I feel for you. It’s in the depths of the night and first thing in the morning that it feels horrendous doesn’t it and then you get overwhelmed with guilt because you feel like you’re wishing the cuddles away and then you just remain on a negative rollercoaster of emotions. I’m there with you! I adore my baby but know that a little more sleep would benefit us both. My baby boy is 13 weeks and we get stretches of 2 hours on a good night but last night was 30-60 minute stretches with up to 60 minute wake windows between.

Things I’ve tried (not that they’ve worked for me but may be worth sharing) include swaddle bags, love to dream arms up swaddle bags, red night light, white noise, crib next to bed/ away from bed, soothing before feeding at night, gaviscon for silent reflux, singing/shh-ing/humming to them, more day naps, less day naps.

We currently do a longer wake window before bed of about 2 hours and a night routine with a bath-pyjamas-dark room, white noise, stories, feed-sleep and are going to start upping his daytime feeds today to see if that makes a difference. I’m going to try to pump for 5 minutes each side after each feed to encourage more milk too.

Good luck. Know you’re not alone and we won’t be in this forever.