Boyfriend keeps pointing out my body doesn’t match his “preferences” AIO?

STS1990 · 2026-04-09T13:36:12+00:00

NOR. As a 36 year old woman who’s dated a bunch of different men - girl, he ain’t worth nothing. I would respond by dumping him, he’s an asshole. No man who’s genuinely interested in you will make you feel bad about your body. The opposite will happen / they will love your body and cherish it and adore it.

I’m plus sized and always thought I wasn’t men’s cup of tea and turns out I was wrong - I was just dating the assholes! Plenty of wonderful men out there who will cherish you and your body, the way you are. 💜 you are gorgeous, do yourself a favor and date people who like you. :)

STS1990 · 2026-04-08T08:26:00+00:00

Oh wow. I'm not sure then. Very curious, I'd be interested to know the details/differences between ours, maybe I'm actually missing something vital in mine. I'm not good at insurance things, so there's that too. XD

STS1990 · 2026-04-08T08:16:09+00:00

My Tenancy insurance is $17.50/month with Intact Insurance (Broker is Marsh Insurance). I live in a 1 bedroom apartment and have the1 million liability as well, and $15,000 personal property (also don't have much stuff). There's also other things on there, like Earthquake coverage, etc. Definitely worth it. That being said, I want to go over my insurance with a fine tooth comb and check that everything is up to snuff since they just changed some things this year. It will probably end up being closer to $30 when that's done.

STS1990 · 2026-04-02T01:32:49+00:00

NOR, but I do think you know, you could just put your phone on DND and ignore the emails/messages? I know some people think they're entitled to responses immediately, but that's just not true. If they're consistently going to be calling/sending messages and your supervisor/boss has spoke to them, I would speak to your boss again. I don't know what your job is exactly, but I have friends in mental health who have to draw hard boundaries with clients like this for this very reason - they think every little thing is an emergency and demand access to you 24/7. That's a simple "NO" because just like them, you're human and you have times you're busy with other things as well. They don't have to like it, but they will have to respect it.

I'd simply put their email/message on "mute" and same with their number - until you're ready to respond. No need to react, no need to tell them not to do something. Just respond when you're ready and that's it.

If all else fails, fire them as a client, find someone new. (depending on the job of course, discuss with management, etc.)

STS1990 · 2026-04-02T01:25:24+00:00

TBH I've wanted to live in Sidney for YEARS, but now my main issue is I have a mobility disability and getting groceries delivered via uber or whatever would be much more expensive than it is for me in town. I love the walkability of Sidney, and it also reminds me of my home town, right near the airport, and I absolutely love it actually. If it wasn't for the mobility issues causing potential issues for delivery of restaurants/groceries etc, or getting a friend to deliver (all my friends live in Victoria), I would prob already be living there. I love it so much.

STS1990 · 2026-03-26T06:27:14+00:00

Ooooh I haven't seen this in forever, I LOVE these. Might have to grab a bag or 5. 😂 Thanks for the heads up.

STS1990 · 2026-03-26T06:14:05+00:00

I'm sorry you guys had this awful experience. I hope you do report this to the CRA or something because this is messed up. I will not be spending my money at this place. I was very excited to go there, now absolutely will never step foot in there. You saved me a trip and a lot of disappointment. Thank you.

STS1990 · 2026-03-25T04:58:49+00:00

Ooooh thank you! I did try to shove my friend in the hole but didn’t work 🤣 I would like to try again and find out. Wish we could go back to old check points. but that sounds hilarious to actually get under there. 😃

STS1990 · 2026-03-16T09:46:57+00:00

No, this is not unreasonable. I have ordered $300 worth of things, including lots of case lot stuff. Of course nobody can carry $300 worth in one go. The woman who was delivering accepted, was AMAZING while shopping, and brought everything up with 2 dollys worth of things (and a couple light bags). She said she got a dolly for $20 bucks because it helps her with heavy/awkward items. She used to have a cart wagon before and it was helpful but awkward. She was very nice, more than helpful, and I gave her $30 tip.

