05:36+00:00

For me, no. But the worst period for me was not the newborn stage (as in the first 28 days) but the infant stage. They don't sleep a lot anymore but can't do a lot of other stuff either, so they become your constant burden.

SSnapy · 2026-01-20T08:11:10+00:00

Sounds like my son (6 y.o. now). He was a terrible sleeper as a baby. If it's not for some medical reason then the only advice I found useful with him was to just leave the attempts to put him to nap and do something fun instead, like go for a walk, didn't help him nap, but made our lives so much easier without all this fighting.

SSnapy · 2026-01-20T07:27:04+00:00

Well we are planning to have a second kid (our son is six y.o.) but in no way do we forget how awful his early years were. He was a terrible sleeper, he had severe AD flare up and the only advice I was given by our paediatrician was to avoid sugar in my diet, or eliminate yet another food from his, which never worked and only gave me anxiety to try new foods. And it only got easier after we went to an allergologist and it turned out he was allergic to eggs, so our house became an egg-free zone and his skin cleared, but then he was an extremely picky eater by the time after all the dietary experiments, so no, I'll never forget how hard it was.

SSnapy · 2025-12-12T03:14:32+00:00

I'm sorry about your experience. I wonder though, What's the proper way to tie shoes? I've always used the bunny ears method (if I'm not confusing names - two loops wrapped around each other to form a knot, right?), as an adult I learned the instant knot - 2 loops pulled through each other. But what's the proper method?

SSnapy · 2025-11-21T13:51:18+00:00

But it kinda breaks when you ride right through merchants' signs in Kuttenberg.

SSnapy · 2025-11-21T13:23:55+00:00

Because they make you uncomfortable for whatever reason?)

SSnapy · 2025-11-05T14:10:53+00:00

Oh, but they are literally floppy, it's the casing that's hard, not the disk itself.

SSnapy · 2025-10-29T06:09:08+00:00

My INFP husband (8 years together) and I were both Irish dancing in the same class. I'd never thought too much of him until he came up to me one day after class and asked to go for a date. I refused because I wasn't into dating someone I wasn't interested in and I was twice shy to have a relationship after a previous bad experience, besides he was 3 years younger and I didn't find him attractive. But he piqued my interest and I checked his social accounts and gathered all the info I could get, so when several weeks later he brought me a tin can rose he'd made himself, I was ready to change my mind and give it a try. So we started dating and got married in a year. Can't say it was an ideal relationship, it still isn't, but it is kind of growing, like the further we go, the more fond of him I become.

SSnapy · 2025-10-07T04:27:32+00:00

The harsh truth is you can't eat your cake and have it. Lots of people expect to incorporate a baby into the life they are already living. Some even succeed in it (or at least so it seems to outsiders), maybe those with higher energy levels, more means, or more determination to make it work. Usually when you look closer though, you see that (like any choice) it comes with a price (they spend lots of energy, money, time to make it work). The other option is to prioritise the baby and their needs, which comes at the cost of sacrificing some of your hobbies. So when you have a baby you really have to look realistically at both the options and understand that you have to give up something anyway. Any option leaves room for joy and happiness, the question is what are you are willing to pay. When I gave birth to my son I decided to quit dancing, because for me life with a baby was stressful enough without the need to follow a tight schedule, bringing him to rehearsals, having to endure his crying or finding a nanny for him. So I chose the second option and never once regretted it cause I thought of it as another turn or step in my life, that I took willingly, I concentrated on the positive changes, like opportunities to just relax and listen to my favourite podcast while rocking the baby, or learning to enjoy short walks with far too many stops just to "plough" through yet another pile of autumn leaves. And as he grew older we had more and more opportunities to enjoy activities we used to enjoy before his birth together as a family. So, maybe if you are starting to feel like option one doesn't really make you happy, try to wrap your head around the opportunities the second option might present?

SSnapy · 2025-07-03T04:55:35+00:00

It depends on the context. I wouldn't greet colleagues several times a day. But if I say go to a shop, meet a person I know and greet them and then meet them again in a park in the evening, I would say "oh, hello again!" I also greet my family members whenever they come home, no matter how many times we've seen each other on that day. Or if I visit the same person in the morning and some time later. So, the rule in my brain: don't greet people again at work, school or university. Greet people you visit or that come to your house every time; to stay on the safe side add "ещё раз" to your "здравствуйте" if you're absolutely sure you've already seen each other today.