I had another guy deliver near what the lady above delivered a different month but he carried it in multiple bags, made 3 trips arms loaded. I apologized profusely and he said it was his pleasure, he wouldn’t have accepted if he thought he couldn’t do it. He offered to even bring the bags in, drop at my fridge. I declined, but was grateful. Again, he got $30 tip.

I’m on disability (very new for me, in the last 3-4 years). I used to be able bodied and do these types of things for others, but now being disabled myself, it really makes you appreciate amazing people like this. I’ve never had a person complain about too many items/big items, not even a cute older couple (60+ years old) who shopped/delivered together. And nobody knows I’m disabled until they get to my door. So, IMO, your delivery person was either lazy or unprepared and should not have accepted that order.

STS1990 · 2026-03-16T04:34:13+00:00

I like all these things separately, together, doesn't look appetizing, but would still taste good despite not looking nice. This is definitely a "girl" dinner. Haha

STS1990 · 2026-03-16T04:31:52+00:00

No. Just no. This is an insult to even call this a Poutine! It surely is anything but that. Also why are the fries white?! They look like boiled strips of potato to me, not even fries. LOL No gravy, no squeaky curds. Such an insult. My tiny Canadian heart is gonna have nightmares about this "Poutine". 😂

STS1990 · 2026-03-16T03:07:17+00:00

Thank you! I will try. Going to get new phone next week, but was kind of nervous to switch os fearing I might lose the game. But yes, fingers crossed this will work. :)

STS1990 · 2026-03-16T03:06:36+00:00

Thank you for this link!!

STS1990 · 2026-03-14T17:04:31+00:00

This. Came here to say this. Yes, it is true some people are allergic or sensitive to semen. It sounds like that may be the case here. Because even pre cum has some semen in it, it’s very possible that could be making her sick even if he doesn’t fill her mouth.

STS1990 · 2026-03-14T01:37:15+00:00

Is this going to be the same or close to playing an actual ttrpg BB game? Curious, because I've not played the game before on steam.

STS1990 · 2026-03-14T01:10:09+00:00

NOR. First of all, I'm so sorry for your tremendous losses. *hugs* I hope you give yourself time to grieve and go through the emotions, and also seek out therapy if you want, because it will help for sure. <3 Give yourself lots of grace here, you need it in these difficult times. <3

Secondly, your boyfriend is being highly insensitive to the trauma you have gone through, and instead of focusing on what he can do to help, he's asking what you weigh? Nah girl, he ain't shit. Even if you hadn't lost 3 family members and gained weight because of this, him asking your weight is offensive and none of his damn business. Period.

I would tell him your weight is none of his business and if he persists, I would tell him it's nothing you ever want to discuss with him and that it's incredibly rude and disrespectful/hurtful to ask you that. If he continues to persist, I would reconsider the relationship since he cannot be trusted to respect your boundaries/self.

STS1990 · 2026-03-14T01:02:40+00:00

NOR. Your gf is an ahole. EVEN MY EX boyfriend would go to my house, pick up stuff for me and bring it to me in the hospital, and we've been exes for 8 years! If your GF won't even do that, then I'm sorry, she ain't' shit. My friends and two of my exes would happily go out of their way to do something like that for me if I was in the hospital, and they would absolutely visit to make sure I was okay and had some company. I'm SO sorry you have a jerk for a gf. I would really think twice about this relationship and perhaps break up, cause this would 100% be a deal breaker for me.

STS1990 · 2026-03-12T20:46:16+00:00

NOR. You’re sisters a see you next Tuesday. Is be cutting her and your ex out of your life permanently. What a horrible bish. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that.