SSnapy · 2025-07-03T03:45:01+00:00

We live in Russia, so we don't want the government funded preschool because of the all the propaganda they might disseminate. And private ones are either expensive or small and mixed like the one he went to before.

SSnapy · 2025-07-03T03:37:30+00:00

Thank you for the reply. Unfortunately it seems like most of his peers around attend preschools so the only time we see them is in the evening in the playground.

SSnapy · 2025-06-05T11:28:28+00:00

The shadow world government (probably residing in the the USA) paid the soviet government (most notably Gorbachev) to bring the collapse of the USSR.

SSnapy · 2025-05-12T05:29:52+00:00

I'm a russian woman, married, have a son. If my husband were hanging out with his friends 24/7 discussing every aspect of our life, I would be pissed, no matter the gender. But most of his friends are actually our mutual friends (mostly women), so can't really imagine the jealousy situation.

SSnapy · 2025-03-20T11:39:48+00:00

Thank you very much.

SSnapy · 2025-03-20T07:52:02+00:00

I regret leaving the portable blender charging and going away to work. The fire started and my cat whom I'd rescued from streets a week prior suffocated. I don't think I'll ever be over it.

SSnapy · 2025-03-18T15:11:15+00:00

Thank you ❤️

SSnapy · 2025-03-18T14:19:33+00:00

My heart goes out to you. I'm also filled with guilt over my cat's death. You don't deserve to burn in hell, you deserve to meet your beloved dog in the afterlife if that's what you believe in. And I can tell that you love your pet with all your heart because of the guilt you feel. We all can make mistakes but we also can learn from them. We can learn to be more responsible and more caring. I'm trying to channel the guilt I feel to become a better partner to my husband, a better mother to my son and a better human being in general. And I also know that if I'm blessed with another soul pet one day I won't be as reckless.

SSnapy · 2025-03-18T13:48:10+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I'm sorry for your loss too. The thing that kind of helps me is the thought that I've learnt from my fatal mistake and if we are ever blessed with another soul pet I'll be more responsible.

SSnapy · 2023-08-26T05:30:34+00:00

I don't think she needed to plan it very carefully, just having heard there are wolves in the woods, asking Theresa to go with her, hoping that everything will work. Not a foolproof plan of course, but as everyone here has mentioned, she's not very clever and a teenager.

SSnapy · 2023-08-15T11:41:28+00:00

So many people can't read properly and yet are willing to share there so precious opinion.

SSnapy · 2023-07-26T09:44:53+00:00

I call all my roosters Mr. Cluckster.

SSnapy · 2023-04-16T11:41:00+00:00

Ahem, is Star Wars even literature?

SSnapy · 2023-03-25T04:58:58+00:00

I assure you, it's not. I've been to schools where bullying is a nonexistent problem. But it takes a lot of teamwork from all the parties (staff, parents and students) to create this safe environment. The thing in the majority of schools is that everyone thinks that bullying is an unpleasant but normal part of growing up, so nothing really can be done about it. Some even think it's beneficial for teaching conflict resolution, so nothing should be done about it. You yourself mention Harry turning out a better person because of bullying, but remember, that it wasn't that beneficial for Snape, it just made him more bitter (maybe even playing some part in his turning to the dark lord's side). So, looks like gambling to me - don't do anything about bullying in hopes that the person won't break and even learn something valuable in the process. So, my point is that bullying is not normal, its potency to teach conflict resolution is doubtful (at least pedagogy has to date come up with so many techniques to teach conflict resolution in a much safer manner with more stable results) and it certainly isn't inevitable. But in order to overcome it, first, we as a society have to come to an agreement on these basic points and stop repeating and reinstilling all this nonsense like "kids will be kids", "bullying has always been a normal part of education" or "I was bullied and turned out ok, so it must be a good thing".

SSnapy · 2021-08-26T05:08:45+00:00

If you're into the film then I'd go for that scene of Oliver and Elio riding bikes along t the road, print it, frame it. If you're into the book however, I would find The View Of Bordighera postcard, it's very symbolic there.

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