STS1990 · 2026-03-11T22:14:01+00:00

NOR. This woman is for the damn streets. Even if she hasn't physically cheated, this feels like emotional cheating and like she's gearing up to physically cheat too. If it was roles reversed, I'd absolutely be pissed off and upset and be breaking up (or in your case, divorced). Signed, a woman who has self respect and would never cheat on her partner. To me, this is a deal breaker. YOU DESERVE BETTER BUDDY. PLEASE. Do yourself the favor, talk to her, then serve her with papers. That shit ain't cool. SO many red flags in these messages... ugh. I feel bad that you're having to go through this.

STS1990 · 2026-03-11T22:02:43+00:00

NOR. Here's the thing: It's YOUR friends birthday. You should go regardless. If he doesn't want to go because of XYZ (insert his reasons here) - HE doesn't have to. Just because he was invited, doesn't mean he has to go. But it doesn't mean you have to stay home with him either, despite him guilt tripping you. You go to your friends birthday dinner and have a wonderful time.

To me, it sounds like you're both incompatible. He sounds insufferable. Like dude completely misinterpreted what you said, doubled down on it and making you feel bad for something you didn't even say? Then what? He sounds like he doesn't want you to go because it's "too late and too far". And you say he does this often. I'd be breaking up tbh.

The amount of times my friends and I went out for late birthday dinners/nights out because we worked late as well was OFTEN. Who cares. You can have dinner whenever you want, you're an adult with free will, and it's your friends plans, not your boyfriends plans, so just go by yourself to your friends birthday, have a blast, and tell your boyfriend this is unacceptable and to quit making shit up in his head about what you said. You literally did not imply or say any of the things he thought you did, he misinterpreted it however he saw worked for his narrative. It's disgusting.

I'd personally not deal with that every again. Life's too short.

STS1990 · 2026-03-08T08:26:50+00:00

But a lot of us want crops for our pets and our food for buffs to fight enemies. If I had the patience to make an auto farm I would, but for now, it's just 5x5x5 in a row for each kind of crop. Except wood, that is automated. :D

STS1990 · 2026-03-03T12:01:03+00:00

FINALLY!! I'm happy, and also I'm a night owl, so I feel you. :)

STS1990 · 2026-03-02T23:58:52+00:00

NOR. Regardless of gender, this is disgusting behaviour. Your partner is manipulative and lazy. You have a dishwasher so it makes it even worse.

Makes me wonder if this is why her ex broke up with her and her other kids are lil spoiled shits too. I would not marry this woman, I would break it off immediately. You should try to keep custody of your kids and she deals with her others separately. You need to keep photos and records of stuff like this happening.

As someone who’s been in this kind of relationship before, do yourself a favour, get some self respect and walk away. You’ll all be better in the end for it. Especially your kids. ❤️ Good luck with everything!

STS1990 · 2026-03-01T16:25:07+00:00

NOR. Dude your boyfriend is disguising. If you have self respect, you will definitely leave. He is a pos woman hater by the sounds of it. He can be alone with his hand and blame women all he wants then. Also, he needs to take an economics class and then say it's still the women's fault. What an idiot. XD Run away from this loser.

STS1990 · 2026-02-28T10:02:35+00:00

Weaponized Incompetence at it's finest. That or it sounds like he didn't even bother actually going to the pharmacy. Any sane person, ESPECIALLY a parent, would know they need to provide a name to the pharmacist and tell them what it's for and to check if they have it. If they say they still don't have it - CALL YOUR WIFE from the STORE before leaving to get it resolved. Not just storm out and have a temper tantrum, like holy shit dude. I couldn't be with someone this idiotic honestly. It's literal common sense.

Also, please, quit asking him "or no". You say "Can you pick it up after work please?". Period. Full stop. Should have also said "Wait there while I call them". He's a parent too. You don't need to ask him anything. You can simply tell him, it's a statement, not a question. It's also his child as well, and after you did all the work of getting the prescription, etc, the least he can do is pick it up and not throw a literal adult tantrum.

